budd98 Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Something about my ex is really bothering me. In the 2.5 years we were together, I have never found any evidence that she had cheated on me. Some other people have told me she has with certain people though, but not sure if they were rumors or true. Anyways, Last week I had come by her place late unannounced and could see her in the bedroom window watching a movie with another guy. They were talking and giggling. I called/knocked, but not answer. She eventually called the copps on me and I went home. I have been amazing to this girl but she suffers bad depression. The next morning she texts me saying "I haven't done anything with anyone." Then "I'm sick of you blaming me for the things your doing." What does everyone think? Do you think she has been hooking up with this guy? Its been 4 days since this incedent and her last text was thursday, but I still haven't responded to anything.
Lizzie60 Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Something about my ex is really bothering me. In the 2.5 years we were together, I have never found any evidence that she had cheated on me. Some other people have told me she has with certain people though, but not sure if they were rumors or true. Anyways, Last week I had come by her place late unannounced and could see her in the bedroom window watching a movie with another guy. They were talking and giggling. I called/knocked, but not answer. She eventually called the copps on me and I went home. I have been amazing to this girl but she suffers bad depression. The next morning she texts me saying "I haven't done anything with anyone." Then "I'm sick of you blaming me for the things your doing." What does everyone think? Do you think she has been hooking up with this guy? Its been 4 days since this incedent and her last text was thursday, but I still haven't responded to anything. Why do you keep starting threads about the same thing? Leave her alone... geeeezz... get a life dude! This is insane.
Author budd98 Posted August 25, 2007 Author Posted August 25, 2007 Cuase I'm triing to get over it all and it helps me to keep venting my random thoughts.
Lostgurl Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 It's not going to help you if you keep on thinking and dwelling on things like this. This girl wasn't good for you. I know it's hard to stop dwelling on the break up, but for your own piece of mind, it's what you need to do. Why not go to the gym? Get out of the houe. Go and have a few beer with your buds, anything just get your mind off her. Take care.
underpants Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Cuase I'm triing to get over it all and it helps me to keep venting my random thoughts. Of course, Getting over it is a process. This is a great place to go through that process. Welcome aboard. (ha, I sound like Captin Stewbing) From what you write here and in that other thread she sounds a little immature, and well, a little unstable. I am sure you love(d) her and breaking up just sucks. You need to wrap your head around the idea that she is not all that. Once you realize that you are free to find a better partner for you. This experience will be a liberating experience. Her little texts (gosh, text messages annoy me) are tiny attempts to alleviate guilt or to draw you back into her drama. Turning you words and actions against you. This is such a little game. Rise above the whole experience. She called the cops on you. That is a HUGE signal to back off. You need to take a few months away from this chick. Commit yourself to no contact for at least 3 months. Ignore the text messages (that is weak). After a few months of self improvement and not having a drama queen in your life I bet your whole perception of things might just change. Give it a go.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 I'm not sure why you are making your ex's personal life your business. Even if she did cheat on you while you were with you, there is nothing you can do about that now. Anything you continue to do like you described will result in you finding yourself on the losing end of a restraining order.
sedgwick Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Have you posted, like, three threads about the same thing? I'm sorry this is happening to you, but the fact that you are stalking her to the point that she has to call the cops (which has only one "p", incidentally) is ruining any chances you may have with her. I once broke up with someone, was considering getting back together with him, and then decided based on his incessant calls and driving by my apartment that it was a good idea to stay apart. If someone sat outside my place until I had to call the authorities, that would be it. It would absolutely be over. I couldn't have any respect for someone who did that to me. If you don't trust her enough not to behave this way, she's probably not right for you anyway. I mean, if I thought I was with a guy who couldn't even allow me to hang out with my male friends -- my best friend is male and we've certainly spent many nights sitting up laughing -- I'd run away, fast. The ONLY hope you have of regaining her respect is to stop stalking her.
Author budd98 Posted August 25, 2007 Author Posted August 25, 2007 I've always given her my trust 100%, but just had a suspition of something being up that week. The crazy part about it is that I had been hoping I would catch her with another guy for months now. I only hoped that because I knew it would then be over. I don't know why I always try to work things out even though I know I get treated so poorly. She has never trusted anyone and accused me of everything every day. I have never held her back from anything or stalked her or called her names. This was a one time thing to try and get my answer or closure. And she swore she wasn't at her apartment that night, so I told her I would wait on the curb until she showed up to proove me wrong. Thats when the copps showed up. Believe me, having the cops come is like the worst thing ever. The crazy part about it is that earlier that day she kept texting me asking why I don't ask her to marry her. Obvious reasons wouldn't you say!
birdie Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 I think the two of you got involved in this game which is very unhealthy and dysfunctional. I think you got to depend on her for drama and it's hard for you to get out. I do understand it, it's hard for getting a person out of your head, however, you must be able to find a way to take control of the situation! Cut contact with her, you deserve much better than this. Find a girl who is able to have a healthy, normal relationship and doesn't have issues. Do you really want to be this unhappy for the rest of your life?
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