Author LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 10, 2007 Author Posted September 10, 2007 I understand how everyone is feeling. You know they are no good for you and it will never work. However, you get these urges to talk to them and that things will be alright when they really won't. I called on these urges to many times and this caused him to run away. Now he won't talk to me and I'm afraid he'll never speak to me again and he hates me. He wanted space, but would call me. I thought it was an invitation to talk and I could call when I wanted, but it wasn't. It's always on their terms and that's not right. I know!!! I completely understand how you're feeling! Mine wants his cake and eat it too, but that's just unfair because it's at our expense. It's always on their terms, how we feel doesn't matter to them!!!!
Author LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 10, 2007 Author Posted September 10, 2007 Well... I am a san franciscan now living in Italy My email address is ladykiri at yahoo dot com. I visited Italy two years ago, one of the most beautiful places on earth. What happened with your relationship if you don't mind sharing! Thank you for your advice and support during this time!!! It's been so helpful!!
Author LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 Well, I think I'm on the road to getting over the ex! I feel at peace with everything. I called him last night, but just to tell him that it was a shame that things didn't work out for us, but that I wasn't calling to blame him or anything (like I used to always do) for the failure of the relationship. I just told him that I enjoyed the good times, but in the end, it wasn't my place to force him to change, which was unfair of me, and that I should have accepted our differences and moved on a long time ago. I think this gave us both the closure we needed because I felt great moving on, knowing that I learned a lot about myself in the relationship, and he had the closure knowing I lno onger blamed him or held a grudge towards him for the way he acted in the relationship. I decided to take the high road, and guess what, it felt great and I was a bit afraid the contact with him after a period of no contact would cause a relapse, but I'm alright and I have no desires to contact him anymore! Feels so good to finally be on the road to healing! I wish you all the best of luck in your quest for healing as well!
NorCalDave Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Well, I think I'm on the road to getting over the ex! I feel at peace with everything. I called him last night, but just to tell him that it was a shame that things didn't work out for us, but that I wasn't calling to blame him or anything (like I used to always do) for the failure of the relationship. I just told him that I enjoyed the good times, but in the end, it wasn't my place to force him to change, which was unfair of me, and that I should have accepted our differences and moved on a long time ago. I think this gave us both the closure we needed because I felt great moving on, knowing that I learned a lot about myself in the relationship, and he had the closure knowing I lno onger blamed him or held a grudge towards him for the way he acted in the relationship. I decided to take the high road, and guess what, it felt great and I was a bit afraid the contact with him after a period of no contact would cause a relapse, but I'm alright and I have no desires to contact him anymore! Feels so good to finally be on the road to healing! I wish you all the best of luck in your quest for healing as well! Congrats! Run with those feelings and stay on track. You're doing much better than I am. Good luck and send me some of your strength please!!
ftheunion Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Sorry, but I don't have a ton of sympathy. Girls cripple guys all the time. Why do you think they listen to brutal/technical death metal? Now you know how it feels, regardless of intentions. The one and only gf made me feel that way, and it was in jr. high, so I moved away after highschool (She was a grade ahead, so I saw her for 3 years and felt the irony). The feelings were important in prehistoric/caveman times, and are still with us today. It's part of the unique human mating strategy.
kirikat Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Sorry, but I don't have a ton of sympathy. Girls cripple guys all the time. Why do you think they listen to brutal/technical death metal? Now you know how it feels, regardless of intentions. The one and only gf made me feel that way, and it was in jr. high, so I moved away after highschool (She was a grade ahead, so I saw her for 3 years and felt the irony). The feelings were important in prehistoric/caveman times, and are still with us today. It's part of the unique human mating strategy. Screw you. I never ever ever have crippled anyone, NOR abandoned them, NOR played with their heart nor ****ed with their head. Im so sorry it happened to you, but you can shove that attitude up your ass, and honestly, if that is the attitude you have... those are the women you will attract.
Author LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 Sorry, but I don't have a ton of sympathy. Girls cripple guys all the time. Why do you think they listen to brutal/technical death metal? Now you know how it feels, regardless of intentions. The one and only gf made me feel that way, and it was in jr. high, so I moved away after highschool (She was a grade ahead, so I saw her for 3 years and felt the irony). The feelings were important in prehistoric/caveman times, and are still with us today. It's part of the unique human mating strategy. Why are you making this into a gender thing? Nowhere in my original post have I bashed men for being jerks or *******s or that anyone deserves the pain of a heartbreak. I'm sorry someone hurt you along the way, but unless you let that bitterness go, you are not going to be happy. I am here to discuss my healing process, and I know many on here can relate to the pains and eventual healing from a breakup whether they are male or female. If you would only read all the posts here, you would see that the posters are both male and female, hurt by both male and female exes, and that the pain of a breakup is universal. It transcends gender. For you to come on here and bash me and women in general saying we deserve it is really uncalled for. Loving and hurting is part of life, and it happens to everyone.
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