Donza Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 I cant believe i begged her. I wish i had just left it at NC... talking about/blaming the breakup on my depression, self-esteem issues etc now makes me feel as though i was weak. To be honest i suffer from neither. I have just had a very hard time for the most of the year. Parents falling gravely ill etc. But NC for three months now. I am damn proud of myself. Her last text was wishing me a happy bday. Kinda pointless....
marty Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 im sure we've all been there. i know i have. your heart rules your head sometimes and you do somethings you know you really shouldnt. dont beat yourself up. at least it shows you care, and that you have a heart...... and the next time..... you maybe will do things a little differently. one big thing i've learned from my recent heartache is never to act on pure emotion. never!!!. please dont be too hard on yourself. your only human.
Reactor Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 I've been there. Let my heart over rule my brain. Like you I contacted her after going no contact, she didn't even reply...so I guess in a way I got my answer. Also like you when I was with my ex I was going through a tough time (not quite as tough as you) and wasn't really myself, needless to say I still occasionally blame myself, but really, if that person had of understood and wanted to be with me they would've seen I was having problems (without me needing to tell them constantly) and would've tried to help me through it. Don't blame yourself, she obviously thinks there is a better relationship for her out there somewhere. If thats the case, let her go and move on yourself, write down her problems and what she did wrong and say that to yourself everytime you think of her! Also, go out with friends, and if you want to meet new women, nothing boosts a mans ego like getting a girls number or even more. Finally relax, its only yourself holding you back, let go of all notions of her and what she meant to you, shes no longer in your life. I find actually storing a little bit of anger for that person makes sure that when you think about them you feel that little bit of anger and nothing more, try that, if you can! Trust me when I say, the pain will go away, slowly but surely! And, at least your ex sent you a text for your birthday, mine couldn't even be arsed to do that! xD But anyway, joking aside, it will get better! I recommend you concentrate on something else such as, work, school/college/uni, meeting new people, developing new hobbies, etc! Regards, Reactor
Diplok Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Today is my 1 month anniversary of getting dumped by a chick who swore she loved me and was going to marry me. This person hasn't bothered to call me or anything. I am so angry at myself for having cried and begged her for a second chance when I did nothing wrong. The hell with her, I am better off alone than with a heartless bitch.
Curious139 Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Today is my 1 month anniversary of getting dumped by a chick who swore she loved me and was going to marry me. This person hasn't bothered to call me or anything. I am so angry at myself for having cried and begged her for a second chance when I did nothing wrong. The hell with her, I am better off alone than with a heartless bitch. Yes you are better off. Remember this anger you feel, and remind yourself of it when you think about her. It is healthy. The only word of caution is not to let the anger stay with you, let it slide away. After all, she is human and fallible. Maybe she doesn't know any other way to handle it. Still very hard on you.
marty Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 i'm still finding the 'anger' thing helping me a little tbh. due to friends near and far, i've unwillingly found out alot more about my ex. things that you cant see when your so in love. but now,,,, its a little scary what she is actually like when you seen things clearly. im more angry at myself for falling for it,, AND askin her back 2 times. i dont hate her, but all i think of now when i think of her is the mess that she is and the way she used that in a clever way to sap all that you are. reminding myself of that, which in turn makes me a little angry, (just a little), reinforces the feeling that i'm glad its all over. almost 7 weeks for me now,,, its getting easier ,,,
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