When a woman decides to not talk to a guy anymore, why do they always say............

[johan]

...like when you wathc the news and you see iraqis getting blown up and you wish it would stop and they wouldnt have to suffer, but you also don't lose sleep over it. it's just like that

 

ha ha ha... Yeah! Exactly.

[Diplok]

well the probably do wish you the best of luck. its kind of an insult, though, because when someone likes you and things don't work out they usually don't wish the best for you, but hope something painful happens to you.

 

it's kind of like saying you're a non-existant abstraction to me. like when you wathc the news and you see iraqis getting blown up and you wish it would stop and they wouldnt have to suffer, but you also don't lose sleep over it. it's just like that

 

My first thought is to call you an insensitive f#ck but, I agree with you.

[vivi]

a woman artist in France turned a kissoff email into high art and it got into a big modern art show in Venice. Her long time boyfriend dumped her by email and ended it with "take care of yourself." She put an ad in the newspaper and lined up about 100 other women....cryptographers, Indian dancers, classical scholars, executive recruiters, sharpshooters, philosophers. She asked them to use the email message in their work. the sharpshooter used the email as target practice. The dancer made a dance about it. The headhunter did an analysis of the author as if he were a candidate for a job. The classical scholar translated it into Latin, with a commentary. The cryptographer put it in code, etc. etc. And the artist videotaped them when feasible, and used the videos and the changed emails in an installation.

She called it "take care of yourself."

[bartles]

Wishing you the best is merely a way of trying to be polite. It is a complete cover up sometimes because they use it like they really wish you the best when they really are thinking screw you buddy..have a nice life and who cares..don't call me...don't email, text or IM. I think wishing you the best is better than hearing her say any of those things so take it I guess for what it is worth.

[a4a]

Holy Smokes DA what do you want?

 

Should they tell you what they really think about you?

 

Come on now..... if you are anything like what your personality seems to be by your posts your lucky to get a "best wishes, good luck, have a nice life"

 

I think you truly dislike women and would look for any reason to label them as "mean, uncaring, thoughtless".

 

Likely you ooze this upon meeting each new one.

 

I give these women credit for being nice enough to let you know they don't want anything to do with you.

 

You need some help.

Do you just sit across from them sneering and waiting for a reason to bash them in your mind?

[stillafool]

I have told guys in my past the exact same thing and I meant it. I do wish them well. Just because I wasn't interested in them in a romantic way anymore didn't meanI wanted their world to cave in. I feel if I'm happy I want them to be happy too. When a person is not bitter or still holding on they can truly mean "I wish you the best" and mean it. It's when you're still carrying a torch for someone that wish bad things for them.

 

Until these posts I never knew how much this bothers men. Who would have guessed??????????????

[Krytellan]

Until these posts I never knew how much this bothers men. Who would have guessed??????????????

 

Please don't assume that DA speaks for "men". No no no.

[huh]

Well, what are we supposed to say? Something like, "if you were the last man on earth, I'd stock up on vibrators & batteries?"

 

Also, what context are we talking? Online dating? Everyone's got their own preferences. Some prefer the fade of contact, while others find that flaky/rude. People on dating sites have no way of knowing the other person's preference. There's no point in reading things into normal social interaction by someone who is more or less a stranger.

 

I've been on both ends of this type of sentiment while online dating. It's a polite way of saying you're not interested, but you wish the other person well. And honestly, except for a few really obnoxious dates, I genuinely did wish them well. Just because a guy's not the match for me doesn't mean he's a bad person. He may be a perfectly good match for someone else & I hope he finds her, just as I hope I find the right guy.

[DateAnalyzer]

That sounds so defeatist. I hope I am reading this vast explanation incorrectly however.

 

You posted not too long ago about how rude it was when someone did not call you back.

 

I am confused.

 

.....Good luck, I wish you the best.

 

 

she can call back but i don't need her to wish me the best. Just say-"Let's not talk to each other anymore" and then we will both agree and that's it. The only people who should be wishing me good luck is friends and family. Not someone who has decided to go in a different direction

[DateAnalyzer]

Just because they don't want to deal with you anymore doesn't make them a bitch or rude! You can honestly wish someone the best in their life and not want to deal with them anymore. I think you missed the class in learning some class.

