zilverenvlinder Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 So, if you are familiar with my tale of woe, my Ex Fiance Cheating Lying Son of a Bitch who had his Poker Face on during our entire relationship is no longer around. And, congratulations to me if you will, I have not checked his MySpace since...gasp...Monday! Yes, Monday. And it is Wednesday. That's an entire 48 HOURS. Now that the clapping has died down, I have a question. There is a gorgeous hunk of man that I see in our (huge) office building every day at approximately 1:30 pm in the smoking area. So far, our contact has been limited to eye contact. GOOD eye contact, mind you. I don't know this guy's name. I don't know what area he works in. I don't even know what FLOOR he works on. First Question... is it too early? Well, strike that. I'm all for just getting laid, seeing as I still feel pretty inadequate and ugly. How am I supposed to talk to this dude? How?! I'm baffled. Am I supposed to be slick about it? Or am I supposed to not approach him at all? <3 Z
jcster Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 You could bum a smoke off of him. That will give you a chance to check him out without having to let on you might be interested.
quankanne Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 be casual, but use a lot of eye contact and body language that suggests that you're open to a potential relationship. Okay, maybe not back to the same level of commitment you left, but that you're definitely interested in the guy. who knows? if he's an open honest sort, he might not have problems with a casual friends-with-benefits relationship go get them tiger, and don't let the azzwipe make you feel inferior. In fact, do a search for Maya Angelou's "Phenomenal Woman" poem and let that be your guide.
Author zilverenvlinder Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 That's a good idea, jcster. The thing is, I don't want to look like a cheap ass. So if I just said, "Hey, I'm sorry, I left my cigarettes in my car, could I bum one of yours? I owe you one," would that sound decent?
Author zilverenvlinder Posted August 22, 2007 Author Posted August 22, 2007 LOL. I HAVE read that, quankanne, but I will probably have to go read it again. It's been about 500 years since.
wwjd Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 glad to see you in better spirits, Z. my only advice would be to take it slow. while what your did to you is atrocious and should make you want to obliterate his every memory, it doesn't necessarily make the pain much less hurtful. take some time to, as they say, let your heart heal and recover. if you don't, it might make future relationships a little more difficult. but you should have fun, though. try not to think of , and instead try to have fun meeting new people in general. about the smokes: i'd ask him for a light instead. i think that would be better, especially if you pretend like you're actually looking for your lighter in your purse/pockets, but can't find it. go up to him and ask something like, "hey, do you by any chance have a lighter on you? i forgot mine!" or something like that. i think this is more, uh, well, easier. good luck!
underpants Posted August 22, 2007 Posted August 22, 2007 Z, You're funny. I like that. Go girl, 48 hours. I am 7 months dry. Even when mutual friends told me there was stuff on there about me. Be strong and be gone. It does get easier. Now about this stud muffin. I like wwjd's suggestion. That is a good approach. You can ask him all kinds of things during your break. You can say. "Hey, I have noticed you. My name is (most beautiful woman you will ever know) and you are...?" Then proceed with small talk then maybe end it with "It was nice meeting you." Just don't get into anything too fast or where there could arise a conflict (work romance). However if he is on a lost floor and there are multiple exits. I say have fun and go for it.
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