iceknite Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 I've been seeing this girl for about two weeks now and we've went out a couple times but i really cant say that we are boyfriend and girlfriend yet. but I've been told by a friend recently that he talked to her and she said that she doesn't think this relationship will go any further and that disapointed me cause I thought we had something going here. Well I guess my question is how do I impress her and let her know that I'm serious about taking this relationship further? I want to surprise her and make her think "Wow, I was wrong about this guy". Ant help would be apreciated.
monkey00 Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 but I've been told by a friend recently that he talked to her and she said that she doesn't think this relationship will go any further Lost in translation. I dont think that's any real answer. I think you should get a real answer from her directly. It came from your friend and not her, or perhaps she may have phrased the words differently. But if she did say those exact words, it can either mean she's not looking for anything serious or simply lost interest. If that's the case, there isnt really much you can do...my only suggestion is ask her out for the third date and make it a fun action date.
Sleek Geek Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 Maybe she is sensing something you aren't? But if I were you, I wouldn't worry so much about trying to impress her on your next date. This might provoke the exact opposite effect. Women can tell when men try to impress them, and if we're on the fence about them, it can push us the other way. Go out with her as if you two are just buddies. Forget that you are trying to get this relationship to go anywhere. Make her see the fun you. Take her out and have fun, be yourself. Forget about trying to be in a relationship for now. And take a step back from the situation. Besides, you two just met so really, you can't possibly know yet that you are compatible enough to be in a relationship.
Author iceknite Posted August 27, 2007 Author Posted August 27, 2007 In response to monkey: your right maybe she really doesn't feel that way or she didn't say those exact words but she has been acting differently lately and I kinda suspected something like this was going on. As for the next date, give me a specific outing that you would recommend and would a party be a good outing, putting in perspective that there would be boose involved and we probably would get drunk?(yes she does drink so it wouldn't be the first time or anything like that)
Trialbyfire Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 Steer clear of making dating or relationship decisions based on third party information. It's easy to misunderstand or not explain the full context her remark came from, since the third party is not involved. If you want to know, ask her directly.
Yellowboy Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 It's only been two weeks so you have to come up with something exciting, not necessarily to impress her, but something different that will make her think, "Oh, didn't see that coming from this guy." However, if what your friend said is really true, be prepared as your days might be numbered. But that's the dating game...you win some, you lose lots.
monkey00 Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 As for the next date, give me a specific outing that you would recommend and would a party be a good outing, putting in perspective that there would be boose involved and we probably would get drunk?(yes she does drink so it wouldn't be the first time or anything like that) By doing this, you'd probably be pushing her away...i mean if you guys are going to be friends and that's fine by you. Afterall parties are where people get drunk and socialize with both the sexes, yes that means opening her to opportunities with other guys...if she's really lost interest, then it's bound to happen regardless. Action dates would include but arent limited to: skating/rollerblading, billiards, golf, etc...basically anything that doesnt involve sitting at a table or dark theather, but with more physical contact, excitement, playful banter, flirting, teasing, and the works...
maynard Posted August 29, 2007 Posted August 29, 2007 i say chill out. the last thing you want to do is "convince" her to like you more. it will never work. been there done that. dont call her all the time. keep it fun and casual and let her know by your actions that you can take it or leave it. sounds dumb, but it works worst case scenario is she doesnt take the bait, but you oriented yourself to not be as effected by it. best case is that she comes to you and is intrigued by you
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