Is a Guy supposed to receive a email like this from his platonic female friend?

[DateAnalyzer]

"Hey sorry I haven;t had a chance to call you back. I've been really crazy busy. I will call you as soon as I get a chance."

 

 

 

 

Why do a platonic friend need a explanation as to why his call wasn't returned??-lol Me and her agreed that it would be better for us to be platonic friends? I swear women are so confusing, I never have to give a platonic friend a reason as to why they haven;t heard from me. That email was unexpected

[corazoncito]

I think you should just take it at face value. I occasionally do this with friends and family (especially family! ) when I'm really busy. It's my way of letting them know I'm thinking of them but don't feel I have the time to ring them up and have a conversation. Kind of lame, but it alleviates my guilt for a couple of days!

[directx]

No offense, but I think you read WAAAAAAAY to much into things. And I'm not just talking this thread.

[Touche]

It's called being courteous. I would say that to a female friend if she called and I didn't call back. I wouldn't read any more into it than that.

[birdie]

"Hey sorry I haven;t had a chance to call you back. I've been really crazy busy. I will call you as soon as I get a chance."

 

 

 

 

Why do a platonic friend need a explanation as to why his call wasn't returned??-lol Me and her agreed that it would be better for us to be platonic friends? I swear women are so confusing, I never have to give a platonic friend a reason as to why they haven;t heard from me. That email was unexpected

 

it's what women do, we are polite. If I forget to reply to a friend (male or female) or an ex for a few days, I'll let them know that I haven't forgotten them, I'm not ignoring them just got caught up in something.

 

not being patronising date but I think you have too much time on your hands. you must stop thinking about everything so much

[DateAnalyzer]

I'm just saying that I don;t need an explanation as to why someone didn;t call me back in 3 or 4 days because we are just friends.

[corazoncito]

Just think of courtesy as her peculiar personality quirk.

[birdie]

but she is a different person and she thinks differently from you. she wants to re-assure you

[Touche]

I'm just saying that I don;t need an explanation as to why someone didn;t call me back in 3 or 4 days because we are just friends.

 

But that's what good friends do.

[DateAnalyzer]

But that's what good friends do.

 

 

But before we made it official that we were going to be platonic friends, i didn't get that kind of email after our first date-lol But She is all of a sudden ms. courteous and sends it to me now which really doesn't make sense.-lol

[Touche]

But before we made it official that we were going to be platonic friends, i didn't get that kind of email after our first date-lol But She is all of a sudden ms. courteous and sends it to me now which really doesn't make sense.-lol

 

I don't get it. You mean you called her after your first date and she didn't call back and didn't give a reason? This isn't making sense to me.

 

Are you saying her behavior suddenly changed from not giving you a reason for not returning your call to suddenly giving one?

[directx]

Hey DA,

regardless of what she wrote and what you interpret, do you WANT this to be a platonic relationship or not?

 

If you do, so what? Who cares?

 

If you don't, are you hoping she is changing her mind?

 

Just wondering.

[Cobra_X30]

I don't get it. You mean you called her after your first date and she didn't call back and didn't give a reason? This isn't making sense to me.

 

Are you saying her behavior suddenly changed from not giving you a reason for not returning your call to suddenly giving one?

 

Dateanalretentivyzer, is perhaps a better moniker in this situation.

 

I can't remember the last time I met a girl that was'nt subject to occaisional behavior changes.

[DateAnalyzer]

I don't get it. You mean you called her after your first date and she didn't call back and didn't give a reason? This isn't making sense to me.

 

Are you saying her behavior suddenly changed from not giving you a reason for not returning your call to suddenly giving one?

 

 

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!-You won the grand prize. That's what I'm saying

[directx]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!-You won the grand prize. That's what I'm saying

 

Why don't you just ask HER?

Whats the worse that could happen?

[DateAnalyzer]

Hey DA,

regardless of what she wrote and what you interpret, do you WANT this to be a platonic relationship or not?

 

If you do, so what? Who cares?

 

If you don't, are you hoping she is changing her mind?

 

Just wondering.

