Star Gazer Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 To oblige Tony, here's some background, for those who don't know: Main thread - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119467/ Follow-up #1 - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119861/ Follow-up #2 - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t120507/ FF FF (i.e., F*ckFace FireFighter) just texted me, "Hey cutie! How have you been? :)" WTF?!! It's been like...2 months. Silence. And POOF! out he pops. What should I say in response?
Lauriebell82 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I think you should ignore him, if he's just appearing out of thin air after two months, chances are he probably just wants to get laid.
OceanBlue Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I think you should ignore him, if he's just appearing out of thin air after two months, chances are he probably just wants to get laid. I agree. However I always have trouble being "rude". And it would kill me to ignore a message - even though his behavior has gone way past rude. However, I think in this case it is warranted. What's the point of reopening this can of worms again? And a text message? He's just testing the waters to see how you will react. You ignore him and he'll probably just shrug his shoulders and move on... A phone call would have been more personal and given him an opportunity to apologize and give excuses for 2 months of silence.
IpAncA Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Well that's up to you. Personally I'd forget about him. 2 months of nothing and poof he's back. What do you think he wants?
Author Star Gazer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 I didn't respond and he sent ANOTHER message telling me that he's restless and wants to move from where he's living, and that he's not as committed to his town as he once was (you might recall that his reason for breaking things off was that he wanted to date someone in his home down because the distance made it too difficult). I don't get it.
Lauriebell82 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 He may just be trying to get you to respond. It's your decision whether or not you want to let this guy back into your life, but i think the lame excuse he gave you shows that he's not dependable. What if he give you another excuse why he has to break it off? Don't put yourself through it.
garnet Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Maybe there was someone specific in his town who he met and wanted to date, so he broke off things with you by using the distance excuse. Then things diidn't work out with her, and he wants to see if you're still game. The texting is so lame, especially after two months. I personally don't think he deserves a response.
jcster Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I find it really satisfying to ignore texts from f*ckfaces. Maybe you might enjoy it too? Give it a try!
Author Star Gazer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 He may just be trying to get you to respond. But why? I mean, what's the point? Ugh.
Author Star Gazer Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Maybe there was someone specific in his town who he met and wanted to date, so he broke off things with you by using the distance excuse. Then things diidn't work out with her, and he wants to see if you're still game. I have a feeling that's what's going on too. I find it really satisfying to ignore texts from f*ckfaces. Maybe you might enjoy it too? Give it a try! Ha! Remember that one guy like 2 weeks ago who I had a date with who basically stood me up? HE texted me today TOO with a PICTURE message saying, "Miss me??" I responded with, "You must have the wrong Star Gazer."
allina Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Ignore! Ignore! Ignore! Ignore! Don't reply. Maaaaaaaaby is he sends a third one reply with "hi"
Lauriebell82 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I think he just wants to get laid honestly. He's trying to reel you in, probably because he knows you want to respond. And you do! But you really shouldn't because the guy sounds like a jerk. I agree with Garner that things probably didn't work out with someone he was seeing (hense the 2 months without talking) and now wants to know if your still into him.
Arizona100 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Getting laid? Might be his point I want to know if he calls you
Art_Critic Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 But why? I mean, what's the point? He is looking to dip his noodle and get it wet
Herzen Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 My best guess: The FF and a townie female split, and he's looking for some nookie from someone he knows is very vulnerable to his considerable charms. Guys don't text recent ex's out of the blue just to chat or be nice. We usually have a biological imperative. The ball is in your court, SG.
jcster Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 The ball is in your court, SG. ...or they will be soon if you text him back
daphne Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 It's been 2 months. I think you know that this guy doesn't have your best interests at heart. And a cowardly text message to boot? Are you kidding? The last guy I dated started off with the same stupid text. I ignored it. Then the call came. Then another, then he was calling two at a time, work and cell. I finally called him back when I felt ready to deal with it and told him it wasn't working out. Short story, if a guy really wanted you, he wouldn't have pulled this nonsense. If it doesn't feel right, it's not right. And answering some cockamamey text message is not going to be good for your self esteem because you know that you're not holding him accountable. He's fishing and it's up to you to decide what you feel you deserve. However, if you're hell bent on talking to him again, at the very least please make him sweat. A lot.
johan Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I predict you get involved with him again, and he disappears on you again. But this time he does it after you've gotten married and had your fourth child. It's just a feeling I have.
mental_traveller Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I didn't respond and he sent ANOTHER message telling me that he's restless and wants to move from where he's living, and that he's not as committed to his town as he once was (you might recall that his reason for breaking things off was that he wanted to date someone in his home down because the distance made it too difficult). I don't get it. He's horny and fishing for a booty call or FWB. If you want one, just reply with a brazen come-on, he'll get the hint. If you don't, then just say you're not interested.
mental_traveller Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 But why? I mean, what's the point? So he can get some free sex?
Capricciosa Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 As a friend of mine likes to say, "He's hungry." Please ignore him. Let him come to your door with flowers. And then ignore him again.
Yamaha Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Your the back up and he is seeing if your still game. Since your asking what to do about this it means your interested. I'm with Johan in that your curiosity is killing you and you have that itch that needs scratching. Don't get to involved because he's not looking long term.
Pyro Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Did you ignore his messages SG? Thats the best thing to do. He will get the hint.
fray718 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Had FF called you and told you serioulsy and sincerely "Hi SG, I've been thinking for the past two months bout moving here and I know that initially it wasnt working out cuz of distance, but i'm hoping to maybe have another chance with you..." then that would be a diff story, but some lame text 'how you've been cutie?' is just - i hate to say it - plain disrespectful. And you might think im a bit harsh here, but honeslty i think the cold hard truth is that this FF has no feelings for you at all. He may find you attractive, but does he care for you or have feelings for you? No, i'd say not at all cuz if he did he would not act this way. If he felt any guilt at all, he would not act this way. At best, he just wants a short term fling...at worst, an ego boost or free sex. I've had exes who act this way with me -- pretend like nothing ever happened and give me some 'hey cutie' hello cr*p...i just flick em off....and other exes (though i dont think they are THAT much better but still haha) who i can tell when they look at me that they feel guilt....and i can see in their eyes even when they are trying to PRETEND like nothing happened that they still have feelings for me...heartbreaking. FF and that guy who stood u up...belong to the former group of exes....def f*ck faces
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