not sure what to think

[Ricky]

Hiyall,1 week ago my wife of 4 years had split up because I did not give enough quality time an so forth.I am working on myself as I want our marrage to work cause I loveher with all my heart.I know I did not show it like I should but I know where I went wrong.Time went by as she asked for her space and not to bug her,so I respected her and did not bug her at all.It is now friday night and she says she needs the weekend and will let me know on sunday.Now,today she called me and told me that she wants to come home but just wants the rest of the weekend to think.

We have a 3 year old little girl.Our daughter is staying with me this weekend.

My wife said that she could not really think much around my daughter which is understandable as she was taking care of her all week.

Now that I have our daughter she said just giveher the weekend.Well she had said she wants to come home sunday but I am confused why she needs the weekend if she knows she wants to come home now?

Please help me out here,confused

Thanks

Ricky

[Gunny376]

Generally speaking ~ men and women think differently. Women not only think in cognitive terms, but also much more intuitively (aka women's intuition) Additionally they pay more attention to detail than men, and are much more adapt at reading subtle nuiances and body language.

 

Now take that and with most women being much more in tune with their emotional minds, and what your wife is asking for is some time to reconcile her cognitive, intuitive, and emotional states of mind. Thus your confusion ~ because as a man you would simply use your cognitive reasoning (either a thing is or isn't, either your in or your out etc.)

 

With that said? What are you going to do IF she does come back? Her coming back on Sunday, doesn't mean a thing. It means you've only gotten a temporary reprive from something of a more permanent nature.

 

Par the course, what is required here is self-discovery, and self examination. You've got to "fix" yourself, before you can fix "us"

 

Now this is something that you're going to have to do wheather the marriage survives or not? Its the necessary work that we all have to do, at one time or another in our lives sooner or later? Some do, most don't ~ and end up stumbling and fumbling through life!