riverrat Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 I have been seeing a beautiful lady since May of last year. We have had our ups and downs since she used to be married to a very abusive man but I have stood by her and things have been going very well. That is until a couple of months ago. I had started getting feelings that something wasnt quite right and I have learned a long time ago to trust my feelings. I would make suttle hints and ask gentle questions but nothing. Then I noticed she was checking an email from my computer when I was there that she never ever checked before. It was her yahoo IM mail and she would only check it when I was in the shower or outside. She has stayed at my house most every weekend that we have met as I'm gone 10 days at a time. We have been talking of moving in together, well mostly me because I have fallen head over heals in love with her. She tells me that she loves me too but isnt quite ready to do that yet because her daughter still stays at her place part tme and her daughter comes first. Then one day after she left from a wonderful weekend of us being together I started my puter. She had forgotten to sign out of her email and must have accidentally hit the keep signed in for 2 weeks button. I was torn between the betrayal of reading her private mail and the overwhelming desire to know. So I opened it. I would have stopped there but the first page was unbelievable. I almost had a heart attack. She had saved every mail she had ever gotten and every mail she had sent. All to men that she chatted with. To make matters worse she had signed up to all kinds of dating sites and it was a flood mails. Seems that every since we had met she has been doing this. Actively looking for men online and several of them she had met. I was floored at the things she would say to them. Setting up dates and times to meet, telling them all her dislikes which were everything about me, never once mentioning me. I didnt know what to do because I love her so and I would ask her straight questions pertaining to what was in her mails without giving away that I had read them. She would look me dead in the eye and lie to me. All the while I knew the truth. It took almost a month before the guilt of me reading her mails got to me and I confessed to her. Told her I read em all. She screamed at me that we were finished. I've never been so hurt in my life and I have just recently went through a divorce after 21 yrs of marriage. The next day she calls me and apologizes and tells me how wrong she was to do it. I have a forgiving heart. She is now talking about when we move in with each other and us starting a home together. I have not been able to get those mails out of my head and to make things worse she hasnt taken her profile off those dating sites, just hidden them. When I mention that to her she just laughs it off. The other day I told her that since the day we met I have not even flirted with another woman let alone been with one. She laughed and said thats cute.......cute??? CUTE!!!! Can you believe it. Although she proclaims her love for I went to one of her dating sites tonight. I have her password from one of her mails and checked her account. Had to see if she had been doing anything. Yes all the messages were there and she had been very active. I'm on the road now working and dont know what to do. My better judgement says drop her but my heart is so deeply in love with her..........what do I do? I dont wanna loose her............tis is an urgent yell for help please
Kahuna670 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 She blateinly lied to your face twice when she didnt know what your were talking about and that she said she wouldnt do it again. Drop her like a sack of potatoes.
mental_traveller Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yep, do the potato sack thing. Dump her now!
norajane Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 She is now talking about when we move in with each other and us starting a home together. I have not been able to get those mails out of my head and to make things worse she hasnt taken her profile off those dating sites, just hidden them. Oh, no, no, no, no! This woman is a liar, a cheater, and will break your heart again and again if you stay with her. She has no regard for your feelings, and certainly does not care for you the way you care for her - not when she's dating other people and has no intention of stopping! You are already hurt, and it's only going to get worse. DO NOT move her into your house. Break up with her NOW. There are lovely women out there who aren't into dating multiple guys, lying about it, and laughing at you when you express your fidelity!!
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