LoveLace Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 So I'm estatic about my new guy; we've been on the phone together until 2am for the last 2 nights in a row (he lives an hour and 1/2 away) and we have so much in common it's not even funny, and we're making plans to do things together in the near future, even though I'll only get to see him maybe once or twice a month. He might as well say "Whatever you want, I'll give it you"...I've never had a guy treat me that way and I love it. But we just met like a week ago, and he's telling his family about me, and I'm doing the same; it isn't as though we're saying we love each other but we do tell each other how amazing we think we are, etc, it's amazing that we've clicked so well in so many ways. I'm 30 years old so I'm not against getting serious kind of fast, but I"m freaking out a little here. The only thing keeping this from being ridiculously fast is the fact that we live kind of far a part. We talk for hours with no silence and we enjoy doing so many of the same things. We share similar opinions on most things, as well as morals. He's known for being a 1-woman man (according to our friends)....everything about it is wonderful right now and I'm enjoying it, but if a cute guy asks me out on a date next week, am I supposed to say no? I've been single a fairly long time. Have I gone from that to taken just overnight? This weekend he's coming to visit and he's getting us a suite at a really nice hotel. There a billion things he wants to do with me. I want to do them,too. The physical compatibility is pretty strong and so is the chemistry--so far. But does it all sound so "perfect" so soon that it's doomed for the spark to go out just as quick as it came? I do worry about hurting his feelings if I talk about "slowing down". At the same time, I know that I have one hell of a good catch here. Perhaps I just don't know how to make it operate in a way that will last. I've wanted a relationship like this for so long, that I just don't know how to act!
directx Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 I don't know. I would think you would want to slow it down, without sending the wrong message, which may be hard to do. It would suck if you burnt it out for no reason. Its hard and rare to find someone you can chat with without struggling. I think maybe you should start making yourself a little less available for the phone calls? I don't think that could hurt. He should expect you to have a little bit of a life outside of him (though I know you will be dying to call). And if a cute guy asks you out? I think you should go with him, since you have no commitment with your long distance guy. It would help you see things more clearly and give you more options. Also, it may make your connection with Long Distance guy stronger because you may discover Long Distance guy is even a better fit. Just my opinion. You should consider yourself luck and enjoy it while you can
Author LoveLace Posted August 29, 2007 Author Posted August 29, 2007 Thanx directx everything you said makes sense. As far as phone calls it's only been the last 2 nights, but I did mention to him last night that when nursing school starts back up, I won't be able to be on the phone like this very late at night. I also don't have the desire to talk every single day, so I'm trying to think of a way to tell him that respectfully. If he lived closer to me I might feel smothered, I don't know. And your right that I should still have the option to expand my options!
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