sadandhurt Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 i did a bad thing. While trying to support our family and allow my wife to stay at home this happend. you can read what i did in the Marriage Builders "Why women leave men" --------------------------------------------------------------------- [FONT=Arial]"I hurt all the time because I feel alone and abandoned." [/FONT] "My husband is no longer my friend." "The only time he pays attention to me is when he wants sex." "He is never there for me when I need him the most." "When he hurts my feelings he doesn't apologize." "He lives his life as if we weren't married; he rarely considers me." "We're like ships passing in the night, he goes his way and I go mine." "My husband has become a stranger to me, I don't even know who he is anymore." "He doesn't show any interest in me or what I do." ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Now when i noticed what was happening to my wife i made a complete change but it was too late. She started having an emotional afair with another man but he was just trying to be a friend. everyday this afaire went on she got more distant and selfish. She went to him instead of me to work on the issues and now she doesnt want to be my wife. we have a 2 year old and a 5 year old and she doesnt seem upset at all about breaking up the family and doesnt want to work on it. She is all about her now. We are having a trial seperation to see if there is anything to even work on with our new theropist. we have been together for 13 years without any councling. I am 150% dedicated to her and the family. To all you women out there do you have any advice for me to try to salvage our family? I am a good man and see the errors of what happend.
myluck35 Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 Find some time so the 2 of you can sit down without interruptions and talk. Tell her and listen to her, I think thats the key. We all want to feel like we are understood. It may not be resolved the first time you talk but continue talking with her. Show your concern and desire to make this marriage work. This may win her over.
Author sadandhurt Posted September 2, 2007 Author Posted September 2, 2007 I have been there 150% since this has been going on. i knew something was going on but she denied it. it wasnt until i caught her and comfronted her in theropy that she started to come clean. she says the marriage is over not because of the other guy but the way i made her feel before. but when this started we were working on it and it was there. but she didnt break it off and things got from bad to worse. now she doenst even seem to care about her kids the way she did (or anything else in her life) and just wants to move out and be on her own. she has a very good life now and everything is coming down. could the guilt of what was going on make her feel so bad she just doenst want to deal with it?
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