uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 This is separate from the issue about the ex that I've been upset about..... I go to this hiking/biking trail after work most every day. Occasionally I'd get guys who'd come up to me but they were never the ones I wanted to talk to. They were kind of ...uh...goofy..... And there was always those nice looking guys on racing bikes going by ...why didn't THOSE ones ever stop and talk to me??? Of course it never happens that way..... Yesterday I decided to go run some errands after work before going to the trail. When I got there, this guy was putting his bike on his car as if he had just finished riding. He looked over at me a few times. I looked back...although I'm not really good at that whole thing. I think I gave him a little bit of a forced smile.....you know...the kind you give a coworker that you don't know very well when you pass them in the hall.....that kind of thing. So today I got there after work and he was taking his bike off of his car. At first I wasn't sure if it was the same guy but then I realized it was. And he started glancing at me again (I was parked several spots away from him). I glanced back and did the half smile thing again. So off he went to ride and a little while later, off I went too. I think at one point he passed me but didn't say anything (not sure if it was him or not....once they have those racing outfits on, those guys all look the same....) When I finished (an hour and a half later) he was at his car too, putting his bike on his car. As I was going to my car, I had to pass him in the parking lot. He was looking at me and smiled. So I smiled (at least I think I was smiling) and I said "Hi". He said "Hi" back. I went to my car and didn't look his way after that. I mean, I don't know what I'm supposed to do. And I don't know if the guy even wants to do more than look anyway. And there I am, all sweaty (95 degrees out) and have "hat hair). It's NOT like I want to really show myself off at that point. So I was sitting on my back bumper and he pulled his car out and he could go out of two different exits and he chose the one that involved passing by me. So I forced myself to look up as he passed and smile. Well maybe it was one of those forced half smiles but a smile nonetheless. (At least ONE of my smiles out of the whole bunch was a good one anyway!) Now I'm thinking....most likely this is a married guy. Those are usually the only guys who act so "interested". Well...either the married ones or the single ones who are "goofy"...... Now watch I won't run into him again. If I do, I'll probably say something about how we keep showing up at the same time. If I do that and he doesn't do anything THEN, then that's it. That's as far as I go. If they don't take it further at that point, they don't get any return looks from me anymore. I don't have time to play peek-a-boo. That's how I deal with this kind of situation anyway. As to you guys out there...what's with the little glancing back and forth business? What are you hoping to get back from that? Or do I just have a bug in my hair?
climbergirl Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 IMO, the more athletic guys are the most self involved.........and not in a bad way. My guess is that he's attracted to you, but you have to be into his first love...biking. He's most likely interested in you because of your looks and because of your chosen sport. I don't think he'd make a concerted effort to acknowledge you if he wasn't interested in you.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 IMO, the more athletic guys are the most self involved.........and not in a bad way. My guess is that he's attracted to you, but you have to be into his first love...biking. He's most likely interested in you because of your looks and because of your chosen sport. I don't think he'd make a concerted effort to acknowledge you if he wasn't interested in you. Hmmmm.....I'm not participating in the same sport as he is when I'm there....and I look like **** too! LOL
johan Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 So you're mostly there just to pick up guys? Sure. Deny it. I know the truth. Maybe you just need to wear skimpier clothes.
climbergirl Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Hmmmm.....I'm not participating in the same sport as he is when I'm there....and I look like **** too! LOL LOL Well, you think you look like ****, but he doesn't think so.....
Yamaha Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 If a guy glances, smiles and says "hi" to a girl he doesn't know it means he's interested. If you are as well then the 2 of you might as well ride together. Why not bring it up if you see him again?
