jcster Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Ok, I haven't had a thread in a long time, and this has kind of been bugging me: Pretty much every time I have a great conversation with a guy in a social setting (like a bar or party), they give me THEIR phone number. Is this new? I've been out of the loop for about a decade, so maybe that's how it's done now? Any insight?
Pyro Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Ok, I haven't had a thread in a long time, and this has kind of been bugging me: Pretty much every time I have a great conversation with a guy in a social setting (like a bar or party), they give me THEIR phone number. Is this new? I've been out of the loop for about a decade, so maybe that's how it's done now? Any insight? For the most part I think that its still the other way around, but I see no problem with that. Will you be giving him a call?
IpAncA Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Ok, I haven't had a thread in a long time, and this has kind of been bugging me: Pretty much every time I have a great conversation with a guy in a social setting (like a bar or party), they give me THEIR phone number. Is this new? I've been out of the loop for about a decade, so maybe that's how it's done now? Any insight? Jcster that's usually a good sign. Does this bother you?
sweetbutcheeky Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Most of the time that's what happens with me, which I like personally. Gives the girl the power (you don't have to give out the fake number! lol of course never done that myself! ) and can decide if you want to or not after and not decide on the spot. Also don't have to worry that the guy is just collecting numbers and gives you a better idea that he is interested!
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Ok, I haven't had a thread in a long time, and this has kind of been bugging me: Pretty much every time I have a great conversation with a guy in a social setting (like a bar or party), they give me THEIR phone number. Is this new? I've been out of the loop for about a decade, so maybe that's how it's done now? Any insight? You intimidate them?
Author jcster Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 You intimidate them? So if they give me their number that means they like it? Jcster that's usually a good sign. Does this bother you? No, I guess it's better than giving my number out. I still haven't called any of them, though.
underpants Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 No, I guess it's better than giving my number out. I still haven't called any of them, though. Them? How many numbers did you score? How many days are you going to wait to call your hunnies?
IpAncA Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 No, I guess it's better than giving my number out. I still haven't called any of them, though. Why not? They gave you their number for a reason. Not as a joke.
Krytellan Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I have to say that I'm guilty of that about half of the time. I guess at the time it's more a statement that it's up to the girl to decide if she wants to see me again. It's not really about not wanting to do the work. I just has to do with a general feel I have at the time.
underpants Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I like to get the name and number. That way I can do some research.
Pyro Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I like to get the name and number. That way I can do some research. Riddler 555-9876 Search away.
underpants Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Riddler 555-9876 Search away. Oh my....I just did a quick search and Rid. I have to say I'm impressed. I would have never known. Seriously, part of my work entails a visit to a little office down town. Once there I was looking up my work people and I had the name of a 'gentleman' that wanted to get to know me better. A co-worker told me I was bad for doing this...just as the lady behind the counter handed me a handful of microfilms. I didn't call him back. Sometimes friends ask me to look up potentials. If you have the means and the opportunity to avoid something bad for you. Heck yea. My co-worker is now single and I should ask him if he is looking up his potentials.
Pyro Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Oh my....I just did a quick search and Rid. I have to say I'm impressed. I would have never known. Seriously, part of my work entails a visit to a little office down town. Once there I was looking up my work people and I had the name of a 'gentleman' that wanted to get to know me better. A co-worker told me I was bad for doing this...just as the lady behind the counter handed me a handful of microfilms. I didn't call him back. Sometimes friends ask me to look up potentials. If you have the means and the opportunity to avoid something bad for you. Heck yea. My co-worker is now single and I should ask him if he is looking up his potentials. Yep. It really is that big. You can never be too careful, especially in todays world.
Author jcster Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Them? How many numbers did you score? How many days are you going to wait to call your hunnies? er...my wallet is full of them.... I guess I just didn't feel inspired enough to call them? I'm in a really self-centered headspace right now, I don't have much time and patience for romance (or even sex, for that matter). It's that old standby, you only get interest when you're not interested.
IpAncA Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 er...my wallet is full of them.... I guess I just didn't feel inspired enough to call them? I'm in a really self-centered headspace right now, I don't have much time and patience for romance (or even sex, for that matter). It's that old standby, you only get interest when you're not interested. It's full? Wow. I wish men would flunt themselves at me with numbers.
Author jcster Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 It's full? Wow. I wish men would flunt themselves at me with numbers. I'd trade all of them for one I would actually want to call. I guess I was just wondering if this is a good thing or a whatever thing. I kind of figured that guys would get my number if they were really interested.
VIP Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I think they don't ask for a woman's number, because they were rejected many times.
IpAncA Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I'd trade all of them for one I would actually want to call. I guess I was just wondering if this is a good thing or a whatever thing. I kind of figured that guys would get my number if they were really interested. Call the one you want to call then. You don't have to call everyone else if you don't want to. I'd say if they didn't give you their number and you gave them yours and they never called, then that's a bad sign.
Alexandra-Girl Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I had a male friend (35) tell me this... not sure if this is the norm or not, but it is worth pondering. I am not one to give out my phone number and I have found his quote as 95% correct so far. "A man that gives you HIS number means you are a take it or leave girl = backburner material, whereas a respectable man that will wait until you give him YOUR number, even if it takes several 'bump ins' before you do, sees you as someone he will focus on and make a priority for a lasting relationship"
sb129 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 IME, I have always found that the men who give me their number are the keen ones. The most recent one to give me his number turned out to be the man I share my life with now.
birdie Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I had a male friend (35) tell me this... not sure if this is the norm or not, but it is worth pondering. I am not one to give out my phone number and I have found his quote as 95% correct so far. "A man that gives you HIS number means you are a take it or leave girl = backburner material, whereas a respectable man that will wait until you give him YOUR number, even if it takes several 'bump ins' before you do, sees you as someone he will focus on and make a priority for a lasting relationship" not sure if it's that serious but I don't take guys' numbers on principle. I always wait for them to ask for mine. if they can't be bothered to be the first to call then I'm not interested
maynard Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 that is interesting. maybe todays men have been so emasculated they are now too timid to ask for the number, lol the manly thing to do is take the number.
VIP Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 the manly thing to do is take the number. For some reason women usually don't like to give their number to someone they consider to be a stranger.
sweetbutcheeky Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 "A man that gives you HIS number means you are a take it or leave girl = backburner material, whereas a respectable man that will wait until you give him YOUR number, even if it takes several 'bump ins' before you do, sees you as someone he will focus on and make a priority for a lasting relationship" IME, I have always found that the men who give me their number are the keen ones. I agree with sb129, that way they know the girl has their number. VS not getting one from her or risking getting a fake because she was put on the spot. This way she can think about it and give him a call.
maynard Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 For some reason women usually don't like to give their number to someone they consider to be a stranger.haha true. but women also dont feel interested in a guy that gives them their number either. something has got to give
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