coffee_addict Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 hey all so my gay guy friend, who i have known for 8 years, and who i used to be really really close with (we went out for 2 weeks before he was gay lol, and before and after we went out we stayed best best friends, telling each other everything, spending loads of times, etc.) - by the way i didnt turn him gay lol he had another girlfriend after me! anyhoo.....in recent years, we have become distant. im a quiet person, although i can be loud and whatever else when i want to be. he however is always loud, and is immature and will say things like 'you're wel-CUM!' and other things involving body parts and sex lol....its just how he is :S anyway, he, myself, and another of our friends we have known for 8 years, moved away to university last september. in our time there, he and the other friend kept pretty close, while i seemed to lose touch and hardly saw him near the end of the year, maybe for the last few months, as he met a whole group of people that he pretty much ended up living with and spending every hour of the day with. this really hurt me, as i love him more than a friend, but at the same time dont want to be with him. i have tried talking to him about the fact we dont spend time together, how this upsets me, how i wish it wud change, etc etc, an he always says it will change and we will hang out more, and he doesnt want to lose me, and how im too important to him and we will never fully drift apart because he wont let us. i feel to him, that means maybe hanging out every so often - so that we dont fully drift apart, but with friends like this (my best best friends) i cant just see them 'once in a while' i need to keep contact close and frequent, thats just how i am. hes put a picture of me and our other friend we went to uni with in his heroes section on myspace, so i dont know what that says. he is an unreliable person, says he'll call and then doesnt, turns up late to stuff, or sometimes doesnt come at all, and then makes excuses, to everyone, although i feel he does it a lot with me and i dont like that. whats the deal with him? if u have any questions please ask, ive just rambled and maybe havent included things that people would need to know to form opinions......but any replies, opinions, advice, would be great. he can be great when he wants to be, and will make the effort with some people, but not with me, itd have to be weeks of no contact before he thought 'hey i havent seen S---- in a while' - but with other people he will regularly call them to hang out or see what theyre up to. does he just flat out not want to be best mates anymore, or even mates? and just says he does when i confront him because he doesnt want to have to say it to me? help
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