AngeloWolfe Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 I haven't thought about the past year until today... since I've been telling myself I'm a lot stronger now.. but today would have been our year anniversary, and I wanted some opinions on the situation.. *takes a deep breath*: My ex-girlfriend and myself met back in August a year ago... and immediately fell in love. It was the best experience I've ever had. She came into my life, gave me the feeling of being on top of the world. I loved her so much. She was my 'first', she stole my heart and my virginity. It seemed so perfect. But.. in June, I had planned to marry her. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl - even her mother was going to help us get a place together. We were so perfect. When I went to go pick her up from her 'supposedly' friend's house, I walked into her cheating on me with her ex-boyfriend. I felt my whole world crumble... something so beautiful we had, and here she is.. stabbing me in the back like this. I went into further detail and found out how I had been used. In January, she started talking to her ex again, thought it was funny how she was using all of my money, all sorts of thigns I don't want to repeat. It hurt.. it hurt a lot. This was the girl of my dreams... MY JULIET. I broke up with her the minute I saw her doing this. Two days later, she starts dating this 28 (She's 19) year old man, moves in with him 2 weeks later, and... blah.. *I'm 18, by the way*. I look back for so long and wondered if I did something long. Did I love TOO much? Did I care TOO much? Did I give TOO much? I just couldn't believe that it wasn't my fault waht she did.. but that was 3 months ago. Now - I'm with someone else. SHe's sweet, loving, beautiful, and we're happy together. My ex is always around us, however. I completely cold-shoulder her, but sometimes... I just can't even look at her. It doesn't hurt anymore.. I just get a bad taste in my mouth every time I look in her direction. Am... am I wrong for still feeling hurt? Even though I've 'technically' moved on?
trendyaznchica Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 I don't think you're wrong for still feeling hurt. My ex who emotionally abused me still comes to visit me specifically sometimes, and I smile and laugh around him, but behind the facade, I am disgusted by him and by what he did to me. I was in a great relationship until about a week ago, but when he came to visit me while I was still with that boyfriend, I still felt hurt, although I didn't show it. I am the kind of person to bear grudges... I don't forgive and forget. It's just a part of your personality, and as long as you don't let it get to you or affect your current relationship, the bad taste in your mouth just reminds you what kind of person she really is.
loveinlife Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 I am happy that you found someone new, i guess its a good reminder of the bad and the good. w/o knowing what a bad girl is like, you wouldn't have cherished the current one you have. Good story Angel... gives me hope too =)
Curious139 Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 You are perfectly normal to still feel hurt. You invested time and love in this girl - and she let you down. Anyone with a decent sense of compassion and love would be deeply hurt and it doesn't just evaporate. Time will heal this wound. Don't be angry with her or hate her. Those are negative emotions and will only affect you own self image. I'm glad you have found someone better - wonderful.
Author AngeloWolfe Posted September 1, 2007 Author Posted September 1, 2007 Well.. trying to keep up with this wonderful process. My ex is trying to attack our stability and make drama every time we turn around. SHe's done nothing but try to twist our friends around, that they have to choose between her or me. And.... I got tired of it. So, I confront her with it and told her that she needed to cut a trail, and stop trying to cause trouble. We're sick of trying to be her friend, and she needed to just go bother someone else with her problems. She started going around school (I know.. High School drama, what fun, right?) and whining to every person that would listen to her deceitful ways, saying how she has done 'nothing' wrong to me, and how I treated her like crap today. So, she's turned lots of people against me, made me out like some monster. I... I'm kind of worried. I mean, I got my point across, and she knows I'm through with her completely. But... it bothers me, you know? What do I do now?
Lyssa Posted September 1, 2007 Posted September 1, 2007 It isn't fair is it that people like your ex exist? But that's life. Without people like her, we wouldn't know what hurt is, how backstabbing effects your life etc. I know it is hard to ignore her because you both are attending the same school but just try to. Let her do her things - telling stories to your friends - in the end, people will know better. It may not seem that way right now but they'll come around and she's left with no friends in the end.
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