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 So you're mostly there just to pick up guys? Sure. Deny it. I know the truth. Maybe you just need to wear skimpier clothes. My clothes are skimpy...but not very attractive. I mean, it's REALLY hot out so I have on short shorts and a sleeveless loose cotton top. But it's not like athletic apparel you'd buy at a sporting goods store. It's just cheap cotton gym shorts from Walmart (ok, they're tiny though) and a cheap top. Now I've SEEN the girls with the nice looking athletic apparel on....hair looks all nice....makeup is perfect..... But me? I'm there to work out...have fun.....don't really care how I look.. Ok, so I DO make it a point to put on some lip color...... I'm just hoping that keeps people from looking at my hat hair......
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Women use make up when they go running?? If the next time you bumped into him, why don't you say "We gotta stop meeting like this!" and slip in something like "Let's go grab some smoothies.. or protein shake.." Something along those lines. Men find it sexy when women don't care how they look - esp when you go for a work out.. I was told that by several men when I was working at the gym. My ex-colleagues say women are sexy when their hair is all over and sweating.... hmmm...
FrequentFlyer Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 This is ridiculous. I jog 4X a week at the beach and nod, glance or say hi to nearly everyone I pass by. It's called being friendly. I think you had a bug in your hair. Maybe he's gay. Look, if you're interested, speak up, do something. Thinking about it will get you nowhere. "I wish you only the best!" LOL
huh Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Actually, there's an advantage to him seeing you all sweaty, with hat hair, etc. You're going to look even better to him if you end up meeting up in another setting. As for conversation, just ask him something about how the trail was, etc. As to saying hi to everyone, I think that would depend on the region. I'm from the NYC surrounding area & I was visiting a friend in South Carolina. I was amazed that he seemed to know everyone, everywhere we went such as his apartment complex, the beach, etc. When I commented on that, he said, "no I don't know most of those people, it's called being friendly, it's what we do here." We still joke about that. As for women, makeup & exercise, I personally don't wear any, unless it's a mid-late day workout and I've already put it on for the day. One spin class at 8:30 am on a Sat., I saw a woman in full makeup with her hair perfectly coiffed. And she was chewing gum. I don't get it, I sweat so much during that class, my ponytail's dripping wet, how does someone keep makeup from sliding off her face & her hair in place?
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Women use make up when they go running?? Uh yeah....they do....LOL.... Some of us know how to make it look like we're not wearing any though. haha. If the next time you bumped into him, why don't you say "We gotta stop meeting like this!" and slip in something like "Let's go grab some smoothies.. or protein shake.." Something along those lines. Oh nooooo.....I won't say that. I may talk to a guy who shows interest but I won't ask him out. Smoothies? Protein shakes? Oh pulease don't put me in the category with "those" people.....LOL....... Men find it sexy when women don't care how they look - esp when you go for a work out.. I was told that by several men when I was working at the gym. My ex-colleagues say women are sexy when their hair is all over and sweating.... hmmm... Men find it sexy when the woman looks like a model and her hair is all messed up and she's all sweaty. LOL. But when your hair is half fly away and half sticking to your face with sweat.....and you're just average looking...well...that's a different story....lol Most likely he was looking at my body.....it's very athletic.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 This is ridiculous. I jog 4X a week at the beach and nod, glance or say hi to nearly everyone I pass by. It's called being friendly. I think this depends on where you live. I once met a guy who came from a different state...and from a rural area. He used to go to this very same trail with me. Everyone he'd pass, he'd say "hi" to. He was surprised that they didn't all say "hi" back. Personally, I thought it got to be sort of annoying that he said "hi" to everyone we passed (there are a lot of people on this trail). Where I live, people don't all say "hi" to each other. People --for the most part---keep to themselves. On the other hand, if you DO talk to someone here, they'll most likely be very friendly. That's the atmosphere in my area.
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Men find it sexy when the woman looks like a model and her hair is all messed up and she's all sweaty. LOL. But when your hair is half fly away and half sticking to your face with sweat.....and you're just average looking...well...that's a different story....lol Lol - maybe the men where you're from. The women we were checking out were far from model-like!
