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Why is it not ok to laugh a lot when trying to make a romantic connection?

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That's probably another one of my reason why I hate dating because I have to turn into this cool guy and play the macho role and be real serious. But when i say make her laugh, i'm not talking about being GOOFY, just being able to make her laugh in a non-chalant way like I do with the people I already know.

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I think you're trying waaaayyy to hard and putting on an act, and because of that, it's not working. Man, you need to relax, go with the flow and BE yourself. Women don't like it when a guy pours it on and tries to be the cool dude, and all macho. You WILL NOT get a second date if you do that.

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You will get a second date if you can make her laugh, therefore relax. I've never met a woman that didn't like to laugh.

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I think you're trying waaaayyy to hard and putting on an act, and because of that, it's not working. Man, you need to relax, go with the flow and BE yourself. Women don't like it when a guy pours it on and tries to be the cool dude, and all macho. You WILL NOT get a second date if you do that.

 

 

But why is a lot a laughter never good when trying to make a romantic connection? i really need to know this

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What do you mean? Who told you that you can't laugh. Are you having a hard time being serious?

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If the romantic connection is there, it's there. The laughing will only make it stronger. But, if it isn't there, it will just put her off.

 

Just don't become someone you're not. If you try too hard, it will show. Someone who tries to be real funny ends up not being funny at all...

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I have heard over the years that me and girl laughed so much that she felt more a friend vibe and not a romantic vibe. This was before we met face to face

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I have heard over the years that me and girl laughed so much that she felt more a friend vibe and not a romantic vibe. This was before we met face to face

 

How many times, exactly, have you heard this?

 

It sounds like you are way, way overgeneralizing from a few experiences. Might be more useful to share what kinds of things you've joked about that have resulted in the friend vibe. It could be that the type of humor you're using could be the issue, not the fact that you're using humor in general.

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I'm sorry but laughing doesn't mean there's no romantic vibe. Shoot I laugh all the time. What does that mean? Nothing.

 

Sounds like that girl was werid.

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But why is a lot a laughter never good when trying to make a romantic connection? i really need to know this

 

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News to me.

 

I have heard over the years that me and girl laughed so much that she felt more a friend vibe and not a romantic vibe. This was before we met face to face

 

That was one person.

 

Laughing and ability to goof around is an ABSOLUTE prerequisite in my book.

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Laughter is one of the greatest gifts that you can bestow on anyone. My best relationships have been full of laughter and fun. If you can laugh while you're making love sometimes, it just helps to add to the positive side of things. Sharing laughter with a partner, is sharing intimacy.

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I'd be worried if you didn't laugh in the relationship.

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I wasn't sure if i was supposed to tell sexual jokes.

IpAncA Established Member

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I wasn't sure if i was supposed to tell sexual jokes.

What? DA I'm lost here. What the heck is going on here to make you think this. Please give an example or something.

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It depends on how it's delivered and at what point in your relationship. You want to laugh with her, not snigger...

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Laughing and a good sense of humor is one of the most sexy things I can think of. It is in my top 5 things I seek in most of my relationships.

 

I don't need a stand up comic, nor do I need a complete stick in the mud. Something in between.

 

I graviatate to folks that can see the humor in a myriad of situations. Not that all things shoud be taken light heartedly however, it does help to see the funny in the midst of the absurd sometimes.

 

Someone who can laugh at themselves. Well, that is just Hawt.

 

The sex jokes are not always found to be so jovial. On first dates this could come off as a little creepy. I would save flogging bacon strip fantasies or seafood foot fetish funnies until after a little more of a connection is formed.

 

Definately loosen up and laugh a little. The point of dating is to have fun and laughing should be included as part of that.

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Laughter is one of the greatest gifts that you can bestow on anyone. My best relationships have been full of laughter and fun. If you can laugh while you're making love sometimes, it just helps to add to the positive side of things. Sharing laughter with a partner, is sharing intimacy.

 

 

I definitely agree. If there is no laughing going on in a relationship I would say it is doomed.

 

Most people like to laugh anyway. It's a great stress reliever.

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I wasn't sure if i was supposed to tell sexual jokes.

 

Well I guess it depends on what you mean by sexual jokes. If you throw in a little cute dirty reference/quip every once in a while that is GENUINELY FUNNY, then I guess that's okay. I wouldn't do it that much though or you'll look like a weirdo. Now you need to just feel her out on her type of humor before you do this. Some people get uncomfortable about sexual humor.

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Dude - Just be yourself.

If some chick doesn't like you for that, then....NEXT!

Don't try to force it.

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I have heard over the years that me and girl laughed so much that she felt more a friend vibe and not a romantic vibe. This was before we met face to face

 

That probably has more to do with how she felt about you in general, more than anything you did to make her laugh. Some women will use pretty much any excuse to get out of dating a guy they aren't into without looking like a bitch in the process.

 

There is nothing out there that says that making a girl laugh is a turn off. I guess it depends mainly on what type of humor you are trying. Sex, race, and class snobbery jokes are a turn off, unless she is Sarah Silverman or something. I wouldn't even go there otherwise.

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That's probably another one of my reason why I hate dating because I have to turn into this cool guy and play the macho role and be real serious. But when i say make her laugh, i'm not talking about being GOOFY, just being able to make her laugh in a non-chalant way like I do with the people I already know.

You sound like you are trying to be someone that you are not.

 

I think that you are trying too hard. Just be yourself. You are the only person that you can be, if you have patience and you'll find someone that you'll hit it off with naturally.

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DA I really dont know why dating is so hard for you! Its not like you over think things is it!

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YOu have a better chance of finding the best person for you if you are just yourself. It can be hard to find, but its out there

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