aries22 Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Hey everyone. I'm new to this. So here's the story...i'm 22 my now ex is 27. we went out for 7 months. they were very intense. we fell in love in a month, talked about marriage and kids and everything and i became very close to his family. since we started going out we would fight a lot. always over stupid things. he has major insecurity issues, is very sensitive, overdramatic, and jealous. he used to get mad when i didn't answer his phone calls even if i was in the shower and couldn't. we would argue over where to go for dinner but it would turn into a blow out where he would just leave my house and go home for the night and not talk to me till the next day. in the beginning of the relationship, i could deal with all the fighting but towards the end it happened so much (like once a week or every couple days) that he just kept pushing me away. towards the end of our relationship he would call me from work and tell me how much he missed me/loved me but i wouldn't feel the same. i felt so horrible and didn't want to be feeling like that. i wasn't in love with him anymore but still love him. some days i would be good around him but other days i would feel awkward. kinda like we were both on a different page. he was soo in love with me but i wasn't. he made me cry all the time when we fought and didn't think it was a big deal. the night before i ended it, he told me that i'll never find a guy as great as him because he never cheated on me, lied to me, abused me, or anything like that. and i told him he still made me unhappy and cry all the time. he is an amazing guy and did treat me very well despite all the fighting but i guess toward the end i just had enough of it. like i was emotionally drained. i asked him if he would ever change and drop the insecurities and he said "this is me, this is how i've always been, i'm not going to change". so thats when i ended it. i couldn't see myself crying all the time and fighting with someone on a weekly basis like that. he always got mad at me for everything and i hated that. in our relationship he has broken up with me 7 times. that is how he deals with arguments. i don't want someone that just breaks up after a fight, they should be willing to work it out. i am doing ok so far. i thought it would be a lot worse. i don't cry myself to sleep. i cry a little everyday but most days im ok. he's always on my mind, i can't stop thinking about him but im hoping it will get better. we ended very badly too. he told me since this time i broke up with him, that he never wants to see/talk to me again or have anythng to do with me and that he'll never take me back. he then told me that i'm going to regret this and that in a few months when i see him with (some hot piece of a**) on his arm that i'm going to wish it was me. he called me some other nasty names that i'd rather not say. do you guys think i did the right thing by breaking it off? I know my friends and family all think I did the right thing because they always saw me cry with him but now i guess i'm sorta starting to miss him, but i don't think i want him back.
CrazyPanda Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 You've done the right thing. No questions about it. The guy you are describing is in no way in form a good guy. I would say he's a "loser" from the recent article I read a few days ago. You're a strong women to be able to endure all of this from him but then again I figure the two of you were going through the "honeymoon" phase and as soon as that was over, you saw what he really was. Better late then never. I know you miss him becuase you two have been through quite a bit, but this guy doesn't deserve you or any of your time. Telling a a person that you will miss me, im perfect and I will have a "hot piece of a**" soon is no where near a man to be in a relationsip in. He never cared about your emotions and feelings, he was only concern with himself I believe. Hence, he never respected you if he just let you cried every night and be able to play with your emotions without guilt. The best thing he has ever said to you is to never talk/see him again. You should move on with your life, this guy was no good.
marty Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 yeah you did the right thing. i'm not so sure he's a 'bad' guy. but he does sound like he's very very insecure somehow.but thats not for you to concern yourself with. he needs to deal with that, or he'll never settle. no contact,, and move on,, you deserve better.
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