 

 

It really doesn't matter to me, i'm a flexible guy. If she feels diffently if the future then it's fine if not, that's fine too

[DateAnalyzer]

Why don't you just ask HER?

Whats the worse that could happen?

 

 

ask her what?

[directx]

It really doesn't matter to me, i'm a flexible guy. If she feels diffently if the future then it's fine if not, that's fine too

 

I think it does matter to you because you posted this thread.

 

Are your relationships cursed with many unknowns and it just drives you nuts?

 

Its a common thing, so Im not throwing stones.

[Touche]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!-You won the grand prize. That's what I'm saying

 

So what are you getting at, that because you put her in the friend zone, she wants more with you now? Pure speculation on your part. As was pointed out, people don't always act the same way every single time.

 

Also, if she really wanted more with you, I imagine she would have called you back right away.

 

(So what's the grand prize?)

[DateAnalyzer]

I think it does matter to you because you posted this thread.

 

Are your relationships cursed with many unknowns and it just drives you nuts?

 

Its a common thing, so Im not throwing stones.

 

 

I just want to maintain a platonic mindset if that's how it's going to be. I to do things that people do when they are interested in dating them.

[directx]

I just want to maintain a platonic mindset if that's how it's going to be. I to do things that people do when they are interested in dating them.

 

Maintain a mindset? She just wrote you an email, so you write her back. Thats it. It shouldn't sit in your head another second.

 

Anybody here ever see that movie "Meatballs" (with Spaz and Fink). If so, anyone remember the Tennis Racket scene where Spaz throws his racket over the net by accident? If you have, anyone know where I'm going with this?

[whichwayisup]

"Hey sorry I haven;t had a chance to call you back. I've been really crazy busy. I will call you as soon as I get a chance."

 

 

 

 

Why do a platonic friend need a explanation as to why his call wasn't returned??-lol Me and her agreed that it would be better for us to be platonic friends? I swear women are so confusing, I never have to give a platonic friend a reason as to why they haven;t heard from me. That email was unexpected

 

Ever think she was just being considerate??? Nothing more, nothing less?

 

You are over thinking EVERYTHING and that is why nothing is actually happening...Just GO with the FLOW as it happens - If you plan it, it won't happen...If you go looking for it, it won't be there...Relax, gain some more self confidence, learn to be happy with WHO you are, and IT will find you.

 

The more energy you put 'out' there chasing skirts, trying to befriend women so forcefully, the more it will be out of your reach...

[directx]

Ever think she was just being considerate??? Nothing more, nothing less?

 

You are over thinking EVERYTHING and that is why nothing is actually happening...Just GO with the FLOW as it happens - If you plan it, it won't happen...If you go looking for it, it won't be there...Relax, gain some more self confidence, learn to be happy with WHO you are, and IT will find you.

 

The more energy you put 'out' there chasing skirts, trying to befriend women so forcefully, the more it will be out of your reach...

 

Or take the opposite approach! Put it ALL on the table!

Hire an orchestra and serenade her out her window! Send her flowers and chocolates and a blank wedding album with a note reading 'we can fill this up later' (chicks love that). Surprise her with airplane tickets for two!

 

I think what you need is an ANSWER, either way.

 

I mean, the unknowing has to kill you! It would me!

[whichwayisup]

I just want to maintain a platonic mindset if that's how it's going to be. I to do things that people do when they are interested in dating them.

 

I wish alpha was here...He'd know what to tell ya!

[DateAnalyzer]

Ever think she was just being considerate??? Nothing more, nothing less?

 

You are over thinking EVERYTHING and that is why nothing is actually happening...Just GO with the FLOW as it happens - If you plan it, it won't happen...If you go looking for it, it won't be there...Relax, gain some more self confidence, learn to be happy with WHO you are, and IT will find you.

 

The more energy you put 'out' there chasing skirts, trying to befriend women so forcefully, the more it will be out of your reach...

 

But why can't females do that when they are first meeting a guy? Instead they play games and don;t say anything. Now that I put it out there that we can be platonic friends, she feels the need to say I'm sorry i haven;t called you. I don;t think she would call a girlfriend and say-"Sorry brenda I haven't called you but I been busy". Wouldn;t she just say that when she talked to her the next time?