Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Lyssa, it really depends on the guy. I saw unique posted a similar quip right before me! Makes me feel all slow and stuff. Not attractive ... LOL No you're not slow. I think you're intelligent. Witty too. From all the other posts in other threads I have read.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yep....I get the "challenge-seekers". Aren't those the best? Who wants the unambitious lumps!
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 My appeal might be that I don't give a darn how I look and I'm not there looking for anyone and I don't look like I'm looking for anyone. I'm aloof and pretty much just look interested in what I'm doing. This always seems to get guys interest. THEY'RE going to be the ones to get my attention they figure. This is the type I usually attract anyway. And it's not a good type to attract. I read earlier on that the type that you always attract are the goofy ones... no cute goofy ones? Or is goofy just plain no-no for you? I think it's always hot that a woman or even man - doesn't give a heck about how they look especially when they are out running, biking.. I like looking at good looking people but that's just it, they are nice to look at but do they have a good heart?
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Honestly, yes! My ex-manager (since I no longer work there) is a Mexican-American - he said he likes his women BIG. He's not so big himself though... I don't know about big nose - lol - but he loves big girls.. LOL... I used to work with a Mex/Am named Carlos that had the same thing going on. Man did he like his girls big! Oh, and thank you! That means more coming from you, cause you've thrown down some awefully smart posts!
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Awww.. thanks but I pretty much get my words tangled up!!
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Awww.. thanks but I pretty much get my words tangled up!! Modesty is not required! You are a premium talent. :bunny:
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Aren't those the best? Who wants the unambitious lumps! No, I mean that I get the ones who clamber to get my attention because I don't look interested. They do this until they convince me to give them a chance. Finally, I give them a chance and really start to like them. Then it's no longer fun for them. Now, the trick would be to get involved with them but to remain aloof, but as yet, I've been unable to do that. So I always end up getting hurt, because they're then onto their next "challenge".
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Modesty is not required! You are a premium talent. :bunny: Coming from you, that would be a BIG compliment! Thank you!!
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 No, I mean that I get the ones who clamber to get my attention because I don't look interested. They do this until they convince me to give them a chance. Finally, I give them a chance and really start to like them. Then it's no longer fun for them. Now, the trick would be to get involved with them but to remain aloof, but as yet, I've been unable to do that. So I always end up getting hurt, because they're then onto their next "challenge". I hate those type. I've been there and it's no fun. Giving them a chance, ended up liking them a lot and then hurt me in the end! I gave up on guys for a while because of those type!! I'm sure you attract the better bunch too, Uniqueone!
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 No, I mean that I get the ones who clamber to get my attention because I don't look interested. They do this until they convince me to give them a chance. Finally, I give them a chance and really start to like them. Then it's no longer fun for them. Now, the trick would be to get involved with them but to remain aloof, but as yet, I've been unable to do that. So I always end up getting hurt, because they're then onto their next "challenge". Well, I dont like to think of myself as bieng like that... but if I take a step back... I might kinda do this. See, I never really "lose interest" so much as my GF's tend to do dumb stuff... , so then I bail. I freely admit that I have some trust issues. So, to combat this I tend to generate boundaries... and when they get crossed I just figure that the girl isnt the kind of person I want to be with and so I start working on the breakup! Arrggg... Yes I know... I have to find a better system!
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Well, I dont like to think of myself as bieng like that... but if I take a step back... I might kinda do this. See, I never really "lose interest" so much as my GF's tend to do dumb stuff... , so then I bail. I freely admit that I have some trust issues. So, to combat this I tend to generate boundaries... and when they get crossed I just figure that the girl isnt the kind of person I want to be with and so I start working on the breakup! Arrggg... Yes I know... I have to find a better system! Oh.....you sound like one of them, alright. GF tends to do "dumb stuff". Hmmmmm....... That sounds like something this last guy would say about me. He told me how he saw other parts of me that he didn't care for. Could that be that I showed insecurity? Darned right I did! The guy was calling me EVERYDAY and then after a 3 hour conversation one night, I don't hear from him for at least a week. This was after he had done all of his convincing to me to just give him a chance. Plus I knew he was still dating others so it just made me more insecure. (and looking back, I now know that he was having a woman spend the week with him). So is it the chicken or the egg? Was your GF suddenly doing "dumb stuff" or did something in your behavior change that led to it?
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 I hate those type. I've been there and it's no fun. Giving them a chance, ended up liking them a lot and then hurt me in the end! I gave up on guys for a while because of those type!! I'm sure you attract the better bunch too, Uniqueone! And you'd think I would have learned by now too but they tend to be so good at charming and are so convincing.
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 And you'd think I would have learned by now too but they tend to be so good at charming and are so convincing. And they are not that hot either, hey? Usually that's the case... the charmers and players aren't always good looking but they are soo good making girls feel good and yes, so convincing!
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 And they are not that hot either, hey? Usually that's the case... the charmers and players aren't always good looking but they are soo good making girls feel good and yes, so convincing! Eh....I've known them to be fairly hot. In fact, that's why they notice me......they're so used to getting attention that when they see they're not getting any from me (at first), it gets their interest....they have to find out if they can change that.
