sedgwick Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I told him when he left me that that was it, I'd never sleep with anyone again. He said, "you'll find someone else," which was a huge insult to me, like he doesn't believe me that he's the last person I will ever love. It's been five weeks now, and I'm slowly trying to come to grips with the fact that, at 36, my sex life is over. I will never have sex again. I will never love again. He took all my love with him, and that was that. I'm trying to figure out what you do with yourself when you know, at a relatively young age, that you've had sex for the last time. I've been bellydancing a lot...hopefully that will work out the energy! But it's really tough knowing it's all over, forever. It's so sad watching other couples on the street, on the subway, on the bus, and knowing I don't ever get to play that game again. Even if I wanted to, there's no way I could ever love anyone but him, and there's REALLY no way I can ever trust anyone again.
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I told him when he left me that that was it, I'd never sleep with anyone again. He said, "you'll find someone else," which was a huge insult to me, like he doesn't believe me that he's the last person I will ever love. It's been five weeks now, and I'm slowly trying to come to grips with the fact that, at 36, my sex life is over. I will never have sex again. I will never love again. He took all my love with him, and that was that. I'm trying to figure out what you do with yourself when you know, at a relatively young age, that you've had sex for the last time. I've been bellydancing a lot...hopefully that will work out the energy! But it's really tough knowing it's all over, forever. It's so sad watching other couples on the street, on the subway, on the bus, and knowing I don't ever get to play that game again. Even if I wanted to, there's no way I could ever love anyone but him, and there's REALLY no way I can ever trust anyone again. Please cut the drama... You are indeed empowering him big time.. come one.. give your head a shake girl... no man on earth is worth a depression... You are waaayyy more important than him... plus you sound like a 16 yr old... come on... geezzz... you're 36... You're hurt and that's quite understandable...but trust me, in a year from now (or less) you'll look back at this post and laugh... and think... how ridiculous that post was. Move on... you think you'll never trust or love anyone... I bet you will.. mark my words.
Author sedgwick Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 I know it sounds dramatic...I know. But I really mean it. And I'm humiliated, y'know?
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I told him when he left me that that was it, I'd never sleep with anyone again. He said, "you'll find someone else," which was a huge insult to me, like he doesn't believe me that he's the last person I will ever love. If a guy would tell me that he will never sleep with anyone else again... I would think that he's quite pathetic and I would totally lose respect for him. I would see him as immature and insecure which is a real turn-off for me. He's right, you'll find someone else.... that's not an insult, that's the truth if you stop obsessing about him. Move on... go out with friends, visit your family... take care of yourself, get a new pair of shoes... a nice treat. No man/woman on earth are worth losing sleep over... trust me. No one has ever died over a heartbreak.
Author sedgwick Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 So you think that because I said that to him in the moments after he dumped me, he thinks I'm pathetic and I've totally ruined things with him forever?
guinea01 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I think its pretty normal to feel that you will never love anyone again, when you have just broken up with someone you felt was the love of your life. I feel like that at the moment too, even thinking about sex with someone else makes me feel ill. But Im sure it will pass, I dont know how long it will take for you to come to peace with it, and accept that you are able to love again, but it will happen. Just as I know that it will happen to me again.
Curious139 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Just a note of encouragement. What you are feeling is completely genuine and understandable. Guniea is right - allow yourself time to heal. I promise you will think differently in time but it won't be immediately. Browse some of the threads on here and you'll see how heart broken others can be - just like you. It is normal. Eventually you will come out of it. Keep busy, talk to friends and family. Exercise.
sharp2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I told him when he left me that that was it, I'd never sleep with anyone again. He said, "you'll find someone else," which was a huge insult to me, like he doesn't believe me that he's the last person I will ever love. It's been five weeks now, and I'm slowly trying to come to grips with the fact that, at 36, my sex life is over. I will never have sex again. I will never love again. He took all my love with him, and that was that. I'm trying to figure out what you do with yourself when you know, at a relatively young age, that you've had sex for the last time. I've been bellydancing a lot...hopefully that will work out the energy! But it's really tough knowing it's all over, forever. It's so sad watching other couples on the street, on the subway, on the bus, and knowing I don't ever get to play that game again. Even if I wanted to, there's no way I could ever love anyone but him, and there's REALLY no way I can ever trust anyone again. hi..look when you lose someone you gave your heart to and you loved beyond belief and then its all gone..god it can hurt..in fact it can make you believe so many things..I thought the same at one point..but over time you will heal..its taken me time to..but I know now, I will find love again, but this time it will be real..I thought it was last time, but I was blinded by her and she used that love in a way that eventually hurt me more than words can say..I've written a blog about my relationship with her and my life now..maybe you should do the same..its helped me..you will find love again and it will be better than you ever imagined......take care..
norajane Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 So you think that because I said that to him in the moments after he dumped me, he thinks I'm pathetic and I've totally ruined things with him forever? I'm sure he didn't believe that you, at 36 and someone who was obviously attractive and interesting enough for HIM to want to be with for a while, would have any trouble meeting other men who would also want to be with you. I don't know why you were insulted, except I guess, you think he's belittling the love you had for him by saying you would find someone else to fall in love with. In any case, none of this speaks to whether you and he would ever get back together. I don't think you can 'ruin' a relationship all on your own unless you cheated on him, which it doesn't sound like it. If he broke up with you, odds are he recognized you weren't right for each other in the long run, one way or another. You will get over your heartbreak. You will. You may not thinks so now, and that's fine, but humans are capable of an amazing ability to fall in love again and again when our hearts are open. One day, your heart will be open again to other people. So don't worry about not having sex with anyone ever again - that's hardly the least of your concerns and not a likely outcome. Spend time with your family and friends, and work on healing yourself. Belly dancing is great for that - makes you feel alive and beautiful!!
Lostgurl Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I know that right now it seems that you'll never love another again, but all you need is time. Those feelings will eventually fade.... you'll see some one that will catch your eye. Life will go on honey. You'll see. Just keep your self busy in the meantime. Cry, scream, get it all out. let yourself greive. But only for a little while. You'll get through this. We all do at one time or another.
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