dreamer909 Posted August 26, 2007 Posted August 26, 2007 There's this girl that I really liked back in high school. I remember seeing her in the hallways, and my heart would always melt. Even today (I'm 27 now), I still think about her. The problem was that I was super shy back then, and never got the confidence to even talk to her, except maybe once or twice. I saw her profile on facebook recently, and wrote her a message. She replied thanking me for my message, and said it's been a long time since high school, and to refresh her memory..then asked me what I've been up to. I don't know if she even remembers me. I noticed on her profile that she has a bf, which broke my heart..but I kinda expected it. What can I do to get to know her better as friends while respecting her relationship? Would it be strange if I asked her to lunch, considering we were never really friends before? I still have strong feelings for her after 9 years..would it be wrong if I confessed my feelings to her after all these years? I know she's the really quiet, shy type. Anyone else have similar experiences?
sb129 Posted August 26, 2007 Posted August 26, 2007 I would tread carefully in this instance. High school crushes are hardly ever as amazing in reality as the fantasy was when you were at school, especially when 10 years have passed. Are you sure you aren't fantasising about an ideal that this girl represents to you? Also- I think asking her out to lunch is a bad idea. She barely remembers you (sorry if this is harsh, but it sounds true) and she has a boyfriend. Both are good reasons to leave it for now. The last thing you want is for her to think you are a stalker.
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