mental_traveller Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 There are three reasons he could have said it, that I can think of. i) He was just being honest and his new gf is more his type than you were. In which case, no need to get upset, since everyone has different taste. He was just talking about it normally with your bf and it wasn't intended for your ears. ii) He got jealous and wanted to appear better in your bfs eyes, or put one over him. Kinda like bragging - you hear one guy just got a BMW, so you'd love to be able to say you just bought a Porsche. Pretty pathetic but guys can be like that sometimes. Again, nothing you should be worried about, since he was just saying it to get at your bf. iii) He was jealous and wanted to hurt you for not choosing him. So he said this, hoping it would get back to you. Personally I think ii) is most likely, or maybe i). I wouldn't bother yourself about it - one person's opinion of your looks doesn't mean squat. If I reacted like that I would have to slash my wrists because quite a few women don't think I'm good looking! All that matters is whether your bf likes the way you look.
mental_traveller Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 I just can't imagine a conversation that goes like 'yeah, so I'm dating this girl.' 'oh, I just got involved with this girl who's prettier than the one you're dating.' like wtf...who actually says that? Welcome to the world of men! I'd say at least half guys under 30 have said that at some point. Just like they brag about who got into bed with the hottest chick at the party etc. Personally I think you should just at some point (not now, but in a few weeks or something) raise the issue that you're a bit sensitive about your looks and how people judge them. Then politely ask your bf if he wouldn't mind keeping it to himself if someone makes a potentially negative comment about how you look. Hopefully he'll get the picture. Say you'd rather hear something nice from him about you, than something bad from another person.
amber1 Posted August 28, 2007 Posted August 28, 2007 Don't take it personally. Sounds like the guy who said that was feeling some jealousy and didn't want your boyfriend to think he was really cool for getting you as his gf. Your bf shouldn't have mentioned this to you. They both sound pretty immature. But the thing is, don't take it personally. If anything, take it as a compliment because the guy who said it was probably envious that your bf has you and he doesn't.
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