Bacchus Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 Wondered what you all feel about this. So far you all seem to have good general advice and share honestly. I recently ended an 8 month relationship. Before I go on, I dont regret ending it in the least, rather the way I chose to do it and how things are now. I'll save you the details of the almighty row save to say it was over a fundamental personality difference we had and was built on several similar factors that came up ever so slowly over our time together. I believe I'm a good person, I have a good job, a wonderful daughter from my previous marriage and a friendly relationship with her mother. I have good moral values and I dont cheat, lie or habitually break hearts. I feel as though I've been dumped! I'll not miss her, it was hard work at the worst and very passionate at the best, I think maybe I'll miss the "relationship", I think... I feel as though there are some unresolved issues on my end, but she's the sort of person who wouldn't entertain them, is probably happy enough not to have to see me again, I'd like to be able to say Hi when I passed by at least. Maybe I'm being selfish and thinking that because I feel the need to get closure (hate that word!) on it, she should feel the same and allow me that at least. I dont want her to hate me, I dont use that emotion, it has no place. Question is, how do I move on and let myself be happy again with all the above said, should be a no-brainer eh?
birdie Posted August 31, 2007 Posted August 31, 2007 I'm not sure if I'm understanding exactly what you are saying. It sort of sounds to me that you ended a relationship with somebody because you didn't feel they cared enough about you and gave you the attention/love you wanted. So even though you broke up with her, it feels as if she had left the relationship already? If this is what you mean then all I can say is that some people just don't have the need for a healthy and properly functioning relationship. They are happy to stay in something dysfunctional and not deal with underlying issues. You will never be able to get an answer from her because she may not even understand what you wanted from her.
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