ls707 Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 haha i'm back and forth between here and watching a movie so he's definatly not getting that much attention:p Umm, so, i guess ill ask again, how did this whole "cheating rumor" or "cheating" thing that you were involved in start? was it someone just looking to throw a wrench in your relationship or was it something that you did that caught someones attention as cheating and later told on you?
Author mizzy_C Posted August 29, 2007 Author Posted August 29, 2007 yay guys! so i totally did it. i stepped up and told him straight, if you want to be with me, you gota prove it. i'm tired of being a doormat for you its not working.. so this whole confusion thing, i think your gona have to go into deep thought about it and decide already. until then i think its best we don't talk, it'll make things easier........WOW i'm proud of myself! and in the end, if he doesn't want to be with me, i think i'll be okay with it.
Trialbyfire Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 Well done. Stick to your guns. Keep in mind that flakes do flake again. It's a pattern of behaviour that's hard to break when things get tough. It's so much easier to flake than to man up, belly up to the counter and take your medicine in a shot glass. While he's thinking about it, best that you think about whether this guy is worth keeping, if he chooses to come back. Good luck.
Author mizzy_C Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 so what's a good time period for NC. a few days? a week? more??? he's already trying to talk to me but i'm just ignoring him. but how long is a reasonable amount of time to put in before he actually knows whats going on in his brain?????? or atleast for us to talk again
Trialbyfire Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 You told him what you wanted right? If so, just tell him not to contact you until he's prepared to deliver what you need. Get his agreement to this course of action instead of just ignoring him. If he's passive-aggressive, telling him not to contact you will ensure he does...
Author mizzy_C Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 oh yeah i told him last night not to talk to me until he has his sh*t together. then just today, i had a smiley face in my display name, and of course he IM's me, 'i know im not supposed to talk to you, but i'm just curious, why are you so happy?' i didn't even bother answering, pff
Trialbyfire Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Yup, now stick to it. Until he has something worth listening to, don't respond.
Author mizzy_C Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 so whats an acceptible time period to give to him to get his act together. a week? longer?
Trialbyfire Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Why do you need a time limit? Haven't you put the ball in his court? It's up to you how long you want to wait for him, before moving on.
Author mizzy_C Posted August 31, 2007 Author Posted August 31, 2007 sooo update.... he sent me a message today durring his lunch, telling me that it was over. so i guess that is that. little bit bummed out but what can you do i guess.. i think i did try hard enough for him.. probably a little too hard. just sucks when he doesn't appreciate how i've been trying to make it work and he still let it slip away. time to move on i suppose
Author mizzy_C Posted September 2, 2007 Author Posted September 2, 2007 okay guys i'm a bit freaked out:( so he broke up with me. alright whatever, past few days really woke me up with reality..i knew it probably wasn't going to work anyways. so whatever. but his behavior is freaking me out. today i was hanging out with a male friend who was friends with me and my ex before we broke up. so me and my friend we were driving, and we seen my ex on the road. he gave me a look like, what the hell are you doing!! so im like oh god, i don't want trouble from him. so me and my male friend pulled up to the gas station, he got out to buy cigs and i sat in his car. then my ex pulls up, right beside the car that im sitting in, and gives me the evilest glare ever. then pulls up beside the gas station door and stomps in. here i'm thinking, comes trouble. so he walked in to go talk to my male friend and im sitting in the car for about 5 mins and then both of them walked out. i didnt know if my ex was going to b*tch him out or what he was going to do. but my friend said he was cool, just came in to talk to him about a party going on later. then about 2 hours later i get a text from my ex, calling me a slut and asking how long that this has been going on. what the hell! why does he even care. and why would he act all cool to my male friend and put all the blame on me. is that dumb or is that dumb!!! his behavior is weird.. should i be worried its gonna become a problem? i don't even know what to think anymore about my ex, he is so unpredictable. help!?
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