The better half

[mopar crazy]

I just answer in another thread and I deciede to write my own thread with this knew thought.

Why I like being the other woman? It has it ups and downs like any relationship but here are my reasons....

By the way all OW are invited to post their reasons too.

 

 

I don't have to wash his clothes and clean after him

I don't have to deal with his moods

I get him clean, nice, fed and he is missing me so much that he gives me ALL the attention.

 

She can deal with the rest, I have been married and I am not looking forward to have to take care of another man.

 

I know he loves me the most, he cares for her ,but I am the one he calls 12 times a day.[/B]He will call me first to ask for any decision , even decisions that concern both of them.

I am the one he longs for.

I am the one he is happy with.

He dosen't lie to me.

And I am stay for the long haul!!

 

I my have half man ,but I sure have the better half!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

At least we know where he is and what he is doing. His wife dosen't.

 

 

Ok, ? for ya. Do you love this man?

[bunset]

sil,

 

This sounds sensible and rational. I have just about reached that stage in M.

If H wants an OW, fine, I just don't want him bringing home any nasty stuff.

I would feel free to blow off his name-calling and abusive speeches.

If an OW gives him an ego boost, then he probably wouldn't be so nasty to me.

From the point of an OW, I could use just such an outlet. Again, certain emotional needs would be filled by the MM, and I wouldn't be burdened with his everyday gripes and drudgery.

We could be totally free to enjoy the fantasy that an A can be. We could learn how not to bee too needy and dependent on either partner!

 

I'm not neccessarily promoting a poly lifestyle, because the two R would be totally separate.

 

Again, such a scenario would serve to extend the fantasy and romance of an A.

 

This is a fascinating point of view.

[scaredinlove]

Ok, ? for ya. Do you love this man?

 

Of course I do love him.

[lovernotafighter]

he dosen't make love to her,only if I give permission. Wich I do sometimes. I know it is thru because i heard it from her mouth that he refuses to have sex with her.

Do you really believe that? So what would you do if he decided to have sex with his wife without your permission? What a joke.

 

did you just answer your own question? what are you a split personality like that peace love chick?

 

Like I said before he is jusy=t there for the money and because he thinks he cannot cope. She is not very strong. Again I heard that from him and from her too.

So my guess is the wife makes the money and he is to selfish to let this woman find a decent man.

 

she did say that the husband feared for his wife's ablity to cope with the reality of the situation.

 

do just read what you want to read because it suits your crap post?

 

He never lied too me, we talked about him leaving and there was a time he said he would, but later we realised that would be a disaster for everybody.

Oh please he is probably lying to you everyday,just like his wife.

 

interesting this bothers you? how is what she said a lie from her MM when she clearly states "we realised that would be a disaster for everybody"

 

we means more than one person but since you are many I can see how you missed that, but so you know most people in life use 'we' in plural people, k? got it? let me move on.

 

I guess we are both lucky, I make no demands on him and he makes no demands on me. We are open and in love.

This guy has it made and definatly needs a reality check.

 

why? again what is your problem with her situation, she sounds happy. I really want to know about the bug that went up your ass and died.

 

And we had a lot of drama and fights too. We have been toghter 5yrs going on 6yrs.

So how come he hasn't divorced yet if your the love of his life?

 

wow you just don't wrap your brain around anything do you?

 

you just bold texted the exact answers your asking, I can't believe you are old eough to be here, I am reporting you, you have to be far to young to not get this.

 

He tells me if she leaves him that is OK, but he dosen't want to do it because he will loose too much money. She also threatens him with all kinds of non sense. So while he is with me for free will ,he is trapped to her.

Please tell this man to get a backbone.

 

she said (and I can believe that I have to repeat this to you) she didn't want him to leave his wife!!!

 

she loves him as the person he is, I would guess your relationships are in the toilet by the way you sound so demanding and pushy. you would ask him to change then what is the point, you don't want him you want his representative!

 

this is one of the most redundant post I have ever seen, why did you even bother vanilla chai you appear to have a untreated attention disorder.

[Lizzie60]

(Happy OW Club) LOL

 

that makes 2 happy OW here... because I am extremely happy with this kind of 'arrangement'... I also don't want him to leave his wife... cause I just don't want any man full time in my life.

 

I like the fact that I see him under his best 'behaviour'.. but most of all, I have to say that he is an amazing lover.

 

He has completely 'blossomed' with me... his wife was his first gf.. they were both virgins... He had one other A about 12 years ago with one of his wife's friend...she made the first move... he couldn't resist.

 

Then a year ago, we started to flirt... exchanging jokes and pm's at work... (we work for the same gov't org) then we slept together on my BD last year... it was great. Since then, he's just completely 'in love' ... at one point he wanted to leave his wife..but I said no... and I will always say no... I don't love him as much as he loves me... He knows that and he knows I will end the A if he gets too 'serious'.. . I did once, he was completely devastated.. so it solved the problem.. he has never talked about leaving his W since.

 

He only had two women before me.. his wife and this OW for a little while... his wife hates sex, I think he had 2-3 BJ in all his 28 years with her. They only have sex the same way, missionary, cause she said the other positions hurt too much.... once or twice a month, cause her periods last about 15 days... the lights have to be out... you know the borrring sex... he completely went crazy with me... the teasing all day, then we meet, I wear lingerie... he loves it... BJs for looong period of time... the 101 positions... the whole nine yards...

