Nomad Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 When a girl you've been talking to for a couple of months gives you the old "we should just be friends" line, is that a death sentence for any hope of a relationship? Is there any to convince her otherwise?
maynard Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 When a girl you've been talking to for a couple of months gives you the old "we should just be friends" line, is that a death sentence for any hope of a relationship? Is there any to convince her otherwise?there is no hope anytime soon. back off, make yourself scare in her life. show her what just being friends is really like
Author Nomad Posted August 29, 2007 Author Posted August 29, 2007 there is no hope anytime soon. back off, make yourself scare in her life. show her what just being friends is really like It's an online interaction, so if I back off for too long, I'll almost certainly never talk to her again.
directx Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 Yeah, its done. Treat her like a friend and borrow $20, and don't pay her back. Then ask to be hooked up with one of her friends.
maynard Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 It's an online interaction, so if I back off for too long, I'll almost certainly never talk to her again.hmmm. i dont have any experience with that. could be tough. maybe be short with her a couple of times see how she reacts. let her know you talking online to other girls. could spark some jealousy
Author Nomad Posted August 29, 2007 Author Posted August 29, 2007 hmmm. i dont have any experience with that. could be tough. maybe be short with her a couple of times see how she reacts. let her know you talking online to other girls. could spark some jealousy Trying to stir up some jealousy (or at least intrigue) by alluding to other girls is a good idea. But, I don't think getting angry at her will solve anything. We haven't met yet (though she says she is still open to the idea), she's made it plain she isn't romantically interested, so I suspect the only reason she's still talking to me at all is out of a sense of obligation. Losing my temper would give her the "excuse" she may be looking for to terminate the interaction guilt-free.
Sand&Water Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 RE: I understand the "We Should Be Just Friends" line, Nomad. I don't want to admit it just yet, but I am going through a similar situation at the moment. Feel free to PM me for advice and/or discussion. Truth be told, though, it could mean a number of things. The only way to know is if you have an honest talk with her. Eventually it transpires into a cat and mouse game. Sand&Water
directx Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 I wouldnt do ANY jealousy. She made up her mind. It's a lost cause! Trust me! Move on!
maynard Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 I wouldnt do ANY jealousy. She made up her mind. It's a lost cause! Trust me! Move on!i say make her jealous AND move on. and yes, getting upset will only push her farther away. create a vacuum. she will fill it if she desires, but move on mentally
Yamaha Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 When a girl you've been talking to for a couple of months gives you the old "we should just be friends" line, is that a death sentence for any hope of a relationship? Is there any to convince her otherwise? Not a death sentence unless you want sex with her. I would accept her friendship and look elsewhere for love.
Trialbyfire Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 If someone wants to be friends, why would you do it if you still have feelings for them? It allows them to keep you on a string while still enjoying the benefit of the qualities that attracted them to you in the first place. Better to save the energy for someone who wants you, for you. After the feelings are gone, if you want to be friends and see mutual benefit in it, go for it.
sweetbutcheeky Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 It's an online interaction, so if I back off for too long, I'll almost certainly never talk to her again. You could ask her if you could hang out, meet in person before she makes up her mind. Or she could just being polite.
shockandawed Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Seems a little strange that she "wants to be friends" without having met you first. It also seems a little strange that she has been talking to you for 2 months and you haven't met yet. I assume you met her on a dating site. Have you asked her why she is on there if she is only looking for friends? I have met several girls online who fit this mold pretty closely. They just want pen pals or something. There is a possibility she has been burned in the past and is just being cautious. I would try to get her to meet you in person. You may meet her and decide you only want to be friends. Once you are together, you can gauge her interest much better. If she puts off meeting you, then I would forget about her and move along. Could be a sign she is hiding something.
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