popey Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I know guys in relationships who say they like to get together with guys sometimes and go to a strip club instead of just a regular bar. They claim its just different, but can't explain why. Saying- looking at the girls is a very low "extra" on the list" Is this true? if so? what is(are) the reason(s)?
Citizen Erased Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Why is it everyone assumes only men go to strip clubs? There are male strippers too! I would assume the reason men go to strip clubs is to look at naked women... because that is what is AT a strip club lol.
Krytellan Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Your friends are not being honest with you, girls are not "very low" on the list of extras. If I just wanted to hang with the guys and drink and talk, I wouldn't go to a strip club with a ridiculous cover charge and outrageously priced beer (except in PA).
Citizen Erased Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Your friends are not being honest with you, girls are not "very low" on the list of extras. If I just wanted to hang with the guys and drink and talk, I wouldn't go to a strip club with a ridiculous cover charge and outrageously priced beer (except in PA). I like that you know which state costs the least
Author popey Posted August 23, 2007 Author Posted August 23, 2007 actually I do know that they go to ones with no cover charge and cheap drinks.
Krytellan Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 where except there? PA is a BYO state. You bring your alcohol with you and pay a moderate cover charge to get in.
annabelle75 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I use to be really against my H or BFs going to strip clubs, until a couple of years ago a group of male friends took me to one for my birthday. They thought it would be funny. I ended up having a blast and we dropped about $300 on lap dances. I guess after going and seeing my male friends have a good time and realizing that the girls ususally just looked kind of bored I wasn't all that cocnerned by them anymore. Its a very man's man type of atmosphere and the girls stroke their egos. Of course guys like it, why wouldn't they? If my bf wanted to go to strip clubs all the time it would bother me, but the occasional trip with friends doesn't. In fact, I would volunteer to go with him.
Lizzie60 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I know guys in relationships who say they like to get together with guys sometimes and go to a strip club instead of just a regular bar. They claim its just different, but can't explain why. Saying- looking at the girls is a very low "extra" on the list" Is this true? if so? what is(are) the reason(s)? I would say that it's not always for the naked women... I've been to stip joints before and I was observing men... there are different types of guys that go to strip clubs: 1) some guys go for a beer after work... and all they do is talk about work... they barely look at the girls... 2) and you have those who are literally drooling over the girls... it's like they've never seen boobs before, these guys spend a lot of money for lap dances ... Like Annabelle said... it is really about ego boost... These girls are 'professionals' they know how to make big bucks... they like to make the guy believe he's hot and she likes him, blablabla...but all she really wants is his money... some guys are just too stupid to see that. LOL My last ex liked to go to strip clubs once in a while with the boys.. I didn't mind... I went with him a few times... I know they were the no. 1 type... just talk about work ..work...work and laugh and have a beer or two.. no big deal.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 PA is a BYO state. You bring your alcohol with you and pay a moderate cover charge to get in. oh, okay. well they're not all like that. the ones that are byob are usually the all nude ones; the ones that serve alcohol usually require at least nipple tassles and little panty-like...garments...
tinktronik Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Many times it is the men not having to persuee women thing I think that draws men to clubs . You don't have to partake, but its nice to not have to be the agressor.
jerbear Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 The women who goto the clubs and their associated others usually get some later! Kinda fun to see women perform a lap dance for another woman. It is no different than watching porn with friends, both men and women. yes, the men and their associated others usually get a room afterwards.
Carbine Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I use to be really against my H or BFs going to strip clubs, until a couple of years ago a group of male friends took me to one for my birthday. They thought it would be funny. I ended up having a blast and we dropped about $300 on lap dances. Cripes...and I thought MY birthday this year was bad!! . Were your friends unaware of how you felt about strip clubs at the time or were they just being a bunch of jerks? Out of curiosity, why were you originally so against SC's, and what was it about that one visit that changed your mind? Was it the coercion factor? The inebriation? A combination? Or was it something more concrete?
brownhairedgirl25 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Those bf dogs that go to strip clubs could be spending all of that money on you! I used to know a poor girl who had a bf that was too cheap to take her out to dinner but would blow his cash at strip joints. Pathetic if you ask me.
