Pippi Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I'm 39 years old and have been flirting with a 30 year old male. I'm afraid to make a move as the age difference may be too much for me. Any thoughts as to what is an acceptable age gap? Thanks
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 9 years is nothing...trust me. Go for it! Never mind what other people think, it's YOUR life! ENJOY!!! :bunny:
IpAncA Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I don't think it's that bad of an age difference. It's not like your 40 and he's 25. Does he know how old you are? Maybe he doesn't care about the age thing.
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I'm 39 years old and have been flirting with a 30 year old male. I'm afraid to make a move as the age difference may be too much for me. Any thoughts as to what is an acceptable age gap? Thanks I like that name... Pippi... cute. My record was 31 yrs... LOL A guy I've been seeing for quite some time was 25 (30 yrs younger).. he got busted recently.. I miss him.
popey Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Lizzie, I definitely think you should enjoy yourself. If you said you were 29 and flirting with a 20 y/o, I really might feel differntly, but by the age of 30- if you hit it off... great, period! I really think you shouldn't give it a second thought... other then to think and rethink in positive indulgence/enjoyment that you may be a part of butting the trend of increased desirability being the sole possesion of aging men. (and of course, more importantly the fun, and/or more that your male interst might come to find together). Go for it, if your digging it. And if you are having apprehensions about what other people might think... I am thinking- I look forward to hearing good things!
popey Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 ooops... just realized i mistankenly addressed my response to Lizzie, was intended to respond to Pippi. but since i'm there, Lizzi, 31 yrs record? want to tell?
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 ooops... just realized i mistankenly addressed my response to Lizzie, was intended to respond to Pippi. but since i'm there, Lizzi, 31 yrs record? want to tell? I got this record last January in Cancun while on vacation... this stunning guy hit on me... I almost fell off my chair when he came to my table and said: Can I talk to you later?... OMG.. I just couldn't believe it... I thought he was an entertainer at the resort.. he was hot.. He was 23.. I was 54. To this date, he was the best 'trophy' I had, it was amazing. I like to close my eyes and 'replay' those 2 days... hummm So for Pippi... 9 years is nothing.. I say to all women who can have a younger guy GO FOR IT!!!! They are sooo much fun!
VinaAmez Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I don't know how you can do that big of an age difference. That's like doing someone young enough to be your son and him doing someone old enough to be his mom.
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I don't know how you can do that big of an age difference. That's like doing someone young enough to be your son and him doing someone old enough to be his mom. That's the youngest I would do... but I've been dating mostly much younger guys... I prefer them to guys my age. We don't think in terms of 'mom' and 'son' though... I don't anyway. It's a totally different level.
popey Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I have to admitt, that I'm "listening" to Lizzie with an unidentified emotion. and i'm thinking if she were a man: 1. I'd think - what's the story- typical. 2. dirty old man - grow up! and I have to be honest- I'm not feeling this same way about Lizzie. If this differntial is about a want for social equality- ok? and I'm sure this is some significant part of it. But I'm not sure that I can give myself the credit that this is ALL of it. Very good food for thought for me. Do I feel differently, b/c Lizzie's enjoyment of drasticly younger men encourages, rather than threatens me? OR, is my reation to Lizzy's choice how I ACTUALLY feel about romantic/sexual age differences generally- but for, the seige of age/sex inequality that has been so prevalent throughout our socialization?
birdie Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Pippi, I think you should go for it. A 30-year-old is old enough to match your experience, in theory he should be mature enough. Until recently I was involved with a guy who was much younger than me ('involved' because we broke up but kept in touch and tried to make up) and the reason why it didn't work is that we slipped into this 'young guy - bossy sister' pattern. I expected too much from him for his age as he was not assertive enough to handle our conflicts without games. So as long as you have a few things in common, can have a good time and you think you can discuss things with him maturely whenever the need arises then go for it! maybe he appreciates experience and a different world-view
stillafool Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I say go for it. 9 years is nothing. You are hardly old enough to be his mother. More and more women are dating and marrying younger men and are gloriously happy!!!
