yergawd Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Have you done or would you ever keep a wedding ring from a previous marraige? My GF did and it's a beast of a ring! I'm talking a pound of gold and two ponds of diamonds. It can only be worn as a wedding ring, so it's not like she can wear it for any other reason. If you remember from other posts her XH was very physically abusive. And I found WalMart style portraits and a love letter she was keeping. (which she got rid of or at least put in a place where I'm not likely to come across them)
jcster Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 The ex wife keeps the wedding ring. Just consider it a consolation prize. Back in the day, it was one of the only items of wealth that a woman was allowed to own. You got her to put the pictures and lingerie away - can't she keep the diamonds?
Author yergawd Posted August 23, 2007 Author Posted August 23, 2007 Jcstr- I don't care honestly. The way I see it Why though? You cannot wear it again and if it sits in the jewelery box what good does it do? And why keep a wedding ring from a failed marraige? I just think it's weird. Me, I hocked mine three weeks after being separated.
curiousnycgirl Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 If it had any value, I would take it to a jeweler and sell it!
Capricciosa Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I eventually lost mine. Didn't have a cluster of diamonds, but if it did, when I was ready, I might sell it. But in my own time. I'm glad she hid the photos/lingerie, but really, she' got to do things in a timeline that makes her, not you, comfortable. This is just an extension of your previous problem if you ask me. Once she gets rid of the ring, what will you need her to get rid of next? And if she's doing it just to please you, do you really think that means she healed or over it? You could stand to be a bit more open about this. Has she gotten counseling for the abuse, by the way? This might make a difference for both of you.
IpAncA Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Jcstr- I don't care honestly. The way I see it Why though? You cannot wear it again and if it sits in the jewelery box what good does it do? And why keep a wedding ring from a failed marraige? I just think it's weird. Me, I hocked mine three weeks after being separated. No it's not werid to want to keep it. I would keep mine also. To some women the ring means a lot or like to keep it for whatever reason.
Star Gazer Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I don't know if I think it's weird, to be honest. If I were her, I wouldn't sell it, but I'd probably have it melted down and made into something else.
dropdeadlegs Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I still have both of my wedding rings. I don't wear them, or ever intend to. I plan to give them to my daughters (one from each marriage) one day. Mine are not valuable enough to get much money by hocking them. If they had large diamonds, or a large solitaire, I would probably have them made into earrings or a nice pendant for myself. I don't own much in the way of expensive jewelry and I guess I have kept them for that reason, too. They are the only diamonds I have.
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