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Those bf dogs that go to strip clubs could be spending all of that money on you! I used to know a poor girl who had a bf that was too cheap to take her out to dinner but would blow his cash at strip joints. Pathetic if you ask me. Yes I agree, he was pathetic...but she was too...if she put up with him. I hope she kicked him to the curb.
tanbark813 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Many times it is the men not having to persuee women thing I think that draws men to clubs . You don't have to partake, but its nice to not have to be the agressor. This is a big reason, IMO. When a guy goes to a regular bar there's more work involved if he wants to socialize with the womenfolk. Some are nice, some are bitchy, he may get a number here, get rejected there, etc... Women out at bars tend to have their guard up pretty high for the most part, even if they aren't all that interesting or attractive. When you go to a strip club it's like having the cheat code for a video game. There's no bs involved. You can just sit there sipping your drink and you get to look at boobs and have pleasant conversations with hot girls without having to put forth any effort. It's a nice change of pace every once in a while.
jerbear Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 It's a nice change of pace every once in a while. Hey TB, Same time next month? :lmao: It is true that there is less effort involved with strip clubs. Just be there and pay the fees. No worries and the women go up to you. For some extras, just pay for it. I used to know a poor girl who had a bf that was too cheap to take her out to dinner but would blow his cash at strip joints. Pathetic if you ask me. That is so wrong, there are times to be cheap but the way he spends his money on strip clubs is yet to be desired. I wouldn't say pathetic but would say he has some priorities issues! Okay to spend money at strip clubs and the gf; there has to be a balance.
norajane Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I would say that it's not always for the naked women... I've been to stip joints before and I was observing men... there are different types of guys that go to strip clubs: 1) some guys go for a beer after work... and all they do is talk about work... they barely look at the girls... 2) and you have those who are literally drooling over the girls... it's like they've never seen boobs before, these guys spend a lot of money for lap dances ... Like Annabelle said... it is really about ego boost... These girls are 'professionals' they know how to make big bucks... they like to make the guy believe he's hot and she likes him, blablabla...but all she really wants is his money... some guys are just too stupid to see that. LOL My last ex liked to go to strip clubs once in a while with the boys.. I didn't mind... I went with him a few times... I know they were the no. 1 type... just talk about work ..work...work and laugh and have a beer or two.. no big deal. I'd add a #3, as explained to me by some of my friends who go to strip clubs on their business travels... 3) Power. They get off on the power of being able to 'make' women fawn over them for money.
Lizzie60 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I'd add a #3, as explained to me by some of my friends who go to strip clubs on their business travels... 3) Power. They get off on the power of being able to 'make' women fawn over them for money. I agree.. definitely.. this is a very good point... good place for the 'show-offs' LOL
tanbark813 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I like how the women decide they "know" how men think and then ignore any male input that doesn't coincide with their theories.
halfarock Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I never went to strip clubs until I met and fell in love with a woman who sometimes worked as a stripper. When she worked, sometimes I’d go in, and pretending to be just another customer, I’d sit and flirt with her. Made a difference for her, a big difference. It was part of the play that constituted our relationship. I came to see strippers as professional flirts. After we broke up, though we never really broke up, I found myself missing that type of interplay with a woman – flirting with a publicly naked woman. It is an interplay that doesn’t come up in normal interactions. So, odd as it seems, love was what first led me to go to a strip club. And, it is the lingering feelings of that love that drives any lingering interest in strip clubs.
underpants Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 3) Power. They get off on the power of being able to 'make' women fawn over them for money. I have been on this end. I think that is what it was. Some dudes offered me 200 dollars to serve them after I closed the bar. Of course I said yes. Then notified the security guard to give me 20 minutes. I served them and of course they wanted to give me more money to see my thong or ...whatever. I explained where there were strip clubs just blocks away. They wanted me to do it. Funny. I broke the mood by asking about their wives. One dude got mad (I had his money)...he was like "I love my wife". My response was ...maybe you should take these drinks I made for you and go to your room and call her and tell her that. On the BYOB clubs. I went to one of those once. I was like ...oh we won't be here long. I don't really think I need any drinks. It was a co-ed strip club. We went in and I immendiately said...there is not enough to drink. I tried to have a converation with this strange dude about cock rings and stuff. It was weird. I noticed a couple on a date that was even stranger (to me). I found myself in the bathroom with a trannie discussing perfumes and grooming practices.
tanbark813 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I found myself in the bathroom with a trannie discussing perfumes and grooming practices. See, dood, where else are you going to find that kind of entertainment?
directx Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I go see strippers so I can ogle the crap out of them and hope they bend over in front of me so i can take mental snapshots for when i get home. There is no power involved or any other crap. Im just eating them up with my eyes. I dont go to strip clubs anymore. too frustrating
directx Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I have been on this end. I think that is what it was. Some dudes offered me 200 dollars to serve them after I closed the bar. Of course I said yes. Then notified the security guard to give me 20 minutes. I served them and of course they wanted to give me more money to see my thong or ...whatever. I knew you were a hot little bunny! Not every girl is offered money to see your thong!
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