ttn22 Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 I've posted other threads on here but I'm going to try and make this short. My husband of 3 yrs has left me a month ago. I have moved out and now live with my parents. We have a little boy together so it makes it hard to do the nc thing. I tell my self everyday not to text him and call him but i end up giving in and it only makes me feel worse. One tme he iddn't answer the phone and i think i even ended up calling him 10 times in a row(i know...)He wrote me an e-mail last week saying that he missed me and our family, but he doesn't miss the bad things. Then when he came to pick up our son the other day he gave me a long hug and said he missed me and wanted to talk(as friends). He said he didn't know when, so I gave it a couple days and he still hadn't called. Thats when I fell back into the trap and started calling and texting him so many times. He told me to stop being so overbearing, and that if i hadnt called him he would have already called me by now. HE was the one that wanted to talk to me! So now I'm just trying the nc thing and I'm having a really hard time. I still love him and have a little hope that maybe we'll get back together one day. How do i stop being so needy?:lmao:
kirikat Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Listen, if the two of you have a child together, you need family therapy. NOT necessarily for staying together, but rather for how to seperate. Because - you will ALWAYS be a family. Your ties to this man will be forever, and you've got to find a way to make the family healthy, even if you are parted as husband and wife. I seperated from my husband when my son was 2.5 years old, and its hard. I desperately miss the family life we had, and we have both had to work very hard to make it work for our boy. Part of the reason you are "going crazy" is that you had a specific identity as a wife and mother, and as part of a nuclear family unit. When that shatters, it takes a while to figure out who you are independantly of that union. Please, find a counselor for your self... and then, go as well as a family. You WILL get through this. You will love again, laugh again - and you will find YOURSELF again. I promise.
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