Author uniqueone Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 It's the weekend and I'm feeling really depressed again. And I keep thinking of "Him". I should be over him and I'm not....in fact, I think it gets worse because now I'm not even angry anymore.
madgun68 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 It's the weekend and I'm feeling really depressed again. And I keep thinking of "Him". I should be over him and I'm not....in fact, I think it gets worse because now I'm not even angry anymore.Hi UniqueOne, Sorry to hear you're feeling down again. Do you really feel you are ready to meet someone new right now? I ask because I get the feeling that you're still seeing "Him" in the right light. As if you still see him for all his good qualities, but not for how horribly he treated you. (Or at least, the positives outweigh the negatives. Possibly too much.) This is just my opinion here, but until you are able to see this guy for what he really was, you're going to be making unfair comparisons with the men you are meeting and they just won't compare. The new guys will just seem like the leftover dregs.
directx Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 It's the weekend and I'm feeling really depressed again. And I keep thinking of "Him". I should be over him and I'm not....in fact, I think it gets worse because now I'm not even angry anymore. Well, there is no cure for that. What you might want to try this weekend is a brand new experience. Nothing too taxing, just different. Like visit a museum you never have, or go on a cave exploring trip, or even a hike. I think you might want to keep your brain occupied on something as much as possible, and new experiences definitly fit the bill. But everyone is different so I could be suggesting something totally off.
Author uniqueone Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 Hi UniqueOne, Sorry to hear you're feeling down again. Do you really feel you are ready to meet someone new right now? I ask because I get the feeling that you're still seeing "Him" in the right light. As if you still see him for all his good qualities, but not for how horribly he treated you. (Or at least, the positives outweigh the negatives. Possibly too much.) This is just my opinion here, but until you are able to see this guy for what he really was, you're going to be making unfair comparisons with the men you are meeting and they just won't compare. The new guys will just seem like the leftover dregs. I want to meet people because they'll make me forget him.
Author uniqueone Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 Well, there is no cure for that. What you might want to try this weekend is a brand new experience. Nothing too taxing, just different. Like visit a museum you never have, or go on a cave exploring trip, or even a hike. I think you might want to keep your brain occupied on something as much as possible, and new experiences definitly fit the bill. But everyone is different so I could be suggesting something totally off. I DO keep pretty busy which is good....I'm just not the type to lounge around. And I also have 4 guys who want to do something with me this weekend and who have left messages. But I don't want to do anything with them. I don't think I really click with them. (one being the therapist, one the musician, one the engineer and one the advertising exec.who declared his love for me after the second date a few months ago). I wish I could find someone that I click with. It wouldn't even matter if they were a date or not.....just someone to talk to or spend time with that I liked being around.
Tormented Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 Oh, Unique...THANK YOU for the good laugh! I most certainly need a good one today. You are so dead-on with the description of these men on dating sites. I could post a long list of, um...."INTERESTING" characters I've met in just the short time I've been on this site. Enough to drive a woman running for the convent and sporting a habit! So far, I'm not impressed. ~T~
livebuzzwords Posted August 25, 2007 Posted August 25, 2007 i am so sad today. i miss her so much. going thru this for a whole year has been really hard. i am sorry babe. just come back sometime, when u can.
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