Author sweetbutcheeky Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I will say that my desperate meter is starting to go off the chart. This guy is sounding even more not right as this persistence continues. He called me back (I left him a message about only doing something Sunday) and asked said he got it asked asked "so you only want to go out Sunday, are you going to be tired after working Sat?" Then calls back asking me to call him tomorrow when I get home from the EX (exhibition/amusement park) so we can arrange the time and so on for Sunday. No not tired just I don't need to see you all weekend! Geez I think I will see what he does from now until Saturday. I was going to give him one more date, though I started this post before all the calls and the voice in my head is getting louder.
fray718 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 i think a guy being very interested is good, but this guy is a bit overboard. His comment on you being tired after work on sat and being so PERSISTENT like another poster said is just.....too much. If i were you, honestly, i'd just cancel the sunday date and run!!!!!
JCD Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I would kind of bask in the limelight while he's giving it to you but at the same time being careful that he isn't doing this only for sex. Don't have sex with him until much later. This is like a test to see if he isn't into you for sex only.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 i think a guy being very interested is good, but this guy is a bit overboard. His comment on you being tired after work on sat and being so PERSISTENT like another poster said is just.....too much. If i were you, honestly, i'd just cancel the sunday date and run!!!!! I have been thinking about canceling, going back and forth but leaning towards canceling. I will probably see if he does anything else tomorrow and Sat to add to it push me totally over to the ok that's it I'm running for the hills!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I would kind of bask in the limelight while he's giving it to you but at the same time being careful that he isn't doing this only for sex. Don't have sex with him until much later. This is like a test to see if he isn't into you for sex only. No need to worry about that wasn't even in my head, I was actually wondering how to tell him to step back and not kiss me just yet. Not that it wasn't nice or anything, I just want to decide how I feel before getting into it and letting him think other wise. How do you tell someone to back up and not kiss you just yet? That sounds horrible. (of course if all of this is nothing and it goes better I don't want him to not kiss me or be afraid to)
VIP Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I think you have a problem with being assertive. You need to express your thoughts directly and not to be afraid to say no to people. The way you can say this is like this for example:"I think you are a nice guy and there is a possibility, that things can work out between us. But I want to spend some more time with you, getting to know you before we go to the next level like kissing and so on. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I would like to take it slow." Just express your feelings, but make it sound pleasant. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I think you have a problem with being assertive. You need to express your thoughts directly and not to be afraid to say no to people. The way you can say this is like this for example:"I think you are a nice guy and there is a possibility, that things can work out between us. But I want to spend some more time with you, getting to know you before we go to the next level like kissing and so on. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. I would like to take it slow." Just express your feelings, but make it sound pleasant. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Thanks, I don't have a problem with telling him I just wasn't sure how to go about it. I like the way that sounds though. I told him took control when he wanted to make 100% plans on the spot today on the phone and told him what I wanted, when I didn't want to go out twice this weekend.
birdie Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 as a couple of others mentioned on this thread, I think you are uncomfortable because this guy keeps crossing your boundaries. it's completely normal that it makes you feel uncomfortable. being assertive is definitely the way forward
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 as a couple of others mentioned on this thread, I think you are uncomfortable because this guy keeps crossing your boundaries. it's completely normal that it makes you feel uncomfortable. being assertive is definitely the way forward That is true and since I had my guard up before which makes my boundaries closer. I will just have to wait and see that he does between now and Sunday, and if I feel comfortable then see how he is on Sunday. But will have to talk to him about going slower regarding kissing and so on.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 1, 2007 Author Posted September 1, 2007 So I told him I would call him today after I got back to talk about when and where for Sunday. Anyway he didn't wait for me to call him, I was out and didn't hear the phone so he left a message. Well I guess he was able to wait until 7pm! LOL Though not for me to call him like I said I would. (and how he asked me to when I got home)
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