all of the sudden she want "time apart"

[trevor_n]

hi everyone ,ive been going out with this girl for close on a year now,things have been going great,sex is good,she's vey supportive.

 

we live together so arguments are a given,however we always manage to solve them ammicably and peacefully

 

recently i noticed a change in things,she has now become cranky,and it is often difficult to put a smile on her face at times,she has also become very stubborn during arguments,refusing to be diplomatic about things always insisting she is correct and that im just too sensetive.her mood really pisses me off she seems to be not that positive about things and i always have to give her pep talks about our relationship and her life

 

two days ago i gave her another pep - talk in which i was urging her to be more positive ,to stop being so tense and smile more.yesterday i noticed things were better she seemd to be more like the girl of old that sent my heart in a spin,the day progressed well,after i picked her up from gym we went home were the mood was good with me drinking wine and her doing her assignments _ nothing out of the ordinary

 

the same night we are lying in bed kissing each other when she suddenly gets my attention to tell me something,even better let me quote her " baby ,about the arguments weve been having lately,i think if we move apart and miss each other more it will help ,please think about it,we need to give each other space ,ive been thinking about it, what do u think??":sick:when she said that i immediatley got this sinking feeling in the pit of stomach!,she chose to say this at time when i was at my happiest cuddling her in bed,i wonder how long shed been planning this

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ive had 1 of the most sour days in my life today,if u know anything about women and how they communicate youll know what this means,,wats worse is that she tries to insult my intelligence by saying it was just a "silly thought" im glad i didnt sob,infact i was very calm about the whole thing,she adamantly maintains it was just an idea and that she still loves me,but im hurt and she has cast a lot doubt in my mind,i just have an uneasyness about the whole thing,i wish she would tell the truth as to whats really going and set me free with the truth ...please help

[sharp2007]

hi everyone ,ive been going out with this girl for close on a year now,things have been going great,sex is good,she's vey supportive.

 

we live together so arguments are a given,however we always manage to solve them ammicably and peacefully

 

recently i noticed a change in things,she has now become cranky,and it is often difficult to put a smile on her face at times,she has also become very stubborn during arguments,refusing to be diplomatic about things always insisting she is correct and that im just too sensetive.her mood really pisses me off she seems to be not that positive about things and i always have to give her pep talks about our relationship and her life

 

two days ago i gave her another pep - talk in which i was urging her to be more positive ,to stop being so tense and smile more.yesterday i noticed things were better she seemd to be more like the girl of old that sent my heart in a spin,the day progressed well,after i picked her up from gym we went home were the mood was good with me drinking wine and her doing her assignments _ nothing out of the ordinary

 

the same night we are lying in bed kissing each other when she suddenly gets my attention to tell me something,even better let me quote her " baby ,about the arguments weve been having lately,i think if we move apart and miss each other more it will help ,please think about it,we need to give each other space ,ive been thinking about it, what do u think??":sick:when she said that i immediatley got this sinking feeling in the pit of stomach!,she chose to say this at time when i was at my happiest cuddling her in bed,i wonder how long shed been planning this

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ive had 1 of the most sour days in my life today,if u know anything about women and how they communicate youll know what this means,,wats worse is that she tries to insult my intelligence by saying it was just a "silly thought" im glad i didnt sob,infact i was very calm about the whole thing,she adamantly maintains it was just an idea and that she still loves me,but im hurt and she has cast a lot doubt in my mind,i just have an uneasyness about the whole thing,i wish she would tell the truth as to whats really going and set me free with the truth ...please help

you know I had the same thing happen to me in February of this year..and it so hurts, because of the uncertainly of what may well be..you need to talk to her and I suppose you have..but when I say talk, I mean really talk..and most importantly listen..

there seems to be an unlying problem in your relationship from what you write and maybe you were unaware of this..well its seems that way..much as I was..especially what she told me..

just talk it over with her..but not at home somewhere different..it helps..

take care mate..simon..

[trevor_n]

thanks simon,the last hope is to really talk to her,im gonna give her the benefit of the doubt

 

the truth will set me free,it also may be that she was "innoccently talking"

but in all fairness that is highly unlikely,women seldom do that,its time we stop making excuses for them

 

if it comes to the worst i will not let myself sink into an infinite well of depression ,i will pick up the pieces and i will move on,hard as it may be ,,there are other girls out there

 

ive ben in simillar situations before and pining away over 1 woman is what will eat me up inside

[sharp2007]

thanks simon,the last hope is to really talk to her,im gonna give her the benefit of the doubt

 

the truth will set me free,it also may be that she was "innoccently talking"

but in all fairness that is highly unlikely,women seldom do that,its time we stop making excuses for them

 

if it comes to the worst i will not let myself sink into an infinite well of depression ,i will pick up the pieces and i will move on,hard as it may be ,,there are other girls out there

 

ive ben in simillar situations before and pining away over 1 woman is what will eat me up inside

yeah I understand what your saying, but I suppose you must love her as I did of my ex and unbelievably I still do after everything she has put me through..

just be careful not to lose someone special in your life, because once lost shes gone for forever..I so fought for my ex but in the end she didn't have the courage to be with me..my story is so long so I won't bore you, but if shes worth fighting for..don't give up too easily.....