christian2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yesterday I got home from work to find my house half empty and a note saying "sorry dont hate me, I'm an evil person" Gone... after 10 years of happiness and good times. I gave this woman everything I had and shes gone just like that. I am devastated to say the least.
island505 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I'm sorry to hear your story. How are you coping? This sounds complex after 10 years, it's hard to know what to say. Sometimes it's so hard to understand why people have to part, but it seems unavoidable, no matter how long or how happy people stay together. It's one of those things which I guess we do really understand but all find it so painful to imagine that we never consider that there could be any good reason for it. I'm still trying to find mine, but mine was only 3 months. I wish you well.
Curious139 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 That must be absolutely bewildering and soul destroying for you. Have you heard anything from her? I think you need to sit down and write out your feelings, express your shock, your despair, your hurt, everything which will be racing through your mind. Many people keep a journal or diary after a breakup and it really does help to put your thoughts on paper. By all means tell us more. Everyone here has experienced hurt and we understand. You need your friends and family right now - don't try to cope alone. One other thing - sometimes there is no logical or rational reason for why the one we love leaves us. That is hard to accept but honestly you are better not to agonise over the whys and what ifs. Those are pointless and destructive ruminations because none of us can go back. We have to deal with the reality that is today. I have to tell you that I'm preaching to myself here as well because I don't find it easy either.
sharp2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Yesterday I got home from work to find my house half empty and a note saying "sorry dont hate me, I'm an evil person" Gone... after 10 years of happiness and good times. I gave this woman everything I had and shes gone just like that. I am devastated to say the least. you know I had a relationship once and not too long ago where out of the blue she turned around to me and said 'you knew I was a bitch when you met me and I'm going to be a bitch now..its over' so I feel I understand how you must be feeling right now..although I had only known her for around a year and we had been seeing each other for close to seven weeks when she ended it..no excuse apart from that mentioned..I hope things work out for you..just take sometime out for yourself right now and try to clear your mind..
tinke Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 oh, the pain of it all!!! i will never understand why people don't talk things out first, before they leave. give a chance to work on the standing issues. i am sorry you are hurting, i am sorry that she did not have the respect to talk to you ahead of time, or to your face. after 10 yrs., a note is very cowardly!!! unfortunately, most times, it turns out there is someone else in the picture. i understand your disbelief, confusion...we share a very similar situation. please try to take care of yourself, keep posting, it SURELY helps.
Hold_On Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Yesterday I got home from work to find my house half empty and a note saying "sorry dont hate me, I'm an evil person" Gone... after 10 years of happiness and good times. I gave this woman everything I had and shes gone just like that. I am devastated to say the least. I find that seeking to understand all the "whys" is the hardest part of breaking up. I don't know how someone can offer the support one needs after they have lost someone they love. Sometimes we need to feel the pain and other times we need to push it away and get out there and be active in life. Life is still worth living for; you are still you.
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