Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 I've placed this in the "coping" section because snooping on your ex on myspace is clearly a form, if maladaptive, of "coping." What could my ex be doing on myspace? He has one picture of himself, and no information other than "single," "[astrological sign]," "i don't want kids." His only "friend" is the infamous Tom, and he signs in only about once every month, if that. He's not a person to display personal information on sites like MySpace. Also, all his friends and siblings are in Facebook and since he's not on any of their friends lists, he doesn't have a facebook account (I know, I really do my research--so sad:p). My friends all tell me that no one would want to date someone on myspace who put up so little information, and I can't imagine him trolling local girls' myspace pages looking for a little sum'sum. He's just not like that. I have a myspace account, but I barely use it--it has the same amount of information on it as his. So my question to those of you more versed in myspace's offerings than I am is: What is he doing on MySpace??? Please satiate my curiosity. Thank you:rolleyes:.
melodymatters Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 probably just bored, started a page, then, when even MORE bored, remembers to check it. At least thats what I do on myspace !
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 Pul-lease, Unders... This page is purely regarding MySpace frivolity and maladaptive coping strategies! I'll answer your question on my, ahem, more *serious* thread.
underpants Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 My apologies Greencove. I just wondered if that may have been the reason for the visit. My experience with My Space is that you can really never know. I have been guilty of pimpin the myspace of an ex . Then politely refusing mutual friends requests to start my own :sick:. In my case it was a whole lotta silly drama that led to :sick::sick: and me taking some dramamine and ceasing all myspace visits with exception of some band peeps I know who send me a regular email to tell me they have an upcoming gig. If you have one also he probably has clicked on your page too. You just can't read anything significant into it. IME.
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 You're right. But you know how it is--you read all kinds of things into the little scraps you find about estranged people on the internet. I'm curious--what happened with your MySpace? What was all the :sick:?
Citizen Erased Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Why do you really care why he is on there?
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 Because I care. I can't help it. I just do. I miss him. I wish he were an as*hole, because then I wouldn't, but he's not one, and so I miss him, and want to know what he's up to. And as we all know, a person's myspace page is a 100% truthful representation of the status of a person's whole life and social relations
Citizen Erased Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Because I care. I can't help it. I just do. I miss him. I wish he were an as*hole, because then I wouldn't, but he's not one, and so I miss him, and want to know what he's up to. And as we all know, a person's myspace page is a 100% truthful representation of the status of a person's whole life and social relations Well by the sounds of it he doesn't do much to his myspace, and he hasn't added any friends. So you aren't going to get much info from that PLEASE don't become one of those weird myspace stalkers that turn up on here
underpants Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Because I care. I can't help it. I just do. I miss him. I wish he were an as*hole, because then I wouldn't, but he's not one, and so I miss him, and want to know what he's up to. And as we all know, a person's myspace page is a 100% truthful representation of the status of a person's whole life and social relations You got a good out loud from me on that one. Seriously it is understandable that you did look. Maybe even smart to see his 'status'. You looked, you saw. Now, if you keep checking it that is going to be a road block for you. No looking until Sept 10. As far as my personal my space drama. That is filed under "PCI" for potentially criminally insane. It would take too long to give all the gory details and for a long time I was ...sort of...afraid. Now I realize that he just has a burning need to file and categorize all 8 (at my last count) of his ex girlfriends into an online order (ha, his top 8, I guess). Of course anyone else he might entice with his blogs and poetry of his supreme greatness, well I guess for him this is icing on the cake that he does enjoy having and eating.
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 Well that all depends on him. If he starts friending those scantily clad chicks who bare themselves all over MySpace (I checked out the Women seeking Men classifieds just to get an idea of what he had available to him if he was checking out the classifieds), I will probably have to quit my job so that I can stalk full time. Because visiting MySpace, again as we all know, is such an all-important activity that employers are willing to give employees MySpace Visitation vouchers to abet their daytime stalking .
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 As far as my personal my space drama. That is filed under "PCI" for potentially criminally insane. It would take too long to give all the gory details and for a long time I was ...sort of...afraid. Now I realize that he just has a burning need to file and categorize all 8 (at my last count) of his ex girlfriends into an online order (ha, his top 8, I guess). Of course anyone else he might entice with his blogs and poetry of his supreme greatness, well I guess for him this is icing on the cake that he does enjoy having and eating. Oh God. Like a "MySpace Harem." Ew. Now I understand all the :sick::sick:s. Can't you "unfriend" him and thus remove yourself from his top 8? Can "Tom" be your knight in shining code and rescue you from your imprisonment?
underpants Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Oh God. Like a "MySpace Harem." Ew. Now I understand all the :sick::sick:s. Can't you "unfriend" him and thus remove yourself from his top 8? Can "Tom" be your knight in shining code and rescue you from your imprisonment? Oh, I do not have an account. He got his after we broke up. However, there is alot of passive aggressive stuff on there about me ...or was. Maybe since some more stuff, or so I am told. I don't visit it as I am sure he has a tracker and I don't feel the need to really know any longer. Heck, I would not be surprised to find out if he opened a fake account about me ...just to add me. He is sadly a very intelligent nut job. Also I was really pressured to open an account by some mutual friends (me thinks at his bidding..he is good and super manipulative). I just had to decline. He is predatory by nature and I was mistaken to befriend him.
