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Your height. What did you think I was talking about?

 

I don't know. Thats why I asked dork. I thought that they measured everyone without shoes.

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Remember the wrestler Andre The Giant? He stood over eight feet tall and he had some disease that kept making him grow and he died at an early age. (47)

Oh! Speaking of that. There was this show on TLC about over sized people and this guy was big all over. His heart was too big, legs really long, etc...

 

I felt sorry for that guy. Even his voice was giant like.

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I'd like to compare the life spans of horse jockeys next to basketball players

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I don't know. Thats why I asked dork. I thought that they measured everyone without shoes.

Wow that went over you head. WAY over.

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I'd like to compare the life spans of horse jockeys next to basketball players

I bet jocks would win.

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Wow that went over you head. WAY over.

 

I knew what you were implying when you asked me that question.;) Is that what you are talking about?

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I knew what you were implying when you asked me that question.;) Is that what you are talking about?

Yes I was.

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Yeah, whats up with the Hi, Im 4'9 and I only date guys 6+. Not that its ever slowed me down, but I still think that is just odd. Maybe it just seems that way because I'm not extrememly shallow.

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How did this become a thread about height????

 

Does anyone have any comments on the original topic?

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I know for me that I don't like big women. Therefore, I wouldn't go through the courtship period with a woman that was not within my preferred range of weight. So I see nothing wrong with getting that out up front. Everyone has their thing.

 

It's a luxury that people can afford on internet dating because if the person is not what they find to be attractive they can move on with little or no time invested/wasted. That's why it's so easy because no energy was expended in the process. Why is it so surprising to you. Wouldn't you move on quickly if a guy was significantly shorter than you wanted?

 

And yes, for some reason, people seem to think that they can lie horribly about their weight or other things and the other person won't notice or will "fall in love with them anyway" once they get to know them. I don't understand the point in lying and creating an image that doesn't exist. What do people hope to gain by that except hurtful rejection?

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when I was on my dating/meeting rampage about 4 years ago for 2 years, I met tons of men... and there are just as much lying about the appearance on the men's side. They mostly lie about their height.

 

I heard that a lot that women were lying about their weight. I think it's true.

 

I don't see the point in lying about the weight, and general appearance...people are going to meet ... duh!

 

So why make someone waste their time. It happened so many times that I was specific about what I was looking for... I am short BUT I like tall guys... so if I say I prefer tall guys then meet the guy and he's 5'8... arrrrghhh I used to be so pissed because he made me waste my time.

 

WTF??? I don't see the point.

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How did this become a thread about height????

 

Does anyone have any comments on the original topic?

 

Well, for the record. I'm kind of situational on weight. If your morbidly obese... ummmm... we might be friends. However, Ive been known to date some thicker girls. I like to think Its because Im not a shallow person.

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I know for me that I don't like big women. Therefore, I wouldn't go through the courtship period with a woman that was not within my preferred range of weight. So I see nothing wrong with getting that out up front. Everyone has their thing.

 

It's a luxury that people can afford on internet dating because if the person is not what they find to be attractive they can move on with little or no time invested/wasted. That's why it's so easy because no energy was expended in the process. Why is it so surprising to you. Wouldn't you move on quickly if a guy was significantly shorter than you wanted?

 

And yes, for some reason, people seem to think that they can lie horribly about their weight or other things and the other person won't notice or will "fall in love with them anyway" once they get to know them. I don't understand the point in lying and creating an image that doesn't exist. What do people hope to gain by that except hurtful rejection?

 

Why do you assume I'm more concerned about a guys height than I am his weight? I'd rather have a short, fit guy than a tall, heavy guy any day.

I guess what I'm saying is....why do we keep talking about mens height here and no one is talking about men's weight? Just wondered.

 

Anyway, I agree that women shouldn't lie about their weight--especially saying that they're fit and toned when it looks like they've never worked out a day in their life.

 

However, what bothers me is the obsession men seem to have with thinness. And people wonder why we have so many celebrities (and regular women) who are starving themselves?

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Why do you assume I'm more concerned about a guys height than I am his weight? I'd rather have a short, fit guy than a tall, heavy guy any day.

I guess what I'm saying is....why do we keep talking about mens height here and no one is talking about men's weight? Just wondered.

 

The point was women can be just as superficial as men, just about different things.

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The point was women can be just as superficial as men, just about different things.

 

AMEN TO THAT!

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The point was women can be just as superficial as men, just about different things.

 

I agree. I have seen many pesonal ads where men specify about weight and women specify about height. I have also seen men specify height as I guess if they aren't particularly tall they don't want a GF who towers above them.

 

I certainly wouldn't specify about a guys weight but wouldn't be sexually attracted to someone shorter than me (I'm 5'7"). Neither would I even dignify a guy who specified a certain weight with a response to his ad, but that's probably because I have more hang-ups about body image. I'm a decent weight at the moment but have been known to fluctuate. I don't see the point in lying about it either. The last thing I would want is to turn up on a blind date and for the guy to think, "I'm not dating you, you fat b*tch!" Not very good for self-esteem! :D

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I certainly wouldn't specify about a guys weight but wouldn't be sexually attracted to someone shorter than me (I'm 5'7"). Neither would I even dignify a guy who specified a certain weight with a response to his ad, but that's probably because I have more hang-ups about body image.

