pinkeywear Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 So I've been dating this guy I've had a crush on ever since my freshman year of high school (I'm now a sophomore in college) over the summer and received very mixed signals from him while we dated. He left for a college that's 4 hours away last week, and last night he called me and we talked and he asked me if I wanted to go to Japan with him during Christmas break. And then after we hung up, he texted me saying "hey. just wanted to let you know that it was fun being around you this summer. i might not have been as responsive as i should have but that was because i was trying to avoid getting into a relationship. i dunno if the feelings were mutual, but you did attract me quite a bit. it was the going off to school that really held me back. so yeah. i'll see you when i see you. you're welcome to visit me anytime." OMG I was so relieved when he sent me that txt msg. Now I finally know the reason behind his mixed signals But do you guys think he's open to starting a LDR with me? Because if he hesitated about getting into a relationship because he was going to school... that probably means that he doesn't think LDRs are such a great idea. Yet he asked me to go to Japan with him and says that he'll visit me whenever he comes down here again, and that I can visit him whenever. What do you guys think?
Lyssa Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 You can probably tell from his reply to yours... back and forth... Can you handle a LDR? I know you might not want to but the only way you can know is to ask or maybe see how things go in a few weeks..
Author pinkeywear Posted September 2, 2007 Author Posted September 2, 2007 What did you reply to his sms? I havnt replied yet
ftheunion Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 It's ok to stay in touch, but cave men and women couples probably didn't stay in a relationship if he moved to a cave way far away. Get what I mean? Theres no touch and biology chemicals to keep those stimuli and response. But when you talk to a person you are attracted to, that feeling can last for up to 7 years (biologically speaking) Anyway, they say long distance relationships don't seem to stay strong or last, because evolution deosn't act on the internet or phone, or even postal mail. The distance just makes your mind clear from everything you leave behind. I wouldn't know how to proceed, and hope I would never be in this situation. If I moved away, I would probably ask her to come with, but If she can't just go along or has no desire with me I would follow my life and move on. It just isn't comfortable for me to stay in one place, but I've been single for a long time, so I have no ties, no reasons to stay. I'm kinda in a drifter state of mind. Good luck.
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