Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Unique, I had a thought about what I think is your original question. Next time you are one the trail, any you see the stud. Fall down. Let him come to your rescue. Let him check out your ankle, maybe your knee and hold you while you walk it out. Good one right.... I happened to fall earlier this year. Someone on a bike "slowed down" and asked if I was alright....then kept going. An older man walking along didn't say a thing. Depends on where you live, I guess....and what you like while you're working out.
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I'm in a pissy mood. I got to the trail and his car was already there and he was already out on the trail somewhere. I got there later than I wanted to because I had to stop by this stupid drs. office to pick up some stupid samples because the stupid dr. didn't give me enough of them when I was there a week ago! So I ended up in a lot of traffic. And there went my opportunity. But then I'm thinking, you know if this guy really wanted to talk to me, he'd find a way. And then it started making me irritated that I'm focusing on him and when he'll be there when before I was carefree and would show up whenever I wanted to. And how I'm feeling depressed that I didn't see him and have the opportunity. And how this whole situation was helping to take my mind off of "him" and make me feel a little bit better. And, because of that, it's taken a certain amount of importance to me. And now I'm back again to thinking how no one is sending me any messages off of the personals and how depressing is THAT? And pretty soon, I'll be thinking a lot about "him" again.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 If it helps... he may be thinking the same of you as you type this! Wondering if you're going to be on time... or why you werent there. Hoping to see you tommorrow! Dont worry about the personals... 90% of the guys on there you wouldnt talk to in person!
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 If it helps... he may be thinking the same of you as you type this! Wondering if you're going to be on time... or why you werent there. Hoping to see you tommorrow! Dont worry about the personals... 90% of the guys on there you wouldnt talk to in person! Last week I did a 7 day free trial on this one personals site. That's when i got several guys contact me--who at first seemed promising but later turned out not to be (see my thread on that). This week, I signed up on there!!! Now I'm signed up for months and I'm getting nothing. Not only that, what does that say about a woman getting nothing? Back in the Spring I was getting about a dozen a day! Eh, I doubt that guy is giving it a second thought. Chances are, he passed me on the trail (because he's on a bike and bikers pass everyone else) Had he wanted to, he could have talked to me then. No....I just losers and weirdos...THOSE are the ones who actually come up to me!
underpants Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Unique, don't let it get you down. Tomorrow is another day...(in my best Scarlet O'hara voice). Oh, so you know his usual time and car. Good. Isn't that odd that your experience is the biker is more considerate then the walker. Hmmm. So you got there late....he has to get back to his car at some point. Pick somplace between his car and the trail to....fall, and scatter some items about. Then catch up on some reading until you hear a bike in the distance. Hide the book and make some ohh and ahhh sounds. If he asked if you are okay. Respond by saying I'm not sure? I don't know what happened? Wince a little. He should be off his bike by this point and walking over to help you up and check you out...(look for the ring)...if no ring... Of course once you think you can stand and walk a few steps, introduce yourself. Ask if he could see you to your car. Then if you feel bold ask if he might let you buy him a beer for his valiant heroism. If you get shot down you can always blame it on your concussion. I am living vicariously through your sitch.
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Tomorrow is another day...(in my best Scarlet O'hara voice). Oh, so you know his usual time and car. Good. Right...but tomorrow is the start of a looong holiday weekend. This trail crowd is an after-work crowd and on Fridays you don't see most of them after work. And then on Sat and Sun, if they DO go there, you have no idea what time they go. And THIS weekend, we have Monday too. So you got there late....he has to get back to his car at some point. Yes, but I'm not sitting at my car the whole time! LOL I leave and go on the trail myself. So when I got back to my car tonight, his car was already gone. Pick somplace between his car and the trail to....fall, and scatter some items about. Then catch up on some reading until you hear a bike in the distance. Hide the book and make some ohh and ahhh sounds. There's a LOT of cyclists....I think I'd be like Wyle E. Cyote (run over) by the time he got there! If he asked if you are okay. Respond by saying I'm not sure? I don't know what happened? Wince a little. He should be off his bike by this point and walking over to help you up and check you out...(look for the ring)...if no ring... Yeeeah....like half of them wear a ring........probably gets in the way of their biking gloves....
underpants Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Why are you making this so difficult. (I'm am laughing) Okay...Tuesday is another day...(this does not sound as good and my Gone with the Wind reference). Can you fall in the parking lot? Ah, forget it...just put your phone number with the words 'free sex' on his windshield....don't really do that. Hey, can you park beside him and have car trouble yourself?
