Melvolio Posted September 1, 2007 Posted September 1, 2007 Just over a month ago my girlfriend started acting differently. She finally has told me why (this was a tearful experience for both of us). For reasons unknown, even to herself, she has become less attracted to me. She still wants me to be in her life since I make her feel safe and i've been, according to her, her dream man. She says that I am her best friend and that she doesn't ever want me to leave her life. She still wants to hold me close and etc. Says I am the one she wanted to do everything with. We had gone on vacation and it seemed to have triggered something. It had made her a little fed up with me and she wasn't ready for the trip aparently either. She says she loves me very very much but doesn't know if she wants to keep dating me. We have been together more than a year and a half and this is the first time our relationship has had a problem.... Any advice? Any idea what is going on?
JeanQueen Posted September 1, 2007 Posted September 1, 2007 Sounds like she's keeping you on a string, so that you will still be in her life but not her boyfriend. This may be leading to her breaking up with you so that she can date others, but keeping you around just in case things don't work out with them. You will always be there for her whenever she needs to come back for a ego boost. Even though I don't like games and all that, my advice would be to not be there for her if she wants to come crawling back. Tell her this if/when she breaks up with you. Make sure you spicificly state that you will not be put on the backburner and that while you do care for her you will not continue to pine for her once she's gone.
Yamaha Posted September 1, 2007 Posted September 1, 2007 Sounds like she's keeping you on a string, so that you will still be in her life but not her boyfriend. This may be leading to her breaking up with you so that she can date others, but keeping you around just in case things don't work out with them. You will always be there for her whenever she needs to come back for a ego boost. Even though I don't like games and all that, my advice would be to not be there for her if she wants to come crawling back. Tell her this if/when she breaks up with you. Make sure you specifically state that you will not be put on the back burner and that while you do care for her you will not continue to pine for her once she's gone. Very good advice and you should follow it. She might not know exactly what happened but she has an idea but is not being truthful with you. She gives you the " i still love you and want you always in my life....blah,blah", but when she finds that new guy she wants to date then you will see that she won't have much time for you. Tell her, "if it's over then it's over", and you will not be around to be her emotional blanket. You need to man-up on this and do what is in YOUR best interest, not hers.
Author Melvolio Posted September 2, 2007 Author Posted September 2, 2007 Sounds like she's keeping you on a string, so that you will still be in her life but not her boyfriend. This may be leading to her breaking up with you so that she can date others, but keeping you around just in case things don't work out with them. You will always be there for her whenever she needs to come back for a ego boost. Even though I don't like games and all that, my advice would be to not be there for her if she wants to come crawling back. Tell her this if/when she breaks up with you. Make sure you spicificly state that you will not be put on the backburner and that while you do care for her you will not continue to pine for her once she's gone. We are thinking of going on a break. She is confused but if she was going to do that she would have done it by now. However all her other friends have pretty much left and I am the only one left.
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