raidsniffer Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 well basically i'm sick of dating girls and getting into a relationship or starting one.. then the girl goes.. "lets just be friends" or something like.. i dont know if i really like you that much when they seemed like they were really into me for a couple months during the "dating" part and then when it gets a little serious they back off. girls are confusing. So here's my questions: Is there some type of owners manual or user-friendly step-by-step instruction manual on how to deal with girls? it'd make my life so much easier and i'm sure it'd make their lives that much easier as well...or if there isn't is it too hard to get girls together to write one for their certain personality type or a general outline? i get the "you're a good guy" line a lot afterwards and they need their "space" but yea..its starting to get repetitive and lame. oor maybe i'm just doing something wrong....eh...I doubt it.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 No, it takes practice and close observation! I've been thinking about putting up a post in regards to "getting out of the friendzone". I'm not sure anyone would want to read that though.
johan Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 well basically i'm sick of dating girls and getting into a relationship or starting one.. then the girl goes.. "lets just be friends" or something like.. i dont know if i really like you that much when they seemed like they were really into me for a couple months during the "dating" part and then when it gets a little serious they back off. girls are confusing. So here's my questions: Is there some type of owners manual or user-friendly step-by-step instruction manual on how to deal with girls? it'd make my life so much easier and i'm sure it'd make their lives that much easier as well...or if there isn't is it too hard to get girls together to write one for their certain personality type or a general outline? i get the "you're a good guy" line a lot afterwards and they need their "space" but yea..its starting to get repetitive and lame. oor maybe i'm just doing something wrong....eh...I doubt it. Your problem is you care what they think. You need to just keep going through this until you're past caring. Then some girl will inexplicably go the extra mile. It's how they are. What you don't want to happen is that you get so far past caring that, even she does come through for you, you have nothing to offer.
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Your problem is you care what they think. You need to just keep going through this until you're past caring. Then some girl will inexplicably go the extra mile. It's how they are. What you don't want to happen is that you get so far past caring that, even she does come through for you, you have nothing to offer. What type of girls have you gone out with? Not all girls are like that. Well, women are not like that actually.
Author raidsniffer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 see i've tried not caring and i've tried caring.. as soon as i stop caring as much.. they put in some effort and then all of a sudden its.. i can't trust you, you don't act like my bf, it's not going anywhere, so on and so forth...so then i care and it goes around in full circle again...soooo confusing....its like wTF do you want me to do?!?! care or not care? it gets frustrating cause i hate playing stupid pointless mind games.. my view on a relationship is that both care about each other equally. they should be a part of your life and you're bestfriends not on the side where you don't care about the other person cause then its a pointless relationship that will never go anywhere and its just a big waste of time. It's more like a psuedo relationship/friends with benefits. I know people who are fine with it, but personally i can't cause its just a big waste of time in my opinion.
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I'm sorry the girls you meet are putting you through all these mind games. I can assure you not all girls are like that! Where do you meet all this girls?
Author raidsniffer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 mmm through friends? well usually it starts off as friends..not great friends, but friends where we talk a little here and there. and things click out of nowhere then it takes a turn for the worst out of nowhere... and its just ends up being a headache. maybe i just haven't found the right girl...know any? haha kidding
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Lol - maybe you should start looking around on your own? Maybe you haven't found the one yet, it will take a lot of dates to find THE one. Take your time - don't rush it!
JCD Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Just keep trying until you find the right girl for you.
sweetbutcheeky Posted September 1, 2007 Posted September 1, 2007 see i've tried not caring and i've tried caring.. as soon as i stop caring as much.. they put in some effort and then all of a sudden its.. i can't trust you, you don't act like my bf, it's not going anywhere, so on and so forth...so then i care and it goes around in full circle again...soooo confusing....its like wTF do you want me to do?!?! care or not care? it gets frustrating cause i hate playing stupid pointless mind games.. my view on a relationship is that both care about each other equally. they should be a part of your life and you're bestfriends not on the side where you don't care about the other person cause then its a pointless relationship that will never go anywhere and its just a big waste of time. It's more like a psuedo relationship/friends with benefits. I know people who are fine with it, but personally i can't cause its just a big waste of time in my opinion. Just be you, they can probably sense that your not being yourself if your "acting" like you care or not. I know frustrating it is though. I have the same thing happen to me over and over but in reverse, it's the guy pulling the things you mention. Funny thing being that I am the way you would like to be and I have the same BS happen to me. Go figure!
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