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 As to saying hi to everyone, I think that would depend on the region. I'm from the NYC surrounding area & I was visiting a friend in South Carolina. I was amazed that he seemed to know everyone, everywhere we went such as his apartment complex, the beach, etc. When I commented on that, he said, "no I don't know most of those people, it's called being friendly, it's what we do here." We still joke about that. This is so funny because I just posted about this before reading your post! LOL As for women, makeup & exercise, I personally don't wear any, unless it's a mid-late day workout and I've already put it on for the day. One spin class at 8:30 am on a Sat., I saw a woman in full makeup with her hair perfectly coiffed. And she was chewing gum. I don't get it, I sweat so much during that class, my ponytail's dripping wet, how does someone keep makeup from sliding off her face & her hair in place? When I went to the trail yesterday, I had just came from work, so that's why I had a moderate amount of makeup on. On the weekends, I don't wear much, unless I'm going out to something special (boy, what a change since when I was younger when I never would leave the house for anything without looking perfect!) About what you said on the sweating thing, I/m one of those who doesn't sweat much at all so it's not too much of a problem. The reason my hair was all sweaty at this trail was because I had it all piled up underneath a baseball hat the whole time.....and it was 95 degrees out.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Lol - maybe the men where you're from. The women we were checking out were far from model-like! Ok, but how old were they?
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Men find it sexy when women don't care how they look - esp when you go for a work out.. I was told that by several men when I was working at the gym. My ex-colleagues say women are sexy when their hair is all over and sweating.... hmmm... Yeah... we guys use that line all the time! What he actually means is that its sexy when a woman looks good all sweaty and without makeup. Thats a small percentage... LOL
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yeah... we guys use that line all the time! What he actually means is that its sexy when a woman looks good all sweaty and without makeup. Thats a small percentage... LOL I don't think that was a line. The gym I used to work at, I was always one of the guys with the managers and colleagues - we'd sit and check out women and I'd always ask what they think of so and so... they'd give me a straight answer and most of the time - they said what they mean.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 My appeal might be that I don't give a darn how I look and I'm not there looking for anyone and I don't look like I'm looking for anyone. I'm aloof and pretty much just look interested in what I'm doing. This always seems to get guys interest. THEY'RE going to be the ones to get my attention they figure. This is the type I usually attract anyway. And it's not a good type to attract.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 I don't think that was a line. The gym I used to work at, I was always one of the guys with the managers and colleagues - we'd sit and check out women and I'd always ask what they think of so and so... they'd give me a straight answer and most of the time - they said what they mean. So they'd think the chubby girl with the big nose-- who was all sweaty and had messed up hair --was hot also?
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Lyssa, it really depends on the guy. I saw unique posted a similar quip right before me! Makes me feel all slow and stuff. Not attractive ... LOL
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Lyssa, it really depends on the guy. I saw unique posted a similar quip right before me! Makes me feel all slow and stuff. Not attractive ... LOL You're not slow Cobra......you're just "special"........
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 My appeal might be that I don't give a darn how I look and I'm not there looking for anyone and I don't look like I'm looking for anyone. I'm aloof and pretty much just look interested in what I'm doing. This always seems to get guys interest. THEY'RE going to be the ones to get my attention they figure. This is the type I usually attract anyway. And it's not a good type to attract. Oh... that is appealing! Thats the kind I always go for... the ones that arent looking for me.
Author uniqueone Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Oh... that is appealing! Thats the kind I always go for... the ones that arent looking for me. Yep....I get the "challenge-seekers".
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 So they'd think the chubby girl with the big nose-- who was all sweaty and had messed up hair --was hot also? Honestly, yes! My ex-manager (since I no longer work there) is a Mexican-American - he said he likes his women BIG. He's not so big himself though... I don't know about big nose - lol - but he loves big girls..
Cobra_X30 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 You're not slow Cobra......you're just "special"........ I thought I recognized you! Dont you sit a few rows up on my shortbus?
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