stressedgurl15 Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 so i told my fiance today that i wanted to wait a little bit befor we get married because there are still things in life that have to figure out on my own he took it really good and said we can wait as long as i want but he looked kinda of upset when i told him this i dont know should i trust him or not with the age gape im always wondering if he will find somebody his own age that is ready to settle down and start there life i have know idea if he's really ok with my choice in waiting a few yeras til we get married or not what should i do?
yergawd Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 I'm happy to hear that you told him . Ok so now you are wondering what if he looks around? correct? I can almost gaurantee you he has the same thoughts. "What if she finds someone else that doesn't want to settle down yet? What if she just wants to have fun?" Also do you want to be with someone that would say "well you didn't do exactly what I wanted so I'll find someone else to do what I want when I want." That means you are replaceable. If he thinks your relationship is that replaceable would you want to be with him forever? I'm sure he feels less secure in your relationship also. This is not a bad thing. You spoke your mind and expressed your thoughts. great!!! This is what a relationship is all about. making eachother happy but not willing to make yourself unhappy in the process. Do whatever you can to make your BF happy. But be sure it's all things that you want to do. Don't do anything that will make yourself unhappy and he should do the same for you. When you come to a point where you have to make compromises make them so that you both are satisfied. This is how a great relationship should work. GREAT JOB ON SPEAKING UP THIS SHOWS A HUGE AMOUNT OF MATURITY KEEP IT UP!!!!!!:D
Diplok Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 i am 16 and he is 25 At 16 you shouldn't be dating a 25 year old man. He is a man, you are a child, period.
yergawd Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 At 16 you shouldn't be dating a 25 year old man. He is a man, you are a child, period. It is in our nature to try and tell people what they should and shoud not do. Bottom line we can't. But what we can do is try to give our advice and experience. If people listen good, if not that is their choice. But imposing our will does everyone no good
Author stressedgurl15 Posted August 25, 2007 Author Posted August 25, 2007 i know it seems like a really big gape in the ages but you have to think how many people out there that are married to someone 10 to 15 years older then them they way i look at it is you cant chose love,love choses you theres no controling it how long it last ,or who its with
amber1 Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 At 16 you shouldn't be dating a 25 year old man. He is a man, you are a child, period. I'm glad someone finally said this. It's also pretty creepy on his part.
amber1 Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 i know it seems like a really big gape in the ages but you have to think how many people out there that are married to someone 10 to 15 years older then them they way i look at it is you cant chose love,love choses you theres no controling it how long it last ,or who its with Yeah, but those people are usually 18+. I honestly would look for someone closer to your own age. I know it is hard to hear but there will most likely be many problems later on if you stay with this guy.
kymberann Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 16, what the he...... I would not even let my 15 yr old even consider it. And I would not care if the other person were close to her age. Forget the age gap. This is illegal!!!! Even if you are not having sex! Live life, experience ups and downs before you settle and stay away from adults until you are one!
Author stressedgurl15 Posted August 25, 2007 Author Posted August 25, 2007 age is not the matter when it comes to love the only thing thats diffrence in the ages are that he has gone trough life and had more expriences then me but i love legal or not and nothing will ever change that you wont no how it is till you are the one its happing to
jcster Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 If he really loves you, he will wait for you. You have good reasons for waiting, and he will just have to understand.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 nothing will ever change spoken like a teenager who thinks she's in love. no offense, honey, but at 16, you should give yourself an engagement period of about 10 years before you decide this is the right thing. if you're still together when you're 26 and he's 35, and it's a healthy relationship, go for it. and don't tell me i don't know what i'm talking about, i was younger than you dating someone older than him. it doesn't work out, because it's NOT SUPPOSED TO.
IpAncA Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 age is not the matter when it comes to love the only thing thats diffrence in the ages are that he has gone trough life and had more expriences then me but i love legal or not and nothing will ever change that you wont no how it is till you are the one its happing to Oh spare me the "you don't know how it is." You don't even know what its like to be a women in a committed relationship that's full of responsibilities and duties because your still a kid. Your 16 who is still developing and believe us or not you will change. Sure age shouldn't matter and for a lot of people it doesn't but get your head out of the love tunnel vision and see what your getting yourself into. The difference here is that your both on two different levels.You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't do something you'll regret later in life. Now I'm not saying you should break up with him but please wait. If your so in love with him then waiting shouldn't matter and if he's so in love with you, then he shoul be glad to get you anyway he can.
Author stressedgurl15 Posted August 26, 2007 Author Posted August 26, 2007 ok so heres some good news me and my fiance went down to the court house and got are marrige lisencs and we are tieing the knot this comeing up saturday im so happy and i cant wait we are also moving next month to japan were he is going to be stationed the navy sucks but japan is something new and im just happy i get to exprienc with him:love:
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