 

Alright, i am going to get flamed for this, but this is the honest truth.

Thanks to viewing tons and tons of Internet porn, I can honestly say I have ZERO hangups on such minor physical attributes such as 'height', hair color, breast size, and even weight! (to a point. I cant be attracted to morbidly obese or boney skinny).

I even love freckles now.

 

But because I have viewed so much porn, I have learned to appreciate all aspects of women: short, tall, all color hair, thin, chunky, etc. And I cannot even name a race of people that does not have attractive women.

I am open to beauty and all the variety and differences that make women unique.

 

So this exposure to such media has really shown me that there is beauty in most everyone, and allowed me to see beauty where it was not apparent to me before...

 

So thank you Internet porn!

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Alright, i am going to get flamed for this, but this is the honest truth.

Thanks to viewing tons and tons of Internet porn, I can honestly say I have ZERO hangups on such minor physical attributes such as 'height', hair color, breast size, and even weight! (to a point. I cant be attracted to morbidly obese or boney skinny).

I even love freckles now.

 

But because I have viewed so much porn, I have learned to appreciate all aspects of women: short, tall, all color hair, thin, chunky, etc. And I cannot even name a race of people that does not have attractive women.

I am open to beauty and all the variety and differences that make women unique.

 

So this exposure to such media has really shown me that there is beauty in most everyone, and allowed me to see beauty where it was not apparent to me before...

 

So thank you Internet porn!

don't look at the transexual porn, you don't want your horizons to be too broad. that's all i'll say here
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Alright, i am going to get flamed for this, but this is the honest truth.

Thanks to viewing tons and tons of Internet porn, I can honestly say I have ZERO hangups on such minor physical attributes such as 'height', hair color, breast size, and even weight! (to a point. I cant be attracted to morbidly obese or boney skinny).

I even love freckles now.

 

So this exposure to such media has really shown me that there is beauty in most everyone, and allowed me to see beauty where it was not apparent to me before...

 

ROFL... DirectX, man thats awesome. Yeah... its whats inside that counts right? :laugh:

 

I had a friend from Russia. The guy used to tell me that all women are beautiful. I always figured... yeah if youve been in prison for a couple years... I suppose thats true.

 

Once I got older I kind of understand what he meant.

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don't look at the transexual porn, you don't want your horizons to be too broad. that's all i'll say here

 

Each to their own, but yeah, it stops at the women.

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ROFL... DirectX, man thats awesome. Yeah... its whats inside that counts right? :laugh:

 

That is so true! Thats why I think the preferred way to meet someone is text/chat first, then seeing the physical.

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That is so true! Thats why I think the preferred way to meet someone is text/chat first, then seeing the physical.

 

Interesting... I do it the exact opposite. Usually I meet someone in person first, then switch to some kind of electronic media.

 

I find that I'm ok, in this format... but you dont get the full force of my personality, so I really try to balance the two.

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Interesting... I do it the exact opposite. Usually I meet someone in person first, then switch to some kind of electronic media.

 

I find that I'm ok, in this format... but you dont get the full force of my personality, so I really try to balance the two.

 

 

And that may actually be the better way. But if someone decides right away that 'I don't like short guys' they may never give him the chance, and he may be a really cool guy.

I bet she would overlook this requirement if she got to knew him and actually clicked. I bet MANY people could find people they click with that they never considered because they limit themselves to the physical first.

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But you know, this whole weight thing makes me a bit self-conscious, even though I'm in good shape. I don't know if it's because these guys are in good shape that they're that way. I have to admit that I DO pick men who are fit. And true, I'm not attracted to overweight people either. But to me---and maybe this is just my impression---it seems that the men dismiss the overweight woman entirely. I wouldn't dismiss an overweight man entirely. Chances are, I wouldn't be physically attracted to him and we wouldn't have much in common since I'm very active in physical activities, but I'd still get to know him and enjoy his company...and maybe end up friends with him, if he'd want to.
To be honest, I've never tried things like online dating, but I have met folks that I've met on the internet out in the wild. I can see where this might become an issue for people.

 

If a person isn't completely honest with their physical attributes, they're going to be attracting people that, ultimately, aren't going to be attracted to them.

 

It is possible that these guys have been running in to this, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that with certainty. I have seen profiles of people who aren't completely honest with their weight. (Not to mention you can use a camera to disguise features just as well as show them off.)

 

Then again, your ad on the personals might just be attracting men who find this more of an issue than other guys would too.

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And that may actually be the better way. But if someone decides right away that 'I don't like short guys' they may never give him the chance, and he may be a really cool guy.

I bet she would overlook this requirement if she got to knew him and actually clicked. I bet MANY people could find people they click with that they never considered because they limit themselves to the physical first.

 

Naw, I have a better chance of getting someone interested in person first. Here is why. Online: she says how tall are you... I say 5'10... she responds sorry Im 4'10" only date guys 8 feet and up. Now she says that because she doesnt want to waste her time with someone she doesnt "think" she will be attracted to.

 

I meet the exact same girl in a grocery store. I'm going to walk out with her contact info. She knows exactly what I look like, and can now make a fully informed choice as to whether I am physically attractive to her.

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