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Why are you making this so difficult. (I'm am laughing) Okay...Tuesday is another day...(this does not sound as good and my Gone with the Wind reference). Can you fall in the parking lot? Ah, forget it...just put your phone number with the words 'free sex' on his windshield....don't really do that. Hey, can you park beside him and have car trouble yourself? Parking beside him and having car trouble would still involve running into him in the parking lot at the same time---which seems to be the problem. And hell no....I don't want him messing with my car! Most guys today don't know how to work on cars. They'll just pretend that they do and then break things! "oh wow.....that wasn't your washer fluid reservoir after all.....it was your radiator fluid....they look so much alike....."
underpants Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Okay, You have a point about the car thing. Honestly, I don't know jack about cars. My ex...had to rescue me with a car thing, but looking back I think he did something to my car to begin with. How convienent. Well, if this is going to go down I guess it has to be in the parking lot. Also, you might have to ...wait around to catch him. Maybe you could have a stack of paper. Then as he is walking towards his car you let the papers scatter and fly all over the place. Oh no your copied draft is lost forever!!! Help, help!!! You are a writer right? (later over drinks you can discuss your writing and how you enjoy visiting the trails to write).... Maybe someone else has a better idea. I'm trying.
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Okay, You have a point about the car thing. Honestly, I don't know jack about cars. My ex...had to rescue me with a car thing, but looking back I think he did something to my car to begin with. How convienent. Well, if this is going to go down I guess it has to be in the parking lot. Also, you might have to ...wait around to catch him. Maybe you could have a stack of paper. Then as he is walking towards his car you let the papers scatter and fly all over the place. Oh no your copied draft is lost forever!!! Help, help!!! You are a writer right? (later over drinks you can discuss your writing and how you enjoy visiting the trails to write).... Maybe someone else has a better idea. I'm trying. I think I should go back to just forgetting about it and that's that. None of this planning to run into him stuff. I've done that kind of stuff in the past with guys and i don't want to go down that road again.
underpants Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Well, Don't give up entirely. You never know what could transpire. It is fun to plot silly stuff. Remember my grocery store stud? There is actually a super stud muffin man that jogs in my hood. I noticed and started running at the same time. I am just too out of breath to say anything so occassionally we have a nod. This has been going on for months.
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Well, Don't give up entirely. You never know what could transpire. It is fun to plot silly stuff. Remember my grocery store stud? There is actually a super stud muffin man that jogs in my hood. I noticed and started running at the same time. I am just too out of breath to say anything so occassionally we have a nod. This has been going on for months. I find that when you plan things like that, it doesn't work. Or it works, but just not the right way. What usually works best is when I'm paying no attention. Ok, so maybe I should pay a LITTLE attention since I don't usually pay ANY. I just don't want to get to where I'm looking around for him. If you look like you're looking for someone, nothing's going to happen. [chuckle] It reminds me of when I was younger and I'd go to these nghtclubs with some girlfriends. We had these wide-eyed looks on our faces like we were looking...and we WERE. NOW.....heh......I am so totally different. And it's funny.....I remember when I first started to PRETEND not to be looking. I didn't LOOK like I was looking....but in my mind, I still was. TODAY? Both my mind and my body don't project "looking"....because it's not purposely there in my level of consciousness. And that's a LOT better feeling to have then it was the other way.
Lyssa Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Hey, my experience has been that the guys who do the looking and the flirty eyes are usually the married ones. They want to see if they've still got it or not. Women making the first move......not me. It may be happening today but I sincerely believe that it doesn't work. I've discussed this with a male friend of mine who does the personals. At first he said how he liked women initiating. Then, after we'd discussed it further, he agreed with me....that it didn't work. Name successful relationships that work with women initiating. I simply won't do it anymore. Besides, it doesn't give me the same feeling. I agree with what you said. Down to the fact that married men want to see if they still got it or not. I may have thought about asking a guy out but I just couldn't do it. I think it's more about how stupid I'd make myself out to be.