 

We speak every day... text mess. every night... all evening... we exchange on the TV programs we're watching... him at home, me here... LOL then we exchange pm's all day at work.

 

He will do anything I ask him... he told me... and I have tested it...and it's true...this guy would do anything for me... he's completely crazy.. LOL

 

So I am happy with the A and he's happy too... since he can stay with his family and have his love on the side... it works for both of us... I wouldn't change anything.

[scaredinlove]

Yeah Lizzie,

 

There are happy OW ,the situation may not be good for everybody but is for some.

 

The affair is always new , you never really know when we will meet and that there are periods we can't see each other and you miss that person.So it never gets boring.

 

I like the secrecy too, i found out people are always trying to interfere with other poeople relationships.So if no one knows it no one will try to get in the middle of it.

 

Because we don't spend every single day together ,we always have something nwe to tell each other.

Because his mistakes don't affect me directly I can be more compassionated. If he loses money in some risk bussiness his W will go up the walls because it affects her. It dosen't affect me so I can be more of a friend, I can listen and give support.The same happens the other way around.

 

Because we have nothing more that this incredible feeling for each other ,we can b e honest and frank.

 

Yes the ideal would be that all relationships were like that ,but we huimans have a hard time accepting that other people are free and that we are free too.

Our lives are parallell but we are not joined. That give us the possibility of being more fully dedicated to each other.

 

In a perfect world we all should live like that , but since it is not possible.

 

I will keep my perfect affair as it is .

[Lyssa]

What's important is that YOU are happy and so is MM. It is between you and MM. No one else.

 

As for me, I am happy. I didn't ask him to leave, he decided on his own.

 

I truly admire you, SIL and Lizzie because not every OW can cope with what they got themselves into.

 

I'm glad to see that SOME people (other than OW) do understand and appreciate the fact that we are happy with our arrangements.

[LucreziaBorgia]

This is from another thread - I forgot you had started your own.

 

Its pretty interesting to go back and read your posts, Scared. I can understand why you are such a HOW. Given your past posts, those are your only options really: be happy with what little you have, or don't have it at all. It beats being alone, no?

[blowingthetrout]

This is from another thread - I forgot you had started your own.

 

oh that is so lesbian retro of you LB

 

 

If SIL wanted her head ripped off by a bitchyqueen, she would have asked for my number!

 

 

darling call me 1-800-lezzsux :-)~

[Trimmer]

he dosen't make love to her,only if I give permission. Wich I do sometimes.

 

Like I said before he is just there for the money and because he thinks he cannot cope.

 

So while he is with me for free will ,he is trapped to her.

 

He will call me first to ask for any decision , even decisions that concern both of them.

 

I my have half man ,but I sure have the better half!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Actually, from your description, it's sounding like he is only about half-a-man to start with. But at least you have the better quarter!

 

I guess we are both lucky,

As long as that's good enough for you...

[stillhere]

SIL, i'm so happy to hear that you have finally made it to this point where you are happy dealing with what you have.

 

I give you alot of credit, because i know that i could never be happy sharing forever. I'm not happy right now, but we're working through it, and hopefully it gets to the point where he finds the courage to give me what i truely want, all of him.

 

It took you a long time to get to this place, and i hope you continue to be happy with your MM.

 

I've missed you (((Hugs)))

[scaredinlove]

SIL, i'm so happy to hear that you have finally made it to this point where you are happy dealing with what you have.

 

I give you alot of credit, because i know that i could never be happy sharing forever. I'm not happy right now, but we're working through it, and hopefully it gets to the point where he finds the courage to give me what i truely want, all of him.

 

It took you a long time to get to this place, and i hope you continue to be happy with your MM.

 

I've missed you (((Hugs)))

 

 

Hey SH,

 

Yet it took a long time...

 

Today I just had the most wonderful day by the shore. All by myself!!!!!!! I really enjoy being on my own. and I know I havve someone who really loves me too.

 

So when we meet again we going to make sure we will ejoy our time together.

[scaredinlove]

oh that is so lesbian retro of you LB

 

 

If SIL wanted her head ripped off by a bitchyqueen, she would have asked for my number!

 

 

darling call me 1-800-lezzsux :-)~

 

I make sure I will call you BTL.You are going to be my guardian Angel.

[scaredinlove]

This is from another thread - I forgot you had started your own.

 

 

I have many choices I could leave him and give a chance for the other guys that are after me. And they are few. But MM beats them all.

 

He is really romantic, sweet and he have long conversations, wich I love. So I keep telling the others.

 

Please get a number and go for the end of the line.

 

I enjoying great company, amazing sex and freedom at this moment.

 

Thanx:D

[scaredinlove]

Actually, from your description, it's sounding like he is only about half-a-man to start with. But at least you have the better quarter!

 

 

As long as that's good enough for you...

 

 

I half man and he has half woman, so together we make a whole.cool:

[GreenEyedLady]

I half man and he has half woman, so together we make a whole.cool:

 

Good for you! I'm glad that you are happy! :bunny:

[scaredinlove]

Good for you! I'm glad that you are happy! :bunny:

 

thanks GEL