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Eh....I've known them to be fairly hot. In fact, that's why they notice me......they're so used to getting attention that when they see they're not getting any from me (at first), it gets their interest....they have to find out if they can change that. And when they do, they leave... typical. The ones I met are not ugly but not good looking either but some of them had personalities but well, they ended up being jerks. Thank goodness I didn't go far with any of them. Back to this guy you keep bumping into - what if he started talking to you? Would you give it a go if he asked you out?
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Oh.....you sound like one of them, alright. GF tends to do "dumb stuff". Hmmmmm....... That sounds like something this last guy would say about me. He told me how he saw other parts of me that he didn't care for. Could that be that I showed insecurity? Darned right I did! The guy was calling me EVERYDAY and then after a 3 hour conversation one night, I don't hear from him for at least a week. This was after he had done all of his convincing to me to just give him a chance. Plus I knew he was still dating others so it just made me more insecure. (and looking back, I now know that he was having a woman spend the week with him). So is it the chicken or the egg? Was your GF suddenly doing "dumb stuff" or did something in your behavior change that led to it? This is hard to talk about... but needy and insecure behavior usually just makes me like you more... as long as its not directed towards other guys. When I say dumb stuff, Im talking about things that cross trust boundaries. The best example is from my most recent ex... attending an overnight party with her ex. Or one from a while back... flirting with every guy in the room.... ect. I doubt you would have any problems with me...
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 This is hard to talk about... but needy and insecure behavior usually just makes me like you more... as long as its not directed towards other guys. All men feel the same or just a few? Just wondering. Even with men and even women who tell me how confident I am with the way I bring myself and the way I look - I tend to be a tad insecure sometimes esp when it comes to my man - I always think I am not good enough... Anyway, it is quite refreshing to know that there is a guy out there that think being needy and insecure make him like a girl more..
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 It depends how it is expressed. Its a twofold deal. One I have this desire to be a hero... I think its kinda common for guys. I'll go WAY out of my way to be the knight in shining armour type. Two, I have a pathological need to be needed! I tend to respond by shoring up insecurities...
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 It depends how it is expressed. Its a twofold deal. One I have this desire to be a hero... I think its kinda common for guys. I'll go WAY out of my way to be the knight in shining armour type. Two, I have a pathological need to be needed! I tend to respond by shoring up insecurities... Well, your lady is a lucky one!
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 And when they do, they leave... typical. The ones I met are not ugly but not good looking either but some of them had personalities but well, they ended up being jerks. Thank goodness I didn't go far with any of them. Back to this guy you keep bumping into - what if he started talking to you? Would you give it a go if he asked you out? Yeah...sure. But most likely, I'll never run into him again! That's usually how it works! Ha!
InLimbo2 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 How about it's about context. If you showed up for a dinner date looking like that - I think he'd not like it. But he expects you to look that way after working out - I"m sure he's all sweaty and smelly when he's done riding! I've read the first bit of posts - I don't think he's just being friendly - this seems a bit more than just a "hi" in passing to a stranger. What's the look game about? He's gaging interest, just like you are doin here Uh yeah....they do....LOL.... Some of us know how to make it look like we're not wearing any though. haha. Oh nooooo.....I won't say that. I may talk to a guy who shows interest but I won't ask him out. Smoothies? Protein shakes? Oh pulease don't put me in the category with "those" people.....LOL....... Men find it sexy when the woman looks like a model and her hair is all messed up and she's all sweaty. LOL. But when your hair is half fly away and half sticking to your face with sweat.....and you're just average looking...well...that's a different story....lol Most likely he was looking at my body.....it's very athletic.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 This is hard to talk about... but needy and insecure behavior usually just makes me like you more... as long as its not directed towards other guys. When I say dumb stuff, Im talking about things that cross trust boundaries. The best example is from my most recent ex... attending an overnight party with her ex. Or one from a while back... flirting with every guy in the room.... ect. I doubt you would have any problems with me... Oh.....that's different. I didn't know your ex's were like THAT. Yeah...that's not me at all. I'm no flirt and no party-er (boy, I sound boring, don't I? LOL!) The thing is, I don't get insecure just automatically. The guys that I'm with usually make me think I'm getting insecure over nothing though. It's taken me a long time to realize that I've had good reason to be that way in the instances that it's happened.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 How about it's about context. If you showed up for a dinner date looking like that - I think he'd not like it. But he expects you to look that way after working out - I"m sure he's all sweaty and smelly when he's done riding! I've read the first bit of posts - I don't think he's just being friendly - this seems a bit more than just a "hi" in passing to a stranger. What's the look game about? He's gaging interest, just like you are doin here And how am I supposed to show interest back??? I said "hi". Shouldn't he do something next? And sometimes guys who are attached/married gage interest too. Oh God, I hate that. I so hate how married guys need their ego boosted.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 It depends how it is expressed. Its a twofold deal. One I have this desire to be a hero... I think its kinda common for guys. I'll go WAY out of my way to be the knight in shining armour type. Two, I have a pathological need to be needed! I tend to respond by shoring up insecurities... For some reason I don't find your type very often. I've thought about this before because I knew a woman who attacted this type. I think I've figured out the reason why and I think it's because I don't act helpless. I act pretty independent and like I don't need any help.
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yeah...sure. But most likely, I'll never run into him again! That's usually how it works! Ha! Never say never! He may already have plans otherwise... just make sure your are regular... regular like an old dude on metamucil!
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