 

Any do you seem to that everything woman say is dumb sh*t or a game?

 

 

well maybe it's different in other cities, but in philly girls like to play all kind of games, phone games, date games and that's what I will be doing now. A game player, since that's the thing to do in this city

[sofakingmad]

she can call back but i don't need her to wish me the best. Just say-"Let's not talk to each other anymore" and then we will both agree and that's it. The only people who should be wishing me good luck is friends and family. Not someone who has decided to go in a different direction

 

shoulda, coulda, woulda. they can say w/e they want. not much you can do about it and bitching on here is no help so you'll just have to deal with it.

[sofakingmad]

well maybe it's different in other cities, but in philly girls like to play all kind of games, phone games, date games and that's what I will be doing now. A game player, since that's the thing to do in this city

 

well i agree with you there. jersey girls are just as bad. no more mr. nice guy for me. from now on if it's dinner for first date it's dutch. lol

[Arizona100]

yeah what the hell, next time I'll say "take a hike you loser, and btw you are so bad in bed I think I'm gonna have to get 10 years of therapy just to get over it"

[a4a]

well i agree with you there. jersey girls are just as bad. no more mr. nice guy for me. from now on if it's dinner for first date it's dutch. lol

 

your goin' to get your ass kicked if you pull a dutchy on a Jersey Chick.

[sweetbutcheeky]

well maybe it's different in other cities, but in philly girls like to play all kind of games, phone games, date games and that's what I will be doing now. A game player, since that's the thing to do in this city

 

I doubt that it's just cause your in Phiily. Could you be so on guard that the next girl you talk to will be playing games that you assume she is?

[sofakingmad]

your goin' to get your ass kicked if you pull a dutchy on a Jersey Chick.

 

that's ok. at least if it's dutch i won't care as much if i don't hear from them again.

[jcster]

that's ok. at least if it's dutch i won't care as much if i don't hear from them again.

 

Heaven forfend that your date rips you off by eating for free without giving you any. I can't believe you guys are still single!

[a4a]

Heaven forfend that your date rips you off by eating for free without giving you any. I can't believe you guys are still single!

 

What you don't drop to your knees and blow like the north wind for a couple of donuts and a latte?

[sofakingmad]

Heaven forfend that your date rips you off by eating for free without giving you any. I can't believe you guys are still single!

 

i'm not asking for anything other than common courtesy which several of the women i've met(from match and EH by the way) severely lack.

[jcster]

What you don't drop to your knees and blow like the north wind for a couple of donuts and a latte?

 

Oh! A latte! Whip it out!

[a4a]

i'm not asking for anything other than common courtesy which several of the women i've met(from match and EH by the way) severely lack.

 

define common courtesy.

[sofakingmad]

^ i don't see any need to. you've already made lite of the situation.

[Izzy B]

If I said "I wish you the best" I would truly honestly mean it.

You know, you can't edit every little thing everyone says and judge them for the way they word things, you'll drive yourself crazy. If you do get a girlfriend, DA, you are going to drive yourself crazy if she isn't saying and doing exactly step-by-step what you think she should according to your head.

You need to get over that, people are people, and we don't all fit in the exact same mold, and stay within your lines and boundaries of what you think we should do and act. When she said "I wish you the best" she was saying something to end the conversation and possibly did wish you the best. even if she really didn't, no reason analyzing it, it was a short statement ending the conversation as well as future contact.

[Green]

what do you want them to say when they break up, "I've been thinking about breaking up for a while now thinking back I almost said no to you in the very begining, well its over now please dont bother me any more or try to make me feel guilty for not giving you more of a chance believe me I gave you to much of a chance alread, so just remember dont call me anymore tho only reason Im even telling you we are over instead of just ignoring your calls and acting like im always busy is because I didnt think youd get the drift" of course they are going to say something like good luck or lets just be friends even if they by no ways mean it, other then that they might just do the thing where they stop answering and pertend to be never endingly busy and wait for you to just get the drift. they do it because they want to avoid the coldness and the awkwordness of just flat out dumping you