Bunnybell Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 My boyfriend (ex) and I broke up about 2 weeks ago, and in the grand scheme of things we did not date very long, (about 7 months), but it was a bit intense, we went through an unplanned pregnancy and then a painful miscarriage in month 4 and 5. After which many of his friend's and family told him that he needed to get out and be single and just have fun. I think after a couple months of this it got to him and confused his emotions, and we broke up. I was devastated, because this was really out of the blue for me. Since then, we have talked a couple times, attempting to reach some closure and understanding from where each is coming from, and I thought we did a good job of being honest and expressing what happened. I, being a couple years older then him (I'm 25, He's almost 23), do understand where he was coming from, in regards to his need to "live it up" in this period of his youth, I spent almost three years having a fab single life before I met him, so I really do get it, however, he seems highly confused about a lot of his emotions. He says that he is in love with me, cares about me, misses me, and thinks about me all the time, when he found out I went out with another guy (he's just a friend, no romantic feelings), he got really upset and said all these different situations went through his head. He's also suggested that we get back together at some point in the future, saying that the relationship we had is the one he wants when he's ready for a relationship. I really just want to get over him and move on. I do still love him very much, and it hurts me to be away from him, but the confusion he's going through right now and his uncertainty hurts me more, because it gives me hope, so it's preventing me from achieving the closure I need. I guess that's more or less what I'm looking for help on the closure part. I desperately want to get over him, I've been through one other hard break up, and I know that sometimes it just takes time, but is there anything else I can do or say? I want so much for the pain of this to go away, for the memories to stop popping up, and for the everyday things to stop reminding me of him and our relationship.
birdie Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 you have to do what is good for you and it sounds like you know what you want. you hate uncertainty and you want closure so I think you should cut contact with him. NC could also quite possibly sort out his emotions as well and decide what he really wants to do as well. maybe taking a little break from each other would do both of you good, you are too wrapped up in this
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