jcster Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I don't think it's that bad of an age difference. It's not like your 40 and he's 25. Ooh! Touche! 9 years isn't a big deal. You should go for it.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I have to admitt, that I'm "listening" to Lizzie with an unidentified emotion. and i'm thinking if she were a man: 1. I'd think - what's the story- typical. 2. dirty old man - grow up! and I have to be honest- I'm not feeling this same way about Lizzie. If this differntial is about a want for social equality- ok? and I'm sure this is some significant part of it. But I'm not sure that I can give myself the credit that this is ALL of it. Very good food for thought for me. Do I feel differently, b/c Lizzie's enjoyment of drasticly younger men encourages, rather than threatens me? OR, is my reation to Lizzy's choice how I ACTUALLY feel about romantic/sexual age differences generally- but for, the seige of age/sex inequality that has been so prevalent throughout our socialization?the natural order originally was for older women to mate with younger men, but not vice versa. it was turned around by culture, but in free socieites with all else being equal it starts to revert back to nature
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 the natural order originally was for older women to mate with younger men, but not vice versa. it was turned around by culture, but in free socieites with all else being equal it starts to revert back to nature can you 'back up' that statement? I find this weird... I would think that society is NOT starting to revert...it's quite the opposite actually...
directx Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 can you 'back up' that statement? I find this weird... I would think that society is NOT starting to revert...it's quite the opposite actually... yeah, I agree with Lizzie. It sounds like something burning 4 desire just made up or came to a conclusion on his own. Can you provide a link?
burning 4 revenge Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 can you 'back up' that statement? I find this weird... I would think that society is NOT starting to revert...it's quite the opposite actually... a man is horny younger, a woman is horny older and all a woman has to do is lie there, so it makes more sense to me
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 a man is horny younger, a woman is horny older and all a woman has to do is lie there, so it makes more sense to me Then don't say it is 'culture' and 'society' when it's YOU... You do not represent society here... sorry...but I still disagree with your statement, the way it was put...
kymberann Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Well I am 38 and with a 32 year old and I ain't just lieing there! I think there is some truth to it. I have not had this much great sex even when i was with my ex husband who was 13 years older than me!
Trialbyfire Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Once most people hit their thirties, there's not too much difference between thirties and forties. These are your high earning years and also the years you know yourself better. If you're both of similar maturity levels and goals, I say go for it. Stage of life versus age of life, once again.
Yamaha Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 9 years is nothing...trust me. Go for it! Never mind what other people think, it's YOUR life! ENJOY!!! :bunny: Now Lizzy, I saw you tell a guy that was 12 years older than a girl that it was to big of an age difference but if the women is 9 years older it's no problem. What gives?
stillafool Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 the natural order originally was for older women to mate with younger men, but not vice versa. it was turned around by culture, but in free socieites with all else being equal it starts to revert back to nature I like this theory. It makes so much more sense and I wish this were true. I can say all the younger men I dated made me much happier in all aspects than the men older than me.
Lizzie60 Posted August 27, 2007 Posted August 27, 2007 Now Lizzy, I saw you tell a guy that was 12 years older than a girl that it was to big of an age difference but if the women is 9 years older it's no problem. What gives? on the age of the persons... it also depends if they want a serious long-term relationships... I don't know about the example you're talking about (care to elaborate) but if this guy was 27 and she's 15, then yes he's too old for her...
Author Pippi Posted August 30, 2007 Author Posted August 30, 2007 Thanks everyone, I've decided to go for it. He does know my age and has no issue with it, so why should I. Should be fun.
Lizzie60 Posted August 30, 2007 Posted August 30, 2007 Thanks everyone, I've decided to go for it. He does know my age and has no issue with it, so why should I. Should be fun. Good for you! Let us know how it goes...
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