What led you to Loveshack?????????

[halfarock]

What brought you here?

How did you find the shack?

What has kept you here?

 

I had read somewhere else about this trend, I guess you could call it, of ‘how it get women’ advice going around (for a price) that includes this bit of making fun of a woman’s shoes or dress or whatever and that somehow this taps into women’s psychological make up – making the guy irresistible. I googled all kinds of stuff trying to find a site that would give an honest insight into this. All I kept coming up with was discussion boards of guys that can’t get women giving advise to each other on how to get women.

 

Anyhow, along the way I stumbled upon Love Shack. I liked it because it is the only site that I’ve come across that has both men and women posters, a wide variety of opinion and enough posters that it remains lively. Plus relationships and the associated drama infinitely fascinates me – it’s why I carry one with several women at a time.

 

I still keep thinking that eventually that I am going to start a thread to see if any woman would find me interesting if I made fun of her shoes.

[birdie]

originally found 'loveshack' when I was trawling through the internet looking at websites about people's behaviour in relationships.

 

I used to see this guy for a few months, we broke up but kept in touch because we liked each other. Tried to get back together but failed - reading through other's experiences here helped me to recognise the underlying reason.

 

Now I'm stuck here putting in my two-pennies' worth whenever given the chance

[SoHotZanzibar]

I am still lurking and i have yet decided if this website can help me, if I actually need it

[Diplok]

The question is ..........

 

What brought you here?

How did you find the shack?

What has kept you here?

 

 

I came here for advice. I never posted about my situation because I'm a very private person. I know this is just a forum and posting and getting advice would greatly help me but It's hard to talk about it. It's only been 3 weeks and I am still hurting very much. I think about her day and night. But, slowly i realized that she just didn't love me the way she said she did. She hasn't tried to contact me once after the breakup. And her reason for breaking up with me were trivial non-sense. Every one in my family kept telling me, just wait, she'll call. There's no way she's going to let someone like you get away. Well, they were all wrong. Three weeks later she hasn't called. It's OK, I am slowly moving on. It's been hard to resist the urge to call her but she just doesn't care about me. I tried during the first couple of days after breaking up to talk to her but she refused to even meet me (she broke up with me via phone.)

 

I found this place one night I was desperately crying to god asking him why on hell did he put this girl in my path. And yes, guys cry too. I googled "She won't even call me." Somehow I ended up in this place and it has been very therapeutic.

 

What keeps me here is that I am still heartbroken and looking for answers. But, I'll stick around even after the heartbreak is gone.

[lino]

What brought you here? My ex girlfriend dumped me

How did you find the shack? Google

What has kept you here? I'm interested in what others have to say

[Pyro]

I found out about this place through an old friend of mine and I came here with some questions regarding my ex and her behavior. I only started one thread regarding her. The rest of what I needed to know I read from other threads. As I read on, I enjoyed the sense of humor that this place has and I really enjoyed the advice and support that is on here, so I decided to stay.

[Trimmer]

My wife started out with "I think I want to see a counselor to figure some things out" to "I don't love you any more and I don't want to be married to you" within a couple of months. In the hazy period that followed, I somehow stumbled here; I don't even remember how - probably google. Like Rid, I didn't post a whole lot asking about my own situation, but I did a heck of a lot of reading. While I don't think LS is a representative cross section of ALL people (I hope there are lots of successful, stable relationships out there!) it has an amazing, diverse, intelligent population, and I really value what I've learned here.

[Lishy]

I found out about this place through an old friend of mine and I came here with some questions regarding my ex and her behavior. I only started one thread regarding her. The rest of what I needed to know I read from other threads. As I read on, I enjoyed the sense of humor that this place has and I really enjoyed the advice and support that is on here, so I decided to stay.

 

Don't Lie Riddley Poo's, you came here to stalk me and profess your undying love! Just admit it! :bunny:

[jerbear]

I was driving in the passing lane on the internet and made a turn into an advice place on relationships.

 

Actually I found out that I've made some mistakes and gave up on that woman.

[Cobra_X30]

The question is ..........

 

What brought you here?

How did you find the shack?

What has kept you here?

 

My parents split up due to my mothers affiar. I always needed advice on how to handle it... nearly 9 years too late I come accross this site.

 

Way back in 05' I ran across a thread by DazednConfuzed, and followed it off and on for a year or so. I lurked until June of this year.

 

I'm not exactly sure why I am still here posting crap. I suppose its because Ive found people who care. Either that or my OCD!

[nittygritty]

A confusing and painful breakup led me to LS. My ex had sent me a Valentines card with a long letter inside, saying that he loved me for the first time. I didn't know what to make of it so I googled several statements regarding my ex's behavior and different posts from Loveshack kept coming up.

 

I read a few posts and then posted my question. Trialbyfire was one of the first responders and she was absolutely right.

 

I had never posted on a message board or forum before. I was hurting so much over my ex's behavior that I hadn't bothered reading the community guidelines. I made soooo many mistakes in the way that I responded to other posts for the first few months, until I got corrected by longtime members and a big infraction.

 

To all those I may have offended, I am sorry about that.

 

I continued posting because I found LS to be very therapeutic. Originally it kept me from responding or thinking about my ex and then I found it helped me when I was able to help someone else. There are many thought provoking posts and seeing other people's different views on many different issues helps me see and understand things that I may have not thought about before.