Sand&Water Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 RE: Interesting thread, Uniqueone. So I smiled (at least I think I was smiling) and I said "Hi". You say you are NOT an initiator -yet you initiated talk with the man. You said "Hi", first. You didn't have to say "Hi", but you did. What does that say about you? You say you aren't the type of woman to be happy with a man in a relationship being the one to initiate, then why initiate talk with him, IF you know that you would never feel "Right" about it? Do you think that by having said "Hi" to him, you are the initiator or him for smiling and staring at you? Those are my questions. As for what you should do: Nothing. Don't initiate anything in the future. IF he is interested, he will come forward. Otherwise, his loss. Sand&Water
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 RE: Interesting thread, Uniqueone. You say you are NOT an initiator -yet you initiated talk with the man. You said "Hi", first. You didn't have to say "Hi", but you did. What does that say about you? You say you aren't the type of woman to be happy with a man in a relationship being the one to initiate, then why initiate talk with him, IF you know that you would never feel "Right" about it? Do you think that by having said "Hi" to him, you are the initiator or him for smiling and staring at you? Those are my questions. My saying "hi" to a person (esp when they're staring and smiling at me) isn't initiating. I would have done the same thing if a woman was staring and smiling at me and I went right past her--and had seen her before. Had he not been looking, smiling and facing me, I wouldn't have said "hi". "Hi" is being friendly. Initiating involves more than that. Had I stopped there and started talking to him, instead of kept going (towards my car), that would have been considered more along the lines of initiating. I never broke my pace. Is HE the initiator for smiling at me? No. Who knows WHAT he's looking and smiling at. He could be thinking "Man, I've really been wanting to get one of those cars (referring to my car). I wonder how much gas mileage it gets." LOL
johan Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I would say that you all have pretty much got this "guy looking and smiling" thing analyzed now.
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I would say that you all have pretty much got this "guy looking and smiling" thing analyzed now. This is what women do. Aren't we fun?
johan Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Kind of funny, anyway. It's encouraging to think I could send a woman's mind into overdrive just by staring at her and saying hi, but never doing anything else. I wonder if that actually ever happens and I don't know it.
Lyssa Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 Is HE the initiator for smiling at me? No. Who knows WHAT he's looking and smiling at. He could be thinking "Man, I've really been wanting to get one of those cars (referring to my car). I wonder how much gas mileage it gets." LOL :lmao:
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I would say that you all have pretty much got this "guy looking and smiling" thing analyzed now. Men don't realize how much women do this.....LOL. It seems that it's such a common trait in women that there must be some biological roots to it! I can see the cavewomen way back when doing it. "Hey Koga, what do you think that it meant when Grog was beating his chest and then walked right past me.....?"
Cobra_X30 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 RE: Interesting thread, Uniqueone. You say you are NOT an initiator -yet you initiated talk with the man. You said "Hi", first. You didn't have to say "Hi", but you did. What does that say about you? You say you aren't the type of woman to be happy with a man in a relationship being the one to initiate, then why initiate talk with him, IF you know that you would never feel "Right" about it? Do you think that by having said "Hi" to him, you are the initiator or him for smiling and staring at you? Those are my questions. As for what you should do: Nothing. Don't initiate anything in the future. IF he is interested, he will come forward. Otherwise, his loss. Sand&Water Yes that is SO TRUE!! When women say "Hi", I know they really are saying "Are you free on Friday after work?" That is totally bieng the initiator! (apology for any sarcasm) You've been smoking the same stuff as Livebuzzwords! Or maybe your just using the wrong end of the crackpipe? Oh, and why randomly bold, underline, and italisize parts of your post? Just wondering if there was a point intended?
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 Oh, and why randomly bold, underline, and italisize parts of your post? Just wondering if there was a point intended? It wasn't enough emphasis for me.....I wanted colors too.......
Cobra_X30 Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 It wasn't enough emphasis for me.....I wanted colors too....... I had the same feeling... I just didnt want to admit it. Ah, so since we are not anywhere near the topic, a short discourse on personal walls. We all have them for one reason or another... however its where we put them and how high we build them that matters. Now, I'm not absolutely certain... because your a hard person to read, however, I believe your wall reminds me of a Groucho Marx quote... "I dont't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member"
Author uniqueone Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 I had the same feeling... I just didnt want to admit it. Ah, so since we are not anywhere near the topic, a short discourse on personal walls. We all have them for one reason or another... however its where we put them and how high we build them that matters. Now, I'm not absolutely certain... because your a hard person to read, however, I believe your wall reminds me of a Groucho Marx quote... "I dont't want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member" Hmmm...what is all this talk about walls? I've still never been told what walls I'm supposedly putting up.
Lyssa Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 It wasn't enough emphasis for me.....I wanted colors too....... Would that be in just one colour or rainbow colours??
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