txgamer07 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Ok so I had the typical high school relationship, lasted about a year, went great, then came graduation. She said she wanted a break because we were going to the same college and felt that she wouldn't have her space. I gave it to her but I was so crushed by the news I turned to a friend I had known for 2 years, and she also had always liked me. Needless to say, I felt abandoned and my friend filled the gap that was made. It was a long distance relationship to begin with because after graduation I moved to houston and she was going to the high school i graduated from in austin. Over the summer things progressed fast and became very serious I made frequent visits and things were amazing, best months of my life. Well I decided college wasn't for me right now and so I enlisted in the air force, we talked and knew it would be hard, but we figured we were already doing a long distance thing so itd work out. Well a week before I leave she tells me that because of school and all that plus a long distance relationship, she didn't think she could handle the pressure, and said she wanted to be just friends for 2 years, until she was able to graduate and make her own decisions. I told her I needed the support of a girlfriend right now, not just a friend and that if she couldn't do that, then we couldn't be together. Needless to say I regret this decision, but what I'm about to do is going to be hard and I either need someone there for me 100% or no one at all. I just feel that within the 2 years we will date other people and nothing will be the same and we'll never get back together even if I did agree to just be friends. Im in a very tough place, I need some solid advice.
Reactor Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 You are right, 2 years is along time. And no doubt both or one of you will meet new people and move on. The important thing is not to get 'caught up' on this relationship. You can however stay friends (if you feel you can), you can't tell the future and what may happen. If its too tough at the moment to be friends, tell her and go no contact, if she really wants you as a friend then she'll be there when you are ready to get back in touch or vice versa. I understand your predicament, the forces is difficult for someone to put up with, the constant tours of duty put a strain on any relationship. What you did was right, right for you and her. I know it sounds selfish but you're at a stage in your life where you're very confused and vulnerable. This is the worst part and unfortunatly invariably any relationships you are in will suffer. In a way you've already made your decision, you need someone whose going to be there for you, she can't so thats that. I know it hurts, trust me. But what you're doing it probably best in the long run. Look at it this way, the Air Force is a great place to meet new people and develop new relationships, look forward in life to what this will bring you! Regards, Reactor
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