sedgwick Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Hi all. Thank you so much for your responses to my first post. It really meant a lot to me that you took the time to reply. I'm the one whose boyfriend dumped her for not being a musician. We talked a week and a half ago, and he sent me an email a week ago today. It seems like the doors of communication are open, he said he still loves me and that when he's back in town in November we can see each other. (And see about the possibility of getting back together.) He maintains that the reason he broke it off is not because he needs to be with a musician as much as it is because he's going to be gone for three months. Two days after he emailed me (meaning over the weekend) I ran into a friend of his on the street, who said, "How are you? How's Joe?" And I had to say, "I don't know, he dumped me for not being a musician." So his friend said, "That's the lamest excuse I've ever heard. But knowing him, he may have been bumming in the back of his mind that you didn't play music the whole time." I was doing pretty well until then. But when his friend gave me the old, "You're going to be famous soon anyway with your book. This doesn't make you any less awesome in my eyes," all I could think was: a) he's saying that to console the pathetic dumped girl and b) Joe never told his friends he liked me because if he had this guy would have said something like, "What? He was so into you." So anyway, I sent him a text message that just said, "I love you" -- and then I blocked him from my phone and email without telling him I was going to. I just couldn't handle getting more depressed every day that I didn't hear from him. He has a week off starting this weekend, and we had planned to spend it together, and then he dumped me. So now I know he's probably not coming back to the city at all, and is off somewhere playing music instead, and that this, too, means he's not really that into me. Our relationship lasted almost a year, and he told me that it was the most special thing he'd ever had (while he was in it, that is.) But I just feel like, based on the way he's treated me, that in fact I was one of the least special women he'd ever known, because otherwise he wouldn't have just tossed me aside like that. It hurts to think he's not hurting. I have decided to run away for six weeks (Sept-Oct) by myself to write. I was thinking of just including him in a group email to say I'm going. Maybe I should just go and say nothing, and let him wonder where I am. I don't know. What do you think? I just want to regain some of my destroyed pride here. (Although I am still proud of myself that, even though I've sent him like five texts since we broke up five weeks ago, I haven't called him even once.)
kdaddy68 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 If you can do it that is great for you. In my situation I am trying to have the strength to do that. I am not going to contact her but it's hard to cut all the ties. Go concentrate on yourself.
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