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 Oh, I do not have an account. He got his after we broke up. However, there is alot of passive aggressive stuff on there about me ...or was. That's awful. At least he doesn't bother to hide his true colors:sick:. Maybe since some more stuff, or so I am told. I don't visit it as I am sure he has a tracker-- *Gulp* Wait, how's that? There are trackers? I've checked my ex's MySpace like, every day for months (before anyone says anything: I know, I know, ). I'd be mortified if he has a tracker that has been faithfully chronicling how pathetic I've been. Now I'm paranoid.... --and I don't feel the need to really know any longer. Heck, I would not be surprised to find out if he opened a fake account about me ...just to add me. He is sadly a very intelligent nut job. The worst kind. Well, he maybe having all the laughs on myspace, but you're having them IRL. Still, I'd check up on whether he started a fake myspace with your e-mail address. I just discovered a site called "Rapleaf" that collects data about people's e-mail addresses and gives a rating and enables friends and colleagues to rate you. It's pretty invasive, really--I googled myself (Yes, yes, I know, okay!??!!! My life has been, shall we say, a little pale lately) and discovered I somehow have a rapleaf account, which shows all the networking sites I joined with that account. Can't have any privacy anymore these days . Also I was really pressured to open an account by some mutual friends (me thinks at his bidding..he is good and super manipulative). I just had to decline. He is predatory by nature and I was mistaken to befriend him. I'm glad you got out from under his clutches. Do you still have to hear about him from the aforementioned mutual friends?
underpants Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 That's awful. At least he doesn't bother to hide his true colors:sick:. For those jaded enough and smart enough to see under all the layers of crazy covers. *Gulp* Wait, how's that? There are trackers? I've checked my ex's MySpace like, every day for months (before anyone says anything: I know, I know, ). I'd be mortified if he has a tracker that has been faithfully chronicling how pathetic I've been. Now I'm paranoid.... The worst kind. Well, he maybe having all the laughs on myspace, but you're having them IRL. Still, I'd check up on whether he started a fake myspace with your e-mail address. I just discovered a site called "Rapleaf" that collects data about people's e-mail addresses and gives a rating and enables friends and colleagues to rate you. It's pretty invasive, really--I googled myself (Yes, yes, I know, okay!??!!! My life has been, shall we say, a little pale lately) and discovered I somehow have a rapleaf account, which shows all the networking sites I joined with that account. Can't have any privacy anymore these days . I'm glad you got out from under his clutches. Do you still have to hear about him from the aforementioned mutual friends? Yes, the tracking thing is what made me stop looking. I tested it though and he is so transparent (at least to me now) that I looked via a friends pc. He changed his title the next day to 'who wants to know?' so that was obvious to me and my cue to just stop looking. I guess I was hoping for some enlightenment on his behalf but he lives in a drama vortex. Occasionally I do hear about him. Alot of people are put off by him, but not enough to take a stand. I just distance myself if it comes up. This rapleaf thing. I don't know what that is? Ignorance may be bliss. The one thing that really does bother me is that my home address and my name and even my picture for someone who wants to link is out there in that chain of myspace drama and I did ask that person to remove or change it to leave out those details and they just haven't. I really don't know how to deal with that effectively. I think that crosses the line. Especially since I am not even an active member on these sites.
Author Zapbasket Posted August 28, 2007 Author Posted August 28, 2007 Google "rapleaf" and then type in your e-mail address. I was horrified at how much information was there; I think it's a terrible invasion of privacy. I think there is something in the Myspace FAQ that addresses how to get information taken off the site that you don't want there or that you didn't put there. That's incredibly inconsiderate...especially when it's someone you know. What information does the tracker provide? ("The Tracker." Yeesh. Sounds like a modern-day version of "The Inquisition.")
underpants Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Google "rapleaf" and then type in your e-mail address. I was horrified at how much information was there; I think it's a terrible invasion of privacy. I think there is something in the Myspace FAQ that addresses how to get information taken off the site that you don't want there or that you didn't put there. That's incredibly inconsiderate...especially when it's someone you know. What information does the tracker provide? ("The Tracker." Yeesh. Sounds like a modern-day version of "The Inquisition.") From what I have heard is that if 2 peeps have a myspace account it will let you know who looked at your page. If only you have a myspace account you can see what IP addresses have visited your site (that would be my case as the visitor) and him as the maniac that analyses IP hits to glorify himself. Go ex. The name, address and picture info out there on me may just be clueless but I think it has the potential to put me in harms way if someone should stumble on it. I have asked twice.
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