underpants Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I agree with what Garnet had to say. That sounds like a very plausible scenerio. I also agree that texting in this case is very lame. Why not just call somebody? Geez, I find it rather disrespectful. If you must respond back...I don't think I would. Maybe you could just text: Who?
Krytellan Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I am absolutely blown away and taken aback that a successful and intelligent woman would even give a flying fu*k about his text. How the hell do I get what he has, because it's obvioulsy powerful ****. Wake up Star. The fact that you're even asking scares me.
amber1 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Your the back up and he is seeing if your still game. Since your asking what to do about this it means your interested. I'm with Johan in that your curiosity is killing you and you have that itch that needs scratching. Don't get to involved because he's not looking long term. You're right. I was thinking the same thing. I hate when guys do this because it always makes me curious and then I go thinking that if I don't answer the guy then I am ruining something that might be meant to be. It sucks. The other posters are right, Star Gazer, if he is really interested in getting back with you he will go to greater lengths than text messages.
huh Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Ignoring him's probably the best way to go. If you really feel the need to respond, may something like, "who are you, again?" to get the point across that it's been an inexcusably long time since he last contacted you.
Arizona100 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 yeah good one dont say "hi", f*** the f***er. I'd make him work his ass off to get me back too
PoshPrincess Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Sorry StarGazer, but I don't know your full story. Has he done this to you before? I mean, ended things then tried to contact you later on? If that's the case, definitely ignore him. He could have texted for one of two reasons. Either, like others have posted, because he just wants sex, or maybe because he HAS realised he made a mistake and is testing the waters. Don't forget, if he phoned/contacted you face to face and you were really 'off' with him, it would hit him a lot harder than being blown out by text. Texting is definitely the easy way out and he won't lose face so much this way. Only YOU know what he's like and what your heart is telling you. I always think it's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't done but it's your call! Lots of luck x
Author Star Gazer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 I ended up responding with something vague, "I've been pretty great! How about you?" and then he went on this big long explanation about everything that's going on in his life, his house, his career, etc., how he's unsure if he's in the right place, wants to move, blah blah, but then said, "I'm not sure where I might end up, have any ideas...?? See, I'm trying to get all my ducks lined up in a row, the only duck that's missing is a great girl.........." My response was: "Please don't bother flying south for the winter to find one." (I'm directly south of him.)
Krytellan Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 My response was: "Please don't bother flying south for the winter to find one." (I'm directly south of him.) Niiiiiice. Follow through with that.
oppath Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 My response was: "Please don't bother flying south for the winter to find one." (I'm directly south of him.) APPLAUSE!!!!!!!!!!! That is bossome!
design1 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 honestly tho, all funny responses back aside, you keeping the line of communication open only shows him that there is a chance. i'm still confused why people who claim to be done with this or that, still keep it going. you're done with someone, you're done. no more contact. end of story. and if you get sick of the bugging, a simple, please don't contact me again will end it. your willingness to respond only keeps communication open. and with that, the guy will always have an opinion that you are a possibility if he keeps at it. whats the worst that can happen from his end? he'll get to play the game and if you don't bite, so what, he ain't out nothing. if he keeps at it and you give it up to him again, he wins. see he can't lose. and you are the one that is holding all the power! that's the sad part! not being insulting, just sayin that if you truely don't want to deal w/ him anymore you wouldn't be responding or feel the urge to come here and ask advice to questions to which you already know the answer.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 honestly tho, all funny responses back aside, you keeping the line of communication open only shows him that there is a chance. i'm still confused why people who claim to be done with this or that, still keep it going. you're done with someone, you're done. no more contact. end of story. and if you get sick of the bugging, a simple, please don't contact me again will end it. your willingness to respond only keeps communication open. and with that, the guy will always have an opinion that you are a possibility if he keeps at it. whats the worst that can happen from his end? he'll get to play the game and if you don't bite, so what, he ain't out nothing. if he keeps at it and you give it up to him again, he wins. see he can't lose. and you are the one that is holding all the power! that's the sad part! not being insulting, just sayin that if you truely don't want to deal w/ him anymore you wouldn't be responding or feel the urge to come here and ask advice to questions to which you already know the answer. I have to disagree with you. If you knew him, knew me, knew our previous exchanges...you'd understand (just as he did) that my "funny response" was an unequivocal, "Don't even try, cuz I ain't biting." The proof is in the pudding: that's when he stopped texting.
Herzen Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I ended up responding with something vague, "I've been pretty great! How about you?" and then he went on this big long explanation about everything that's going on in his life, his house, his career, etc., how he's unsure if he's in the right place, wants to move, blah blah, but then said, "I'm not sure where I might end up, have any ideas...?? See, I'm trying to get all my ducks lined up in a row, the only duck that's missing is a great girl.........." My response was: "Please don't bother flying south for the winter to find one." (I'm directly south of him.) The comic fury of a woman scorned. Right, SG? Great repartee. Well, you extinguished his fire. For FF, it's back to the drawing board.
sb129 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 He just learnt the "you snooze, you lose" lesson. Great response SG. And now we have FF Closure. Nice
LoveLace Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 honestly tho, all funny responses back aside, you keeping the line of communication open only shows him that there is a chance. i'm still confused why people who claim to be done with this or that, still keep it going. you're done with someone, you're done. no more contact. end of story. and if you get sick of the bugging, a simple, please don't contact me again will end it. your willingness to respond only keeps communication open. and with that, the guy will always have an opinion that you are a possibility if he keeps at it. whats the worst that can happen from his end? he'll get to play the game and if you don't bite, so what, he ain't out nothing. if he keeps at it and you give it up to him again, he wins. see he can't lose. and you are the one that is holding all the power! that's the sad part! not being insulting, just sayin that if you truely don't want to deal w/ him anymore you wouldn't be responding or feel the urge to come here and ask advice to questions to which you already know the answer. But she insulted him. Then she said he stopped texting. So obviously she got her revenge (in a way) by appearing to be interested only to burn his ass. Cool.
chill chic Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 SG!! I wouldn't think you'd ask this since I believe you're an expert at all my problems It's just like that FWB I had for over a year that called me after 4 months of no contact, saying he wanted to move back here and marry me lol he can do whatever he wants to do, but he shouldn't have moved in the first place, and now I can tell that he apparently misses me to fact that he'd move back here again, without knowing anyone but me. I'm still not sure what his intentions are, but I'm taking what he says lightly, we'll see what happens. So, you being in a similar situation with this guy, we're obviously GREAT catches that these guys are coming back to us, THEY were the ones that messed up, moved out of our lives and realize now that they made a big mistake. Well WE deserve better
Lyssa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I have to disagree with you. If you knew him, knew me, knew our previous exchanges...you'd understand (just as he did) that my "funny response" was an unequivocal, "Don't even try, cuz I ain't biting." The proof is in the pudding: that's when he stopped texting. I have been reading your posts, just didn't manage to give any insights as everyone here pretty much said the things I had in mind. With that said, you did the right thing by texting that to him! Way to go, girl!!!
underpants Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yea, SG, nice burn to put on the FF. Poetic really. I can't believe he called you a duck. What a quack. I would let any embers just go cold.
sweetbutcheeky Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 To oblige Tony, here's some background, for those who don't know: Main thread - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119467/ Follow-up #1 - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119861/ Follow-up #2 - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t120507/ FF FF (i.e., F*ckFace FireFighter) just texted me, "Hey cutie! How have you been? :)" WTF?!! It's been like...2 months. Silence. And POOF! out he pops. What should I say in response? That's what has happened to me a few times. I put it down to time goes by they didn't find anything better and start realizing what they had and try and get it back. Grass wasn't greener and you don't realize what you had until it's gone kinda thing. So Sorry! Too late! Like a few months back I got a call from a guy that I had a crush on. Oh like 4 months before he called we went on a few dates and he told me that he wasn't feeling anything between us. Now he calls and says he has been thinking about me and didn't know why he said that then. Been thinking about how cool I was and how it was great hanging with me ... Umm ya whatever.
LoveLace Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 From my experience, any time a guy seems to disappear and re-appear in and out of your life as he pleases, means he's either just bored, lonely or horny or all of the above.
marlena Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 From my experience, any time a guy seems to disappear and re-appear in and out of your life as he pleases, means he's either just bored, lonely or horny or all of the above. Yes,admittedly, that has been my experience as well. People in a mature, loving relationship do not pull rabbits out of hats at the drop of a hat! They either stay and try to work things out or decide to part graciously . Sending a text just doesn't cut it!!! StarG, I fully understand that bitch of an itch that needs to be scratched, therefore , leading you to your famous, hopefully, last words!!!! A bit like Custer's Last Stance!!! I often too want to have the last say!!! Some people really go begging for it,don't they? I haven't read all your post relating to the said person but I think I have caught the drift!!!
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