I have been spending time with a guy for a couple weeks....I'm trying to feel a spark

[Izzy B]

but I absolutely feel nothing, and I never will.

Is it acceptable to simply not return his calls? We didn't even kiss or anything, however he calls quite a bit and wants to spend time with me quite a bit. It is nice to have a friend as I am new in town, and he has done lots of handiwork around my new apartment (he insisted, I didn't ask), but luckily he has not made a move to kiss me. In fact, I think he may be a 36-year-old virgin, just a hunch.

Anyhoo, is it OK to just pull the disappearing act?

[Yamaha]

If you know he wants to kiss you then you need to tell him you see him as a friend only. Most guys can handle this revelation and you won't have to avoid him or disappear. If he decides he can't/doesn't want a just friends thing he can be on his way without any hard feelings.

[magda]

I think that's it's okay, as long as the last time you saw him things were obviously very cool between you. If he doesn't appear to be "getting it" in short order, you have to say something. ie, don't return up to 2 calls/emails, after that he's shown that he requires explanation.

[Curious139]

He sounds like a decent guy so you need to treat him with respect and kindness. Be upfront, tell him you appreciate his friendship but that is all your relationship can be. Honesty in a considerate way is best.

[Izzy B]

That's the thing, he hasn't even come close to trying to kiss me. Yes, he is a decent guy but I just don't feel anything beyond friendship. I want to spend a few weeks without hanging out with him, it will be nice to have him as a friend to do stuff once in a while. I'll just see how it goes.