FreeSpirit07 Posted August 26, 2007 Posted August 26, 2007 Hey all. I'm back with another relationship problem.. this time it's LDR. So I'm 16 years old. I've met this wonderful girl named Nicole. She is so amazing. She is very nice, has an awesome smile, and very social. We share many interests and have a lot in common. She loves my family and I love hers. We've even given each other nicknames. It's been going really, really well. Problem is she's 18 and off to college. Today was the day that she left for college, which is about 1 hour and 30 minutes from where I live. I had her over to my house last night and threw a little 'going away' party. I felt really, really sad though because I realized I wouldn't get to be with her as often as I would like; it would be maybe...twice a month or so while she's off to college. And she could tell that I was feeling sad. We both ended up crying in each others arms at the end of the night. I asked her what she was thinking about what we should do. I told her that I'd like to keep it going. Last night she mentioned that we "break up" for a bit, then get back together during the summer when she'd be back. Then, about 1 a.m. this morning she called me and said that she just couldn't break up with me. We love each other deeply. I've promised her that I wouldn't see anyone else, and I believe she said the same to me. Problem is.. I don't know if I can have trust in her. I'm kind of emotionally torn about what I should do.. She said that we will stay together for as long as it'll work out, but I'm not sure what's the smart thing to do. Any help with coping or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
catrocks Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 Why do you not know if you can have trust in her? If you want to make this work you have to be able to trust her, or you will drive yourself crazy. I suggest that you give it a month, see how things feel. You're both young, but that's no reason why it couldn't work if you didn't want it to. 1 hr 30 mins isn't far, and seeing each other twice a month really isn't bad... just think, she could have gone to college the other side of the country and you could only see each other when it was school holidays. You have to approach this with maturity - you have to be able to trust, communicate, and not do the "playing games" thing (annoying in any relationship but just imagine in a long distance one!). Try to spend time with your friends to take your mind off things, and don't dwell on things too much... just give it some time and see how you both feel. LDRs aren't for everyone, but the only way to find out is to give it a try
Author FreeSpirit07 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Posted August 27, 2007 Thanks for the advice. I'm pretty sure we both want this to work, so we'll give it a shot!
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