Beauty28 Posted August 26, 2007 Posted August 26, 2007 Ok. So I have a dilemma. I met this guy on vaca in Miami. We hung out for a couple of days and I thought that since we lived in two different states (I live in Colorado) that there probably wasn't a chance that he'd keep in touch. But as soon as I got back he was texting me and calling me and we starting emailing eachother at home and work and he sent me a picture and I sent him a picture. Anyway this has been going on for about 3 months and then suddenly he stopped contacting me. Basically about a month ago he told me that 2 weeks before he met me, he had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and he hasn't really gotten a chance to "get out there" yet but that he still wanted to see me again and he kept telling me that he was going to come out here to see me. However since he is a lawyer, he's been busy with his job so he hasn't had a chance to. Anyhow 2 weeks ago, I sent him a little card that said "Thinking of you" and I wrote a little something inside stating "I hope your giving yourself time to realize that I am your one and only." and sent him 4 pictures of me and put little kisses in the card. Anyhow.... I basically think that I scarred him away because he hasn't contacted me since. Well he called the day after he got it and left me a message and told me he'd call me the nex day but never did. And it's been 2 weeks and I am dying. The thing is that I didn't think that he'd take it the wrong way because I've joked like this with him before. But I think maybe he realizes that I was serious and he got scarred and realizes that he didn't want to go any further. Anyhow, I know I messed up! How do I change things? Or do you even think that that's why he hasn't called?? Please help!!!
Author Beauty28 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Posted August 27, 2007 For those experts that can offer me some sound advice.
Trialbyfire Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 Why in the world do you want a guy who gets scared so easily? Also, didn't you want exclusivity? Just toss him into the box of cornflakes with the other flakes, and move on. If he contacts you later with some excuse, you can decide at that point what you're willing to accept.
Author Beauty28 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Posted August 27, 2007 Yes I did want to be exclusive but it's hard when you live far away and someone just got out of a relationship. I guess your right though, if he's gotten scared then he probably isn't the one for me, although I really liked him alot. Thanks for your advice.
Trialbyfire Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 You're welcome. Think about it this way. Imagine yourself getting closer to him, to the point where you're 100% invested and even talking about long-term plans. Then he flakes on you again. Imagine how you will feel then. You need a guy who's going to be consistent with his interest. No games, just pure interest so you can progress forward with a relationship. Good luck. These guys are out there. Just keep looking.
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