 

There are so many intelligent, funny and kind people giving really great advice on here, I would be an idiot not to keep reading and posting. I also agree with Riddler, I enjoy the humor that LS has.

[4givrnt4gtr]

I came in with another SN looking to see if my boyfriend's behavior at the time (now ex thank god) was normal and if i was being paranoid

(it WASNT normal and i WASNT paranoid)

Then you guys got me thru the break up, hating him/wanting him back/ohhh he got what he had coming/ im over him stages....

Then i got help about a very old issue i had with another ex who refused to leave my world...

Now im getting help going through a new relationship, I need all the help i can get since this whole dating/relationship thing is very brand new to me...(seriously, only been with four guys, two of which were less than 2 months...this last one is the second longest...woowoo for three months!!! hahaha )

I love the advice from all of you (even if i do sometime not take it....sorry, im stubborn like that ). And i love to help others with the little advice i have to give, given what ive learned with my whirlwind relationships with crazy guys

[Pyro]

Don't Lie Riddley Poo's, you came here to stalk me and profess your undying love! Just admit it! :bunny:

 

But I did that already and you turned me down.

[2sunny]

i found this site about two years ago when my 20 year marriage had ended when my xH cheated. i wanted to find answers as to his mindset that i could not fathom or talk to about anyone.

 

it has been a tremendous support.

 

sometimes just a bit of humor from the regulars really lifts my spirits. i love the water cooler section!

[Pyro]

i found this site about two years ago when my 20 year marriage had ended when my xH cheated. i wanted to find answers as to his mindset that i could not fathom or talk to about anyone.

 

it has been a tremendous support.

 

sometimes just a bit of humor from the regulars really lifts my spirits. i love the water cooler section!

 

I still get cravings for pot roast, along with with some whip cream and a cherry on top. All mixed together with a huge wooden spoon.

[Touche]

I still get cravings for pot roast, along with with some whip cream and a cherry on top. All mixed together with a huge wooden spoon.

 

Hee hee...you rang?

[2sunny]

i was THE cherry!

[Touche]

i was THE cherry!

 

Yep, and I was the one with the wooden spoon!

[madgun68]

Last year, at 37, I had entered my first serious relationship. (I had dated others, but never saw anything in them. Never really cared what happened and they usually ended early on.) We only dated for a couple of months, but I'd opened up to my EX as I never had to anyone before.

 

She was under a lot of stress at the time and needed to remove whatever sources of it she could. Easiest to remove was me. (I had been making a lot of dumb mistakes. Classics such as trying to figure out her needs by thinking about how I'd want her to meet my needs.. And generally being so afraid of screwing it up, that I wound up doing so anyway.)

 

Growing up, I had a step-mother I refused to accept and an emotionally distant father. As you can guess, finally feeling loved like that was not something I was able to let go of easily.

 

I found Love Shack one day when I was searching for definitions of unrequited love.

 

Why have I stayed? I decided quite some time ago that I would arm myself with enough information so that, when I did meet someone new, I would at least have enough knowledge to make it work. Maybe it won't last, and I'll still make mistakes here and there, but it won't be the simple stuff. (Not to mention the changes I needed to make on a personal level.)

 

So I stay to learn, to listen and to share. Who knows, maybe even make a friend or two in time.

[2sunny]

Yep, and I was the one with the wooden spoon!

 

i can't remember who the chocolate sauce was?????? was it a4a?

 

and who was the whipped cream? maybe tudor...

[Pyro]

i can't remember who the chocolate sauce was?????? was it a4a?

 

and who was the whipped cream? maybe tudor...

 

If my memory serves me correct............

 

2Sunny=cherry

Touche=Wooden Spoon

Luvtoto=Pot Roast

Riddler=Whipped cream or the chocolate sauce (I forget which one)

 

Lishy was in there as well. I forget what she was.

[Lishy]

I was the cherry on top of ya whipped cream! lololol

[riobikini]

re:

 

Lishy: "The question is ..........

 

What brought you here?

How did you find the shack?

What has kept you here?"

 

I guess I landed here just after you did, Lishy -I remember the "drive-by guy" that made your heart pound.

 

(Smile)

 

I came here to spill my guts over a worthless relationship with someone soooo wrong for me -and talked and talked until I convinced myself to get out of it.

 

Meanwhile, I became interested in the plights and situations of others who seemed worse off than me -and decided to stick around thinking that offering a few accounts of my own various experiences might just help someone -or at least, let them see that they weren't alone, and that for everything you experience there is someone who has had something similar happen to them that relates in some way.

 

And I agree with you -seeing people's lives turn around, straighten up, and become "liveable" again is both gratifying and inspirational.

 

Some may take longer, some may never "get it" -but so many more do!

 

I'm so glad to have run across this wonderful site!

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio

[Mezzi]

I came here because last year an older man is was dating was breaking my heart and not treating me as well as he should have.

 

Now I still visit to see what is going on in the lives of others and if I can post something to help some of them.

[Saxis]

I got my start on the Separation/Divorce section by Googling after my STBXW told me that she wanted to separate. 2 months later we filed divorce papers. Now I'm here to get help moving on with my life.