overanalytical Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Maybe it's not as bad as i'm making it out to be but my FIANCE is emailing a girl that he met last year, actually doesn't even really know her but they were emial buddies last summer. She contacted him this summer to 'catch up'. he doesn't know this but i can read his emails...he never signs out of his account so i don't think it's so bad i read them. anyways, i saw one this morning that he wrote her after he hadn't heard from her in a week. he just said 'what's up with ya?" and that was it. now she has a fiance as well and i've noticed they talk alot about what htey do for their fiances and plans and such but never anything more than that... should i be mad? should i look at it that this is just a friend and at least i'm mentioned?? and i'm actually mentioned in every email...never anything bad. she'l ask if i'm a goiong to be a good mother and he says yes and how well i take care of him. what's going on here?? is he just bored at work? (this is his work email, has it on at home too) any ideas/thoughts??? i'm definitely not confronting him about it and i will continue to read...ther's never been anytime where i think he's going after her or her either.
Citizen Erased Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 He knows that you know he is talking to her, right? Maybe you could suggest her and her fiance meet up with the two of you. See what his reaction is, and if it goes through, then their chemistry etc? Just a thought...
birdie Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 it's very clear that your fiance loves you, men that mention a woman all the time like this show strong commitment. I think he is entitled to having a friend from the opposite sex and if you have an issue with that then you should figure out why. I think it's wrong that you read his emails, I would never do that to anyone, not even my flatmate, let alone my fiance.
Tanaquil Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Sounds like there isn't anything inappropriate going on--just two friends chatting about life and the people they love. I am kind of curious as to why you feel the need to read his emails though. Off the top of my head I'm wondering if this might have something to do with the upcoming wedding? Are you nervous about it or anything?
popey Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I think he is doing what you are doing here. Conversing online. So what? The fact that a person is of the opposite sex doesn't negate their potential for innocent friendship, enlightment, debate, etc. right?
Author overanalytical Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 i know i know, i shouldn't read his emails...he leaves them up and i get drawn in...i'm going to stop. i'm glad no one came on here saying 'leave him' 'this is a red flag' i didn't think it was but once again i was over analyzing things. thanks!!
annabelle75 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 i know i know, i shouldn't read his emails...he leaves them up and i get drawn in...i'm going to stop. i'm glad no one came on here saying 'leave him' 'this is a red flag' i didn't think it was but once again i was over analyzing things. thanks!! Stop reading his email. Its wrong and you know it. If he finds out you could be in a lot of trouble. Have a little faith in him. He's a good guy and he loves you enough to marry you